Dancer in the family? HELP ME?

[booboobear]

its not that i want to feel this way, i just do. i'm not trying to judge anyone here, its just that when i look for someone i want to marry and spend my life with, it is very discouraging when i see tons of great guys, either married or in a relationship proposition me or see MPA/ SP's. i worry that will happen with my husband, and yes that scares me. i realize that alot of these men are good fathers/husbands .and has made me a bit cynical. i used to be such a romantic, but now i guess i'm more of a realist (and i kind of wish i could go back to the time i didn't know all the bad).

I think I know how you feel and youcan't help your feelings . I'M not judging god knows people can and have judged me. Believe it or not I am a romantic too or would like to be but when I look at the divorce rate I get scared . I guess that's why I'm single.
All I am saying is don't judge everyone by what you see in strip bars, some guys would say you are commenting on men propostioning you but you strip in front of them and half of them are drunk anyway so a lot happens in bars that might not happen elsewhere.

Don't forget a lot of guys cheated on their wives before strip bars were invented. I don't think it's unrealistic to expect your future husband not to cheat on you . I think your chances are greater once you quit the business.

Women cheat as well but that doesn't mean I would expect my wife to if I ever got married although I don't think this is likely.

Good luck

 

[jwmorrice]

The thought that a man that I loved might cheat on me bothers me too. It makes me sad. I almost wish that I did not know what I know about men.

Just do some drugs and you'll forget all that stuff.

jwm

 

[Esco!]

The thought that a man that I loved might cheat on me bothers me too. It makes me sad. I almost wish that I did not know what I know about men.

PPULLLEEAASSEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And women dont cheat on men???????

 

[hambone]

its not that i want to feel this way, i just do. i'm not trying to judge anyone here, its just that when i look for someone i want to marry and spend my life with, it is very discouraging when i see tons of great guys, either married or in a relationship proposition me or see MPA/ SP's. i worry that will happen with my husband, and yes that scares me. i realize that alot of these men are good fathers/husbands who love their wives and just need to fufill something their lacking at home, but I don't want the man i'm with to do that. i'm not trying to say all men do this, but being surrounded by it, it seems highly likely, and that is why it is hard for me to trust men. if my bf wanted to go to a strip club and chill with friends, i'm fine with that but i can't help thinkin, will he go in the vip with someone...etc., etc. being in this biz, just kind of discourages me....and has made me a bit cynical. i used to be such a romantic, but now i guess i'm more of a realist (and i kind of wish i could go back to the time i didn't know all the bad).

The key phrase in your post is "just need to fulfill something their lacking at home"

If you fulfill his needs he will have no reason to wander.

 

[jwmorrice]

I only wish. If only drugs could fix every life problem!

Take the blue pill.

jwm

 

[Esco!]

I take little white dove pills

 

[jwmorrice]

that might not work for me.

Guess you must've taken the red one! Well now you're farked!

jwm

 

[Goober Mcfly]

I can attest to the fact that Sheik is an old dirty bastard.

What?

 

[kat19]

The key phrase in your post is "just need to fulfill something their lacking at home"

If you fulfill his needs he will have no reason to wander.

i have to disagree with you. some men just need to have variety, or they want stuff they are not comfortable with their wife doing. for example, they might want fantasies fulfilled and don't want their wife to do it, because they think of their wife a certain way, and not like a dirty slut, or something like that. i would be very open minded in order to keep my husband happy, but sometimes that is just not enough for some men. plus, a 45 yr old women with kids simply can not compete with an 18 yr old's body. there is also fetishes or fantasies some men want such as someone of a different culture, so it seems more exotic to them...the list can go on and on.

 

[Paul Waters]

I can attest to the fact that Sheik is an old dirty bastard.

What?

Sheikie is not that old.

 

[Esco!]

i have to disagree with you. some men just need to have variety, or they want stuff they are not comfortable with their wife doing. for example, they might want fantasies fulfilled and don't want their wife to do it, because they think of their wife a certain way, and not like a dirty slut, or something like that. i would be very open minded in order to keep my husband happy, but sometimes that is just not enough for some men. plus, a 45 yr old women with kids simply can not compete with an 18 yr old's body. there is also fetishes or fantasies some men want such as someone of a different culture, so it seems more exotic to them...the list can go on and on.

Kat, you left out all of my fetishes.
Shame on you!!!

 

[djk]

i have to disagree with you. some men just need to have variety, or they want stuff they are not comfortable with their wife doing. for example, they might want fantasies fulfilled and don't want their wife to do it, because they think of their wife a certain way, and not like a dirty slut, or something like that. i would be very open minded in order to keep my husband happy, but sometimes that is just not enough for some men. plus, a 45 yr old women with kids simply can not compete with an 18 yr old's body. there is also fetishes or fantasies some men want such as someone of a different culture, so it seems more exotic to them...the list can go on and on.

sounds like a list of excuses to cheat if you ask me.

to me, if you love her, you'll tell her how you feel and try to make it work.

if you don't, well, its time to move on.

cheers,

-djk

 

[tompeepin]

Men!

... some men just need to have variety, ... i would be very open minded in order to keep my husband happy, but sometimes that is just not enough for some men. plus, a 45 yr old women with kids simply can not compete with an 18 yr old's body. ... the list can go on and on.

Yup! You are right! But what will happen if you eventually desire variety as well? What if your future husband no longer shows you any attention (but he does not cheat)? Well you might just become a "desperate house wife". Life is what it is. Acceptance goes a long way. When we want things a certain preconceived way it only leads to unhappiness. And you want hAPenis, right?

Ahhh to be young idealistic and romantic again. <sigh> What a roller coaster. The highs were so high and the lows so low. Now my idea of romance is a blue pill and a titty bar.

 

[kat19]

i've cheated once on a bf a few years aog, and i can honestly say i will NEVER do that again. if my future husband does not fulfill my needs anymore, then i will talk to him openly about it and try to work things out. if there is no working it out, then i guess take the next step, either separation, or an "open" relationship if thats what it came down to. but i wouldn't go behind his back to fulfill MY needs. thats just the way i feel and what i want....not trying to preach to anyone else. if i decided i wasn't going to give my man sex anymore, then i would expect him to cheat.

 

[tompeepin]

i've cheated once on a bf a few years aog, and i can honestly say i will NEVER do that again. if my future husband does not fulfill my needs anymore, then i will talk to him openly about it and try to work things out. if there is no working it out, then i guess take the next step, either separation, or an "open" relationship if thats what it came down to. but i wouldn't go behind his back to fulfill MY needs. thats just the way i feel and what i want....not trying to preach to anyone else. if i decided i wasn't going to give my man sex anymore, then i would expect him to cheat.

I agree with you, honesty is the best policy. But just like you hate the idea of your future husband going to the VIP in a strip club (is that cheating?) I think that you would hate it more if you loved him very much and he said "Baby I'm gonna be honest I don't love you no more. I think that we should separate or let's have an open marriage." It all hurts like hell!

I'll be honest. I am alone tonight. I haven't had "variety" in a long time. Should I go the the Cannonball or just go home and choke the chicken alone?

 

[kat19]

I'll be honest. I am alone tonight. I haven't had "variety" in a long time. Should I go the the Cannonball or just go home and choke the chicken alone?

come to loco and see ME!!! lol

 

[tompeepin]

come to loco and see ME!!! lol

Where is the loco and when will you be there? Remember I can't go to the VIP that would be cheating! So are you gonna be doing any stage shows?

 

[Esco!]

Should I go the the Cannonball or just go home and choke the chicken alone?

No cruelty against animals now, this is a civilized board

 

[kat19]

oh probably no stage shows....only vip treatment, but loco is at dixie and eglington. i will be there tonight, from about 9 to 2.

 

[tompeepin]

oh probably no stage shows....only vip treatment, but loco is at dixie and eglington. i will be there tonight, from about 9 to 2.

Damn! But the VIP "treatment" would be CHEATING!!!

To cheat or not to cheat? enee meenie mineie moe ...

Do you mind if I wear track pants and take a little blue pill before I cum?

Maybe I'll go to Allure and get my pole polished. No cheating then, just therapeutic.