I didn't know MM had been a dancer. She'd surely be considered too chunky for the clubs nowadays.
Dating your fav SP ?
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Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.
Fun for alittle while, but this is fantasyland, and it's a rarity that fantasy becomes reality. JMHO
Fun for alittle while, but this is fantasyland, and it's a rarity that fantasy becomes reality. JMHO
I'm presuming there are myths surrounding polygamy too? When it comes to sex, the only thing that is universal is the fact that human emotions are very tricky and can wreak havoc with the best laid sexual ideologies.
I even managed to bury a pun in there.
Actually, my father's brother married a former call girl. He was a cop, actually a VERY senior cop and he left his first wife for her. How it got out that she was a call girl, I'll never know. But my mother hated her and would constantly bring up the issue. In short, my uncle dumped his first wife (the mother of his 2 kids) for her. That would have been down right global thermal nuclear war because this happened back in the 60's.
I remember my mother just ranting and raving about my uncle's wife one time (I was probably 5 or 6.) and she called her a "prostitute". I asked my mother, "what's a prostitute?". My mother realized that she must have said too much because to this day, I still remember her answer, "It's a woman who sleeps with a man for money" I remember thinking, "you mean that a man will pay a woman money just to sleep with him? That seems like a good idea."
Anyway, my mother hated my uncle's new wife not just because she was a call girl, but also because she viewed her as a home-wrecker. Obviously, I have never discussed this with my dad's brother even to this day. What would be the point? My guess is that the first marriage went south for the usual reason and he hooked up with a call girl and fell in love with her.
Long story short - they were together from that day, till the day she died a few years back. She was the love of his life.
True story, every word of it.
In this case, it sounds like she was either already a "former" SP or gave it up when she hooked up with your uncle. While this can still be tricky (as evidenced by your Mother's attitude, amongst other things) it's far less complex than if she has continued to work and tried to be in a relationship at the same time.
Relationships with former SPs and former dancers are much more realistic than trying to have a serious relationship with a working SP or dancer.
It's extremely rare, but it's possible to have an open relationship with your wife knowing she fucks men for money. Sex does not always equal love, sometimes it's an expression of your love or it's how you make a living or it's just getting off. Swingers do the same, but without the money part.
If you're both completely honest with each other it can work.
If you're both completely honest with each other it can work.
you are probably right ...! funny thing is that she is a terb member we are having a fun talk over all this, small world.
Read examples of why guys should not fall in love with Thai bar girls, and you won't date the SP. She's paid to really like you.
If you want a real chick, it just happens. Even the rich ones can show up too.
Gyaos Baltar.
So, let's break it down to what it is, not what we wish it would be. Any SP has, as a defining note of their character, the made choice that they will do what they have to, to have a lifestyle they could not otherwise afford. Sure, I know, there is the odd exception that proves the rule. The university educated SP who could make more in the "real world" but chooses not to. For the vast majority, this just isn't the case. Everyone has an internal moral compass. It is not possible for that compass to only be skewed when it comes to one thing, it is skewed in regards to everything. To reduce it to it's most basic aspect, any decision that should be based in what the rest of society considers a morally correct decision, is overridden by " but I want".. They know that they should quit the business and move on, but there is always the " but I want" of a vacation, car, lifestyle, etc. "but I want". The collateral damage in the wake of " but I want" is usually your feelings. When looked at from the aspect of your now fave SP's future life plan outlook, "delayed gratification" are two words that are not in her vocabulary.
She also has to deal with the paradox of " moving on " .. Like it or not, first impressions are hard to change, and you will forever have started your relationship from the standpoint of a "trick". You paid for pussy. She wants a guy that wouldn'y pay for it, as nuts as that sounds. She will have a half conceived plan for her life for when she's "done" that will include meeting and developing a relationship with someone who isn't a trick, but she will not have worked out the logistics of how to explain why she has no friends ( you can't meet her friends from the biz, because she has lied and told you she was a waitress, and if you put a couple of glasses of wine into one her "biz" friends, sooner or later, the cat will be out of the bag!). She may actuall be able, for a short time, to pull off her explainations of a ten year gap in her employment history and her lack of friends. But sooner or later, it will bite her in the ass when her new SO takes her to a party and one of his friends pulls him aside and says " Hey, Bro... she's not a waitress... a couple of months ago, she blew half the guys at my cousin's stag!! " And at the end of the day, she will still have the underlying mentality of " but I want" and when she "wants" right and wrong will go right out the window. Right along with your feelings, because her " but I want" will ALWAYS come first, when push comes to shove.
Go ahead, date a SP... but do just that, date her and enjoy the ride. Understand that it is an affair to be enjoyed and savoured and cherished. Understand that if you take it too far, it won't have a pleasant ending, or be a cherished memory.
She also has to deal with the paradox of " moving on " .. Like it or not, first impressions are hard to change, and you will forever have started your relationship from the standpoint of a "trick". You paid for pussy. She wants a guy that wouldn'y pay for it, as nuts as that sounds. She will have a half conceived plan for her life for when she's "done" that will include meeting and developing a relationship with someone who isn't a trick, but she will not have worked out the logistics of how to explain why she has no friends ( you can't meet her friends from the biz, because she has lied and told you she was a waitress, and if you put a couple of glasses of wine into one her "biz" friends, sooner or later, the cat will be out of the bag!). She may actuall be able, for a short time, to pull off her explainations of a ten year gap in her employment history and her lack of friends. But sooner or later, it will bite her in the ass when her new SO takes her to a party and one of his friends pulls him aside and says " Hey, Bro... she's not a waitress... a couple of months ago, she blew half the guys at my cousin's stag!! " And at the end of the day, she will still have the underlying mentality of " but I want" and when she "wants" right and wrong will go right out the window. Right along with your feelings, because her " but I want" will ALWAYS come first, when push comes to shove.
Go ahead, date a SP... but do just that, date her and enjoy the ride. Understand that it is an affair to be enjoyed and savoured and cherished. Understand that if you take it too far, it won't have a pleasant ending, or be a cherished memory.
