I have had a few dates with this one girl and things seamed to be going good, made a third date and agreed to meet for dinner and about an hour later she phones me back saying she has to cancel and says I thing we can only be friends at this time. but she wants to get together next weekend. What should I do?
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Dam, go meet her. What you have to lose ?
Sometimes they are going though alot in life, like breaking up with an old boyfriend, maybe something else.
Why give up now?
Sometimes they are going though alot in life, like breaking up with an old boyfriend, maybe something else.
Why give up now?
If you are okay with just being friends, go for it.
If she just wants to be friends and expects you to always pay for everything, you are getting screwed without getting screwed.
If she just wants to be friends and expects you to always pay for everything, you are getting screwed without getting screwed.
Oh no! You've fallen into the "friends zone." The relationship has gone as far as it will go. If you continue to see her, you're probably just wasting your time. Better spend the time with someone you stand a better chance with.
You've fallen into the "friends zone." The relationship has gone as far as it will go. If you continue to see her, you're probably just wasting your time. Better spend the time with someone you stand a better chance with.LOL that's bang on dude.red said:
I bet what happened was between meeting you and going out on your next date, she met someone else.
Don't some girls have more than 1 boyfriend ? Sure they do, not all but some.
I just think it would not hurt to keep seeing her, but they are right, don't get your hopes up-but you never know.
Besides, she has other girlfriends, maybe you get lucky with 1 of them.
I just think it would not hurt to keep seeing her, but they are right, don't get your hopes up-but you never know.
Besides, she has other girlfriends, maybe you get lucky with 1 of them.
Friends of friends can be some of the best dates! (or worst)S.C. Joe said:
Everybody needs a friend. Just because she is not sucking your dick does not mean that she is useless. You don't have the boys suck your dick when you go out for a pint and some wings, do you?
If you could use nother friend... hang out with her but as an equal (ie $).
If you hve all the friends you need then tell er tht & let her go.
But god help you if you fll into the friend zone in hopes of getting her later... rarely hppens....
Spend your time on those who already are what you're looking for & you cant go wrong... wasting your time on someone you ope my become what you wnt is asking for dissapointment.
Just decide what you truly want & dont settle...
If you hve all the friends you need then tell er tht & let her go.
But god help you if you fll into the friend zone in hopes of getting her later... rarely hppens....
Spend your time on those who already are what you're looking for & you cant go wrong... wasting your time on someone you ope my become what you wnt is asking for dissapointment.
Just decide what you truly want & dont settle...
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Ask your "friend" if she knows any hot chicks who want a date?
See if she still wants to be friends after that. If she does then you have tapped the social pipeline.
See if she still wants to be friends after that. If she does then you have tapped the social pipeline.
I would say...
...that is too extreme a view if you feel that way as an absolute, but yeah...in general you are correct.
There are:
There are no such thing as (attractive) women you just want to be friends with. If a woman is attractive, she must pass through one of the three categories.
Ask ANY woman who is prepared to be honest with you, and they will tell you the second biggest lie ever told (after size doesn't matter) is that a woman wants to be friends first. They NEVER want to be friends first.
When a woman tells you "I thing we can only be friends at this time", she means "you will never see me naked". Especially if she does so after canceling a date with you.
I tell my buds all the time that the biggest mistake they make is going the "friends" route. I don't suggest grabbing a woman tits the moment you meet her, but if it is your intention to fuck her, then you should be relatively straight forward AT ALL TIMES with your words and actions that it is your intention to fuck her. If she is going to...and trust me, she will decide by the end of the first date if she is going to...after that she is just deciding when...she'll respect you as a man more.
And...if she is put off...she was never going to fuck you anyway, so you've saved time and money...unless you are foolish enough to subscribe to the whole "every one needs a friend" bit....
Dr. Know said:
...that is too extreme a view if you feel that way as an absolute, but yeah...in general you are correct.
There are:
- (Attractive) women you've slept with,
- (Attractive) women you want to sleep with (note: there are reasons to not want to sleep with a woman, even though she is attractive...like she is your friends wife....I am not saying here that you have to want sleep with ALL attractive women)
- (Attractive) women that it has already been determined you will NOT be sleeping with.
There are no such thing as (attractive) women you just want to be friends with. If a woman is attractive, she must pass through one of the three categories.
Ask ANY woman who is prepared to be honest with you, and they will tell you the second biggest lie ever told (after size doesn't matter) is that a woman wants to be friends first. They NEVER want to be friends first.
When a woman tells you "I thing we can only be friends at this time", she means "you will never see me naked". Especially if she does so after canceling a date with you.
I tell my buds all the time that the biggest mistake they make is going the "friends" route. I don't suggest grabbing a woman tits the moment you meet her, but if it is your intention to fuck her, then you should be relatively straight forward AT ALL TIMES with your words and actions that it is your intention to fuck her. If she is going to...and trust me, she will decide by the end of the first date if she is going to...after that she is just deciding when...she'll respect you as a man more.
And...if she is put off...she was never going to fuck you anyway, so you've saved time and money...unless you are foolish enough to subscribe to the whole "every one needs a friend" bit....
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You may be right but then what about her girlfriends ?
Seems to me the more girls you get to meet and get to know, the more likely you find a girl who wants to be your lover.
I can't see why it would be wrong not to still be friends with her ? Unless hes going to get hung up on her and never get her.
Seems to me the more girls you get to meet and get to know, the more likely you find a girl who wants to be your lover.
I can't see why it would be wrong not to still be friends with her ? Unless hes going to get hung up on her and never get her.
This....
...stops being relevant once you are past 30. 30 something women do not introduce men to their friends because they don't want to hear about what went wrong later. Also, typically what happens is a women feels like if her friend will not fuck you for reasons unfathomable, why should she? I mean really...how often have you actually experienced this first hand??
"You know...I went out with him 3 times...no way he gonna get MY lips on his dick....but hell Becky, I know you are desperate..."
Women introduce their girlfriends to guys they KNOW...not guys they have dated....
S.C. Joe said:
...stops being relevant once you are past 30. 30 something women do not introduce men to their friends because they don't want to hear about what went wrong later. Also, typically what happens is a women feels like if her friend will not fuck you for reasons unfathomable, why should she? I mean really...how often have you actually experienced this first hand??
"You know...I went out with him 3 times...no way he gonna get MY lips on his dick....but hell Becky, I know you are desperate..."
Women introduce their girlfriends to guys they KNOW...not guys they have dated....
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Depends on why she cancelled . If she got cold feet because things are moving too fast then give her breathing room and leave the door open . Tell her you have enough friends and are looking for a more intimate relationship . If she's not ready move on. She's got your number so if she calls that means she's interested. If she doesn't call then be thankful you didn't waste your time.horwood said:
My guess is she does not want to see you for whatever reason, and the offer of getting together this weekend was not sincere. She expects you to say no, but she gets to feel that she's let you down a little more softly by having extended an offer of a friendly outing with you (ie. to "prove" that you are in fact friends, thus taking some of the tension out of the breakup or whatever you want to call it.
She does not want to see you, and it would be creepy of you to see her now that you've been dumped. If you have any self-esteem, move on.
She does not want to see you, and it would be creepy of you to see her now that you've been dumped. If you have any self-esteem, move on.
