Are men frustrated from not enough sex in our society?
- Thread starter LKD
- Start date
I think a lot more guys would suck cock and take it up the ass if society said it was positive, even a noble thing to do and no longer a taboo. Like Kareena says, I'm not sure if people are born that way and it shouldn't matter except to scientists - we're free thinking animals.
The number of women who will explore eating pussy has gone up in the last decade due to a freer society.
The number of women who will explore eating pussy has gone up in the last decade due to a freer society.
don't blame you... I don't think I'll ever get hard with a guy.. never mind if he's the hottest model or not
kudos to you... I could never do that, no matter how good it may feel... I just shudder at the fact a MANLY face is sucking my dick instead of a beautiful, feminine face
Wow, you guys are amazing - seriously, you spend more time talking about cock and ass and gayness than any of my gay friends do. Anyone ever wonder why that is? Sheesh.
Some things to consider:
- Men (and women) are having a lot more sex these days than at any time in the past. Sex - especially sex for pleasure - used to be reserved for the rich and powerful, while most people barely had any sex at all for their entire lives. Most of our time was spent trying to get enough food to survive, and people lived in much smaller communities, with fewer options. Sex is considerably more common than it ever has been before, and that's also because of things like condoms and the pill - sex and procreation are no longer inherently linked, which has allowed women to enjoy sex without worrying about getting knocked up.
- Sexuality is always defined in the context of the era in which we live. People with PVC or leather fetishes (I'm sure there are more than a few on here) couldn't have had those fetishes before the creation of PVC or the widespread use of leather, so it's impossible to say that someone was "born" with a PVC fetish. People definitely have intrinsic inclinations towards different people of different genders, but to say that someone's sexuality is entirely and exclusively hard-wired from birth is a pretty ridiculous statement. Who pops out of the womb with a PVC fetish?
- The word "homosexual" is only about 150 years old; before then, nobody was even considered to have a sexual identity of any kind. Sex was something you just "did" and didn't necessarily reflect who you "are" as a person.
- Sexuality changes over time, both for society in general and for individual people. Some people might limit themselves to certain types of acts from their first experience until their last, but most people have explored a variety of sexual tastes, desires and behaviours throughout their lives. Experimentation and variety do not inevitably lead to a change in how one labels themselves, and most of those labels are only for the benefit of other people who want to make everything as simple as can be (pretty common occurence over here, that's for sure).
- If you really believe that a guy who has had 1000 sexual experiences with women, yet sucked one cock out of curiosity, is "homosexual" or "gay" because of it, then you really need to open your eyes to the possibility of fluidity. That's like saying a guy who's eaten 1000 hambugers, yet just ate one piece of celery, is somehow a vegetarian.
- For all the gay sex that you guys talk about, you should really ask yourselves why you care so damned much what other people do, or what they should call themselves. If you were all as 100% straight as you claim, it wouldn't even be worth your time to think about it, let alone post about it.
Some things to consider:
- Men (and women) are having a lot more sex these days than at any time in the past. Sex - especially sex for pleasure - used to be reserved for the rich and powerful, while most people barely had any sex at all for their entire lives. Most of our time was spent trying to get enough food to survive, and people lived in much smaller communities, with fewer options. Sex is considerably more common than it ever has been before, and that's also because of things like condoms and the pill - sex and procreation are no longer inherently linked, which has allowed women to enjoy sex without worrying about getting knocked up.
- Sexuality is always defined in the context of the era in which we live. People with PVC or leather fetishes (I'm sure there are more than a few on here) couldn't have had those fetishes before the creation of PVC or the widespread use of leather, so it's impossible to say that someone was "born" with a PVC fetish. People definitely have intrinsic inclinations towards different people of different genders, but to say that someone's sexuality is entirely and exclusively hard-wired from birth is a pretty ridiculous statement. Who pops out of the womb with a PVC fetish?
- The word "homosexual" is only about 150 years old; before then, nobody was even considered to have a sexual identity of any kind. Sex was something you just "did" and didn't necessarily reflect who you "are" as a person.
- Sexuality changes over time, both for society in general and for individual people. Some people might limit themselves to certain types of acts from their first experience until their last, but most people have explored a variety of sexual tastes, desires and behaviours throughout their lives. Experimentation and variety do not inevitably lead to a change in how one labels themselves, and most of those labels are only for the benefit of other people who want to make everything as simple as can be (pretty common occurence over here, that's for sure).
- If you really believe that a guy who has had 1000 sexual experiences with women, yet sucked one cock out of curiosity, is "homosexual" or "gay" because of it, then you really need to open your eyes to the possibility of fluidity. That's like saying a guy who's eaten 1000 hambugers, yet just ate one piece of celery, is somehow a vegetarian.
- For all the gay sex that you guys talk about, you should really ask yourselves why you care so damned much what other people do, or what they should call themselves. If you were all as 100% straight as you claim, it wouldn't even be worth your time to think about it, let alone post about it.
not everyone can afford it
I think I should've added a disclaimer to this post.... Some of you are taking this thread too seriously... To all that thought this was a hilarious/stupid post, you got my intentions.. Everyone else, have a chill pill or something. Most of us have enough drama in our 'real' jobs... terb is a nice place to let loose. Last thing we need is another serious drama in here xD
Huh?
That's quite the leap you're making, Dr. Freud.
For the record, since you're so brilliant in your analysis, I'm not the least bit prejudiced against homosexuals, I fully support them. I am not ashamed of any feelings of attraction I may or may not have. In fact, I enjoy strapon play, make of that what you will. I am open to the idea that there are pleasurable activities that I have not experienced. I am not seeking a homosexual experience, but I don't feel any insecurities in admiting I might just enjoy the physical act of one. Call me what you want based on this, but the fact is I am not attracted to men, but I do enjoy being penetrated analy and am attracted to feminine-looking shemales. I've never had the pleasure of an experience with one, but I do fantasize about it.
My point wasn't that you would enjoy the experience per se, but it would be difficult to resist a physical reaction (an erection) if you were being sucked off.
I appreciate your attempt to diagnose me. I don't pretend to be a psycologist, so I'll leave your analogies to grandmothers and children to someone better qualified.
If indeed, sex is more common now it is because of the INTERNET. I didn't realize sex existed until I discovered the INTERNET. Hee, hee, hee.
BTW: Even male penguins are turning gay.
Ha ha ha - do you seriously believe that?
Homosexuality has always existed (small minority at about 2% for homo - not including bi)
Homosexuality has always been seen as "not normal"
Have you ever read the Bible - well the Old Testament in particular?
I couldn't agree more. I've always said that if women just "gave away" sex like men, we wouldn't even be civilized.
Actually, that is not true. If you read about some of the ancient civilizations - Greece, Rome, Sparta, you would know that homosexuality was not as big of a deal back then as it is now.
Ok, I really don’t want to spend a lot of time on this, because it’s been debated ad nauseum on this board, and I know it’ll just keep coming up again like it always does. But I’ll chime in one more time, then head out for the night:
Part of the reason that many people (myself included) reject the essentialist perspective is because it doesn’t usually hold true in the long run. Now that our lifespans are long enough, and our options are wide enough, the opportunity for change in one’s sexual tastes and habits has been increased. Sure enough, that’s what’s happening – the demographic with the fastest-rising rates of STIs are actually among people over 50. But I don’t need to tell that to TERBland, do I – if all your sexual tastes had stayed exactly the same throughout your lives, TERB wouldn’t even exist because you'd all still be with your (first) wives.
[/professor]
[amused]
Anyways, I’ll leave you boys to talk about even more gay stuff, and I’ll go out and see if Halifax has anywhere fun to visit. Good night everyone! *muah*
The popularization of the word “homosexual” is attributed to Richard von-Krafft-Ebing, who published 1886’s Psychopathia Sexualis; interestingly, he also coined the phrases “masochism” and “sadism”. It was one of the first attempts to medicalize and understand sexual behaviour as being an innate trait, which was largely resistant to outside influence or change. This led to a proliferation of theories on how “the homosexual” was a different type of person, hard-wired in a different way. Sexual difference was viewed as a form of pathology, rooted in the brain, like many other disorders that were being identified and classified (with mixed results). Others picked up this line of thinking, such as Freud, who essentially became the first gay rights activist by advocating for tolerance for “homosexuals” because they couldn’t control their desires (although according to Freud, the rest of us can’t either). Before then, sexuality was just something you did, and if you did something forbidden, then you were judged for your sexual behaviour, not your sexual identity.
Part of the reason that many people (myself included) reject the essentialist perspective is because it doesn’t usually hold true in the long run. Now that our lifespans are long enough, and our options are wide enough, the opportunity for change in one’s sexual tastes and habits has been increased. Sure enough, that’s what’s happening – the demographic with the fastest-rising rates of STIs are actually among people over 50. But I don’t need to tell that to TERBland, do I – if all your sexual tastes had stayed exactly the same throughout your lives, TERB wouldn’t even exist because you'd all still be with your (first) wives.
[/professor]
[amused]
Yes, I’ve read the Bible, mostly for historical context rather than faith. However, I’m not sure why anyone on TERB would consider the Bible the be-all and end-all in regards to sexuality... there are lots of books saying all kinds of crazy stuff about sex. Regardless, I once saw a poster that said, “Homosexual behaviour has been observed in over 465 species. Homophobia has only been observed in one.” I don’t know if the number is accurate, but I think it’s a pretty relevant point.
I won't claim to know your motivations for starting this thread, but there are two types of questions - questions you ask because you want to learn, and questions you ask because you want to argue. Sometimes it's hard to tell which is which, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.
No offense, but it honestly seems like every other post is “homo this” or “gay that.” Whenever there’s a thread about gayness, you’re like a moth to the flame. It seems like you post about gay sex every day – doesn’t that mean you think about it every day too? Just sayin’...
Anyways, I’ll leave you boys to talk about even more gay stuff, and I’ll go out and see if Halifax has anywhere fun to visit. Good night everyone! *muah*
Did you think all this lot up all in one go? There's so much insight here, I'm thinking these thoughts must have been brewing for some time. Thanks!
