tboy said:
LOL yeah, get a subscription to Cosmo, Vogue and watch Oprah....
Haha, no worries, I'm not suggesting he turn himself into a pussy, but become more knowledgeable about many subjects so that when introduced to a new person or to a group of people and the conversation moves to something out of your interest, like for argument's sake, the by-products of nuclear fission, you have a few words to say before you can confidently change the subject to something more in your range. Become a
renaissance man, a polymath. There's nothing more attractive than someone who is genuinely interested in you, and it's a lot easier to get to know more people when you have more things to discuss other than sports teams, who farted at work today, and the comings and goings of Britney Spears.
This isn't a knock at you, tboy, or even directed at you, just at men in general who want to be more successful with women.
As for women not being interested in a guy's material possessions. Not to argue with you SV but while on the surface many women will say "I don't care what kind of car he has" deep down I think they do as this is an indicator of their success or failure. Same goes for whether he rents an apartment, owns a nice condo, or a house.
I see your viewpoint, but these are very superficial traits, IMO. I couldn't care less if my bf drove a pinto, rented an apartment, or wore a swatch instead of a Rolex... The same girls that care about the guy's car, house, watch, etc. are the same girls who in the first 5 minutes of meeting you are going to ask you what you do for a living to guess what your yearly salary is, and what they're going to get out of it. Maybe the women I hang out with are just more enlightened, but I am sure that they, like myself, have little concern for trivial things like the make and model of your car.
In fact, rubmeister, you put it perfectly! "The cheapest chick magnet is confidence"
I know women are more interested in the deeper aspects of a guy but tell me one woman who would choose to be with a gas jockey who lives in his parent's basement than a successful attorny with a bridal path address.....
Okay, well that is taking it to extremes. I know a number of girls who would happily go to bed with the gas jockey if he was hot and fit and fun, for an occasional thing rather than hooking up with the attorney for anything other than a long-term relationship. If you are looking for a casual arrangement, the guy that gets the girl interested, and hot and bothered, is the guy that goes to bed with her.
Happy Humping (and Happy Humpday!
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~ Violet ~
