DDG vs. GND but makes you happy - relationship advice

[blueadonis]

Hey everyone,

I'd like to ask you for some relationship advice. I've had the fortunate opportunity to recently meet two civilians whom I've started seeing. One is DDG. when we go out every guy is turning their heads at her. She is sizzling. But she knows she's hot and I'm pretty sure a lot of guys are chasing her. I haven't been able to see her cellphone but it's always going off in terms of text messages. Now , we're not exclusive, things just started so I can't lay claim to her yet. She's a very confident woman , maybe overly confidant actually. And the dynamic is - I'm pretty much always chasing after her feet. I feel insecure about that.

Now the second lady is sweet, and cute. She's attractive but not DDG like the first one . I can let my guard down with this one . We have a great time together .

But when you have a DDG and this hobby, it spoils you because you can get hot women at the drop of a hat. So it's kind of made me hooked on the looks. And the hot sex.

In terms of investing time into building a relationship do you hold on for DDG?

Or is it all about being content and happy? I know that if I stick with the GND, my eyes may continue wandering or I may continue hobbying. And I really don't want that. If I get into a relationship, that's it for me, the hobby is retired.

Or go for the DDG, but she may dump me because I'm pretty sure I'm not her only option . Or worse , she cheats on me. This is all hypothetical mind you, but these are my concerns .

Feedback would be greatly appreciated.

 

[punter]

Fuck them both - hard!

 

[destillat]

I think you have answered your own question.
Besides, just because someone is DDG doesn't mean they are wild in bed.
In fact, I have been with some pretty wild 'average looking' women.
Given your current insecurities, you will always wonder if DDG is cheating on you, every single time that phone beeps with a new next message, trust me.

 

[destillat]

Fuck them both - hard!

^^^^ this.
I withdrawal my previous advice.

 

[shack]

 

[Peegies]

Is it just me or do men tend to drop their game and settle down? If you are after DDG, you'll have to have confidence in yourself that she chose to be with you and respects that decision. Or you can avoid it all by refusing to be exclusive but also accept the limitations of that arrangement (i.e no getting jealous)

BTW the GND can pick up on confidence issues too. Just because a woman isn't 8.5+ doesn't mean you can let your guard all the way down.


Which to pick? If you had to pick one over the other it means you are giving up on something. So decide on the mandatory requirements for -your- SO and see if you can cross one off. Then you'll have both your answer and a good reason.

 

[GPIDEAL]

You really have to get to KNOW both first before you can just make a decision based on looks.

Just some pointers:

DDG does not necessarily mean the best sex.

DDG can mean high maintenance but not necessarily so.

DDG aura can wear off (beauty is only skin deep, and somebody will eventually be sick of her shit).

 

[IM469]

..., just because someone is DDG doesn't mean they are wild in bed.

So true ! Some don't have to work at it (self centered) so you are lucky if she touches your rod and others others are insatiable. Seems like feast or famine in my modest experience.

You sound like you better stick to the GND, if you want to be beside the DDG, you can't doubt her or yourself. You got to have the confidence she craves and keep her attention away from her phone. It's pretty lame if she spends most of the meal texting other people. Maybe you can suggest that you will turn off your phone if she can turn off hers while you are in the restaurant.

 

[MPAsquared]

The fact that you are basing this off of looks, sex, & hobbying, I think you need to split from all 3. Hobbying is supposed to be a supplement, a bandaid solution. It is not supposed to change your boundaries, expectations, impression of women, and divert you from actual feelings. Your picker is off. Bigtime.

If you weren't jaded, you'd know the answer to this Q easily. There would be no debate.

 

[SchlongConery]

The fact that you are basing this off of looks, sex, & hobbying, I think you need to split from all 3. Hobbying is supposed to be a supplement, a bandaid solution. It is not supposed to change your boundaries, expectations, impression of women, and divert you from actual feelings. Your picker is off. Bigtime.

If you weren't jaded, you'd know the answer to this Q easily. There would be no debate.

Wise words!

 

[Aardvark154]

It is I suppose better to be DDG - Drop Dead Gorgeous; than DDG - Destroyer - Guided Missile or if one prefers Guided Missile Destroyer. although the later are definitely larger than the former, although not as attractive to all eyes.

 

[red]

Sounds too early to tell- just go with the flow and see what develops

 

[xmontrealer]

What's that old saying....

"For every ddg stunning girl you see, who gets the adrenalin shooting up and down your spine, there's some guy who's tired of fucking her."

Nonetheless, imho (as always) go with the one with whom you have the most fun, both mentally and physically, and who seems to care about your happiness at least as much as her own!

 

[SchlongConery]

What's that old saying....

"For every ddg stunning girl you see, who gets the adrenalin shooting up and down your spine, there's some guy who's tired of fucking her."

Imho (as always) go with the one who you have the most fun with, both mentally and physically, and who seems to care about your happiness at least as much as her own!

Exactly!

Try to play the game to bang the DDG one so you get her out of your system if you really need to but I'd invest the time in the one you like spending time with. Your time is valuable and enjoyable time is priceless. The cost of problem, high maintenance women are more easily priced... HALF!!!

I bet if you like this GND one, you won't even have the desire to see SP's when you make the connection with her.

When I am with someone I really like, other women are invisible and I simply have no desire for others.

 

[OnTheWayOut]

Yeah, be sure to fuck the DDG before she dumps you.

I was married to a DDG model nympho, awesome sex. Could cook like no tomorrow. She would draw a bath and lay my clothes out for me so I wouldn't embarrass her when we went out. Perfect woman you say? Most miserable 3 years of my life. When I look back and think of all the women in my life she is one I never miss.

 

[jcpro]

Personal experience from my younger years. Dated a very hot girl, I was very happy for about a month. Sex was plentiful and hot. And that was it. No other connection at all. Later, on my first visit to Amsterdam, I discovered the difference between physical and emotional satisfaction. I realized that a beautiful face and a hot body are not as important as non physical chemistry. Hot girls are not exactly rare, great sex can be found or procured without too much effort. A "connection" cannot be bought and it's extremely difficult to find. As a matter of fact, at the time, I was seeing socially another girl with whom I had a legendary connection, but not enough experience to recognize it. It remains one of my very few regrets, my failure to pursue her. Sex and looks are dime a dozen(or $300/h), a satisfying relationship is something else. Or as the Greeks say, "there are women you fuck and there are women you marry".

 

[DanJ]

I'm glad I at least read down the thread and finally found a mention of "cooking" lol. Find out which one cooks and latch on.

 

[freedom3]

Yeah, be sure to fuck the DDG before she dumps you.

I was married to a DDG model nympho, awesome sex. Could cook like no tomorrow. She would draw a bath and lay my clothes out for me so I wouldn't embarrass her when we went out. Perfect woman you say? Most miserable 3 years of my life. When I look back and think of all the women in my life she is one I never miss.

What was the miserable part? I am not following this anecdote. (I am not trying to sound sarcastic, btw.)

 

[SQUAD51]

the eternal question, Marianne or Ginger? and the answer is always Marianne.

Motivational poster with a big titied girl pulling on her top, with a killer smile. The caption reads, "no matter how hot she may look, somewhere is an ex boyfriend tired of taking her shit".

If DDG isn't chasing you, you are just short term entertainment to her.

GND will improve with age, and DDG will let her looks slide once she has no reason to market herself anymore.

KMG365

 

[Polaris]

Hot Crazy Matrix - A Man's Guide to Women

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU