I agree most people would put crime automatically into the "big deal" bucketYou say big deal and I say crime, of course that’ll be dealt with harshly...but things like adultry, caught with a hooker, flirting, any of the stuff Cuomo is accused of and it’s no big deal.
Adultery would depend a lot on how the marriage was presented and how the wife deals with it.
Caught with a hooker will depend on in what circumstances.
Flirting depends on how gross and creepy it is.
These aren't hard and fast rules and they aren't crimes.
They are social norms.
If enough people think you're gross as a politician, they will push you out if they can.