Do you give the ring back ?

[Spanglerdoo]

Ok guys ,heres the dilema

I received an engagement ring (even though i said it would take at least 2 years to go through with it ) So its only been 2 months now and i'm starting to think we are better off as friends .So should i keep the ring or give it back ? it is very expensive .. so im kinda stuck in the middle of temptation

 

[woodee]

I think the proper thing to do is return the ring.

 

[a 1 player]

Personally, I would give it back. The ring is a sign of commitment; if he thought there was going to be no commitment, he probably would not have bought the ring to begin with.

 

[Moraff]

As you are the one thinking of breaking the engagement I would offer to return the ring.

 

[phail]

return it and tell him how you really feel

 

[hunter001]

I should know better then to reply to these threads.

we are better off as friends .So should i keep the ring or give it back ?

What was the question? You just want to screw over the person that said he love you?



You appear to be a class act, go sell it to Russel "The Cash Man" Oliver.

 

[gramage]

if your the one ending it you pretty much have to give the ring back

 

[Cycleguy007]

Why am I not surprised by your answer Hunter...

Spanglerdoo... have a sit down chat with the guy, tell him how you feel and offer him the ring back. Depending on his situation, he may not want it back... but at least let him make that choice.

Just my nickles worth.

(oh... and what happened to your sig pic????)

 

[Danolo]

When in doubt tell the truth.

Or, if you are trying to decide what to do, and there are two possible ways to handle something, the hard way is the right way.

I suspect you will not remain friends, but you will always have his respect if you do the right thing. And, you will also have self respect.

I also suspect that if you keep and sell the ring, the money you get from it will not give you any pleasure.

I think the first thing you do is put the ring in his hand and tell him the truth. Cycleguy, Moraff, I think "offering" to return it is the easier softer way and gives Spanglerdoo the opportunity to weasel out of actually returning it.

Spanglerdoo, if you do the right thing here, you will like yourself a lot more in the end.

Just my opinion.

 

[Malibook]

This claim comes up often on Judge Judy and the ring is always returned regardless of who calls it off.
If the woman would not or could not return it the man is awarded a judgment for the cost of the ring, even if he is the one who pulls the plug.

If the marriage only lasts a day then the engagement ring can be kept but if there is no marriage an engagement ring should be returned.

 

[patton]

i called off the engagement once - i did not ask for the ring back.
if the woman breaks off the engagment in your circumstance offer the ring back.
decent thing to do.
who knows you still may get back together.

 

[hungry]

Ok guys ,heres the dilema

I received an engagement ring (even though i said it would take at least 2 years to go through with it ) So its only been 2 months now and i'm starting to think we are better off as friends .So should i keep the ring or give it back ? it is very expensive .. so im kinda stuck in the middle of temptation

IMHO, if you were married and you split, its yours. If you dump him before the wedding you should offer to return it. Obviously, by you asking here on Terb, you know the right thing to do is to return it. Trust me, you will sleep better knowing you did the right thing. Who knows, he might tell you to keep it.

 

[Never Compromised]

Give the ring back and tell him why.

 

[hunter001]

Cycledude this chick is all about the drama...on terb and other boards. Try looking up some her post history.

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=212244

Is there anyone that can recommend a good lawyer


Where do we draw the line when you tell a police officer someone is following you chasing us for us to be exact ...........and they arrest you with racists comments because of my last name ............try to take kids .......... and split up my loving family and throw in a hospital and try to ruin you

Don`t get started on the Alexis6969 stuff. lol

 

[diverdown]

Ok guys ,heres the dilema

I received an engagement ring (even though i said it would take at least 2 years to go through with it ) So its only been 2 months now and i'm starting to think we are better off as friends .So should i keep the ring or give it back ? it is very expensive .. so im kinda stuck in the middle of temptation

I actually think contract law comes into place. (or maybe that's in the U.S)

The engagement ring is part of a verbal commitment/contract to go forward and enter into an actual marriage commitment/contract. Ending the commitment/ya same thing here as last two, means not going forward and therefore not having right to the ring.

Any lawyers here know if this in fact is true in Canada?

Either way, go with what pedal plower (cycleguy) said. Seems the best honest and straight forward course of action.

 

[Moraff]

I think the first thing you do is put the ring in his hand and tell him the truth. Cycleguy, Moraff, I think "offering" to return it is the easier softer way and gives Spanglerdoo the opportunity to weasel out of actually returning it.

Sorry don't follow you here.... She goes to her fiance and says that she no longer wants to be engaged to him, would he like the ring back? He either says yes or no.... where's the weaseling come into play?

 

[Spanglerdoo]

I should know better then to reply to these threads.

What was the question? You just want to screw over the person that said he love you?



You appear to be a class act, go sell it to Russel "The Cash Man" Oliver.

save the drama fo your mama hunter
what a way to show me how much you miss me lmao




Obviously i want to do the right thing cause i do still care for him i'm not sure if we are soulmates though

All the woman i ask say keep it lol
and all you men say give it back thus the reason i needed a mans point of view .So now i dunno what to do cause i have been seeing him off and on for 3 years .

 

[patton]

i dont think this is a legal issue.
but it was a gift and u can legally keep it and you dont have to pay tax on it.
gift tax is different in US.

 

[Moraff]

Hunter what a way to show me how much you miss me rolleyes

Obviously i want to do the right thing cause i do still care for him i'm not sure if we are soulmates though

All the woman i ask say keep it lol
and all you men say give it back thus the reason i needed a mans point of view .

If you had been engaged for many years perhaps there would be some merit in the advice to keep it, but you were only engaged for about 2 months. Price of the ring is irrelevant IMO, he gave you the ring as a pledge of the commitment the two of you made to each other. You are ending that commitment ergo you should return the ring.

 

[Danolo]

Sorry don't follow you here.... She goes to her fiance and says that she no longer wants to be engaged to him, would he like the ring back? He either says yes or no.... where's the weaseling come into play?

Well, maybe I'm wrong....but if the guy's in love and is being told he's not loved by Spanglerdoo he's going to be under a bit of stress and may, in the pain of the moment, say, "keep it", when on sober second thought he may regret doing so.

Returning it right away and not allowing him to say "keep it" is the right thing to do. Taking advantage of his distress is a clear weasel in my opinion.