First...
...I get to be biased. I said as much. I don't have to be open minded in regards to who I enter into a relationship with.
Second...all that you list still has nothing to do with the fact that you are apparently comfortable escorting...while the vast majority of women would not be. THAT difference...the ability to reduce sex to a transactional act that can be performed with a stranger without emotional connection...is not something I'd want in an SO.
BTW....you are REALLY getting defensive...you are rejecting things I never said...or even implied, when really...for me, it comes down to this:
"because I want to."
I would not want to be in a serious relationship with someone who would want to. I get to make that choice. Why it bothers you so much that you have to go on a rant explaining what a great person you are seems to speak to a bit of insecurity about the choice you made.
hickorysticks said:I'm sorry if you felt I was "hating" on you. That certainly wasn't my intention, rather I responded to a question you posed to me. A few actually. If you feel exposed because your words have proven to be biased and/or sexest, I cannot help that, only hope you see it.
Lastly, while you may think it prudent to presuppose a person/profession/situation, I'm afraid that puts everyone and everything into a neat little box. I don't need to tell you that before 2 months ago, I had never considered escorting, and had only been in one long-term, loving, healthy relationship (7 yrs ). I also don't need to tell you I'm a full-time student, child's rights advocate, and social worker. Or that the term "you're an escort" is just as mindless as seeing one's skin colour or race or religion rather than everything which makes up that person. which makes them beautiful and unique. But I also suppose you didn't know I was a bilingual insurace claimes specialist and mortgage rep and amoung many other things, love to cook, and crotchet. that I'm a sister and daughter and friend to many. that I hate social injustice almost as much hypocricy (shown above). and finally, while you would love to relegate me to the "escorts for life" box, I only work when I am able, after all of my other priorities and aspirations and relationships have been fullfilled and I chose to do so. not because I need drugs or am of low self-esteem or need a false sense of love, or companionship. perhaps those are the driving forces in your life...? (no insult intended, I am speaking as openly and frankly as I can in the cyber world that has only you words to go by) but because I want to. I am able to earn money doing something that I enjoy.
...I get to be biased. I said as much. I don't have to be open minded in regards to who I enter into a relationship with.
Second...all that you list still has nothing to do with the fact that you are apparently comfortable escorting...while the vast majority of women would not be. THAT difference...the ability to reduce sex to a transactional act that can be performed with a stranger without emotional connection...is not something I'd want in an SO.
BTW....you are REALLY getting defensive...you are rejecting things I never said...or even implied, when really...for me, it comes down to this:
"because I want to."
I would not want to be in a serious relationship with someone who would want to. I get to make that choice. Why it bothers you so much that you have to go on a rant explaining what a great person you are seems to speak to a bit of insecurity about the choice you made.