Tough question. If you have a willing civilian partner that might have less experience but is "trainable" ( had a young lady tell me that back in the day--oodles and oodles of fun that one) then it will work. The ex-wife was a great BJ expert and looked me in the eye when I dropped my load in her mouth and swallowed with a smile. Life then got in the way, and it did get very mechanical, although she never said, "not tonight, I have a headache."
With an SP you can ask her limits up front, and know where the arrangement stands. For example, my first greek experience was with a drunken sorority girl (I was too) and we both hit it off at the kegger and left the party. Short version, things went incredibly well that night. Fast forward to the next week walking across campus, she smiled and said "hi" but kept on truckin' (one of my first experiences with the infamous "one night stand"). I can call an SP and get that menu item, if permissible, on a continual basis. Heck I've paid the extra sometimes, but just never got around to it, but it was already there if I wanted it.
Bottom line, looking for LT "love" with your sexual experiences but a limited menu, civilian. Looking for that freaky stuff when ever you want it, and "love by the hour," contact the SP.