Best places to meet women?
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Basically good advice-- But avoid 'carpet bombing' women in a given location.vivalapanocha said:
My rules have always been:
0. GO OUT AND DO THINGS!
1. Always be in a presentable state when in a place with a mixed crowd. It doesn't matter where, it doesn't matter when. 10 minutes of effort before you walk out the door can lead to hours of fun (or heaven forbid a real relationship).
2. Go out to 'have fun' or do something you find 'interesting'. Don't do these things to 'pick up', but do them because you want to. Once out 'doing a thing', strike up a conversation / say 'hi' / whatever. Odds are you and the other person are there for the same reason. You already have common ground. Once again, don't 'carpet bomb' women in a place or be a stalker-puppy-dog, but be mindful of opportunities when they arise. (Or heaven forbid introduce yourself and try to make a opportunity.)
3 a). Don't be a player if you ain't a player. For every player there's 10 wannabes. Science says so. Wannabes are pathetic and you'll reap what you sew.
3 b). Don't be hyper aggressive and learn to take a hint. Particularly true 'Players who ain't'. (See above.) The flip side of this is that if you're 'cool' you can play the 'White Knight' from time to time. Never play the 'White Knight' with the expectation of a quid-pro-quo-- but you do get karma points for it. Just don't get your ass beat up.
4. Don't be shy. You gotta speak. Really. I once 'picked up' a women who literally fell into my lap. She liked the chat enough that she stayed till the bar closed. Naughty fun ensued. Maybe my Strip Club fetish payed off there.
5. Be as honest as you can be. Anything else, when it comes to more than a one night stand, will bite you in the ass. Even in the case of a 'one night thing' it's more work than it's worth. Now, being honest isn't being stupid-- The fact that once a month I like to crawl a random cluster of 2 - 4 SCs once a month, dropping hundreds of dollars, and liking complimentary handshakes when single (or with no prospects) is probably a bad conversation. (Oddly enough I apply the rule to civi girls AND dancers.)
6. Make an honest assessment of who you are, what you want, and what you have to offer. After you do that, act accordingly.
If you're 'presentable' (Even if not a 'stud'), 'mindful', and 'go out' you should never have to 'try'.
Most women know when a guy is just looking to get laid,,,,nine times out of ten you will get a polite 'fuck off'. But if you are genuinely interested in THAT woman and are trying to actually get to know HER as opposed to any available piece of ass, then let her know this.....if you chat but do not 'come on' you might be surprised at the positive response.
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I mean 'in general'-- but that includes bars and clubs if you're comfortable in those places.bob_sapp said:
Here some feedback from a woman...and a VERY good strategy IMHO....
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/s...arcity-myth;_ylt=Avbozv84UG1H8ueEP5T7j0q0ZKB4
In summary it gives a three week plan to getting comfortable with speaking to people.
Guys really do think it is about "lines" and all that shit...so caught up in the whole "pick up artist" thing. MOST people meet each other just...meeting....in day to day real life.
It really does start with a "hello"...
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/s...arcity-myth;_ylt=Avbozv84UG1H8ueEP5T7j0q0ZKB4
In summary it gives a three week plan to getting comfortable with speaking to people.
Guys really do think it is about "lines" and all that shit...so caught up in the whole "pick up artist" thing. MOST people meet each other just...meeting....in day to day real life.
It really does start with a "hello"...
8 years ago I signed up for salsa lessons at Soles (St Clair & Dufferin)which at that time was NOW Mag's top dance studio. I took private lessons with one of the owners (the female one) and she encouraged me to join the Sunday night class as they were always short of guys. I met a couple of ladies and we have stayed friends but the bonus was I learned how to dance pretty well and being able to dance made going out to other venues that much more fun. The other bonus was the weight loss...dancing is an active body contact 'sport'!LadyTY2Uall said:How brave and adventurous are you????
Dance classes are always a sure fire way to meet chicks
Good luck !
I whole heartedly endorse the learn to dance route. Even if you don't meet your life partner there you will still be better off.
I used to tease my high school buddy for taking dance lessons.
His reply, "say what you want but I'm the only guy in a room of 20 hotties". He made a good point.
His reply, "say what you want but I'm the only guy in a room of 20 hotties". He made a good point.
Ok so, I tend to actually like the thicker, bald not stereo typical "handsome " men.
Not too sure why but for me, it works.
Regardless, MLAM wrote some very authentic and true words, men should read them again and again till theyre ingrained on their brain.
Many of us "older" woman only want someone with some class and dignity, ones that know integrity is not a new car by Ford.
I'm on POF and because I'm very honest in my profile, I dont get as much action.http://www.plentyoffish.com/member9413749.htm
So, I just keep going forward, speaking to strangers and knowing in my heart that for every lock there is a key.
Not too sure why but for me, it works.
Regardless, MLAM wrote some very authentic and true words, men should read them again and again till theyre ingrained on their brain.
Many of us "older" woman only want someone with some class and dignity, ones that know integrity is not a new car by Ford.
I'm on POF and because I'm very honest in my profile, I dont get as much action.http://www.plentyoffish.com/member9413749.htm
So, I just keep going forward, speaking to strangers and knowing in my heart that for every lock there is a key.
How to Be a Sweet-Talker
http://www.esquire.com/features/influence/sweet-talker-1108?src=syn&dom=yah_buzz&mag=esq&ha=1
Practice...Practice...Practice....
http://www.esquire.com/features/influence/sweet-talker-1108?src=syn&dom=yah_buzz&mag=esq&ha=1
Practice...Practice...Practice....
