Dead beat parent?

[nobody123]

Why should she reap the benefits of parenthood without having to work? And to any woman who says that raising kids is work, just tell her that he will get the kids while she gets a job. She will immediately make it clear that she is not getting a job.

Spoken like someone who has never taken much of a hand in raising a family. Setting aside the fact that, in most of these cases, the woman has put her career aside and missed years of training, development, and promotion because someone had to take care of the kids (usually her by default), and therefore he's more likely to be the "breadwinner" with a well-developed career and she's more likely to have a hard time finding work with her outdated skillset - do you really think it's a fucking treat to be elbow deep in diapers and starved for adult conversation and company? You don't think it's real "work" to cook, clean, do dishes and laundry for a group of people? You honestly don't think she'd find it easier to sit on her ass checking Facebook and TERB all day or whatever the fuck it is you do at your job?

 

[freedom3]

Spoken like someone who has never taken much of a hand in raising a family. Setting aside the fact that, in most of these cases, the woman has put her career aside and missed years of training, development, and promotion because someone had to take care of the kids (usually her by default), and therefore he's more likely to be the "breadwinner" with a well-developed career and she's more likely to have a hard time finding work with her outdated skillset - do you really think it's a fucking treat to be elbow deep in diapers and starved for adult conversation and company? You don't think it's real "work" to cook, clean, do dishes and laundry for a group of people? You honestly don't think she'd find it easier to sit on her ass checking Facebook and TERB all day or whatever the fuck it is you do at your job?

I have 673 posts since 2004. You have 717 since 2012. Who sits on TERB all day?

As I said, just ask the woman in your example if she would like to switch roles with her husband. She will give you a resounding no. That's not because she has the worse "job".

 

[Capital Amatuer]

this is WRONG
the Insurance companies are ONLINE with the Ministry of Transportation and the cops can ABSOLUTELY verify current insurance coverage during a roadside stop. They actually have the licence plate scanner now too that can identify from a scan of your plate if a) you are licenced b) you are insured c) the plates are the correct plates for that vehicle d) that you have unpaid fines or 407 toll bills.

Please don't think that pink slip is gonna save your ass ... cause it won't.

I didn't intend to steer anyone in the wrong direction with incorrect information... my license is valid, my insurance is current, the plate and validation sticker is on the right vehicle and I don't owe anyone alimony or child support. Driving and owning a vehicle is a privilege, not a right. It may soon be an unaffordable privilege for me...but that's a discussion for another day ! Anyone else notice the price of gas went up about 8¢ / litre leading up to the Labour Day Weekend.

 

[JoeBBluvr]

According to government reports there are more than 135,000 mostly 'dads' failed to pay child supports in Ontario. If my SO filed for a divorce,she would have to pay me so I can keep up with my hobby

The above information may be misleading. The majority of child support payers are mostly dads therefore the deadbeats will be mostly dads. Does anyone know what the actual percentages are for dads that are paying child support vs moms paying child support that are deadbeats? I read that on a percentage basis deadbeat moms are a lot more common, of course as with all statistics it depends on who is generating them but I have never seen a government statistic. Just to be clear I never have not nor will be a deadbeat parent and I will continue to pay my child support (without FRO involvement and adjusted to my latest earnings) until I am legally required and never have put my son in the middle of things by saying that you will have to ask your mother to buy that. I buy him bigger more extravagant gifts than she does and I have put away 4 times as much in his RESP than she has, and most of hers was from what we put away while still married.

The thing is child support is supposed to be something that is paid to improve/equalise the standard of living for the child. The child should have a reasonable standard of living in both households. The thing that is wrong with the present system is that is does not take in to account family income or even just the custodial spouse's income. My ex wife earns 50% more than me and on a household level they easily earn 3 times as much yet every month I send her 20% of my after tax income which helps contribute to the cost of 2 Porsches as well as 2 other vehicles and in the past 2 years a basement renovation, 2 bathroom renovations and a kitchen renovation. Is this really something that is in the best interests of the child? I agree that I should have to contribute to raising my child which I do even if I didn't pay support by having his own bedroom to sleep in at my house and having his clothes here so he doesn't have to bring some with him and buying food when he is with me how much different are her costs versus mine?? The system needs to take in to account the ability to pay as well as the need to pay and consider the individual situation and I agree that I should pay something because he has more clothes there and eats more there etc.

Just things to think about. We always assume that the mother is not working and is staying at home to raise her children and is working in some low paying job but that is not always the case. The system is fucked up and needs to be fixed but it never will because it is political suicide.