In general females are more understanding in all senses especially when it involves kids. A female isn't gonna just walk away from a possible partner just because they have kids. We understand kids come first. But honestly the amount of negative SM comments certain men leave is something else....they are basically saying a SM is like the plague and anyone who inteacts with her will get infected.
By god most SM arent asking you to be a damn father figure to their children...if a man wants to do it then so be it. Hell my sister is a SM and it wasnt by choice, she had to make the call to end the relationship and save my niece and herself from a terrible situation.