Anyone successful on here?
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Poorboy...
Hang in there... by the sound of things, you have excellent credentials; it seems to me that you're a victim of circumstance. Step up to the plate and keep swinging, it's all you can do. I guarantee your situation will improve.
Hang in there... by the sound of things, you have excellent credentials; it seems to me that you're a victim of circumstance. Step up to the plate and keep swinging, it's all you can do. I guarantee your situation will improve.
This may be a blessing in disguise, they say when God closes a door he leaves a window open, give it some time.
Poorboy....
#1. Change your name...change will come from believing in your self...poorboy isn't what you want to believe
#2. Lots of good advice given over the last 6 pages...as Nike says...just do it
#3. While you have some spare time, go and volunteer at a Food Bank, or shelter. Use some of your time to put back into the community and put some balance and perspective into your life. The dividends this will pay to people truly less fortunate and to your self will be great. A break from just thinking about yourself is really what you need right now. IMHO
#1. Change your name...change will come from believing in your self...poorboy isn't what you want to believe
#2. Lots of good advice given over the last 6 pages...as Nike says...just do it
#3. While you have some spare time, go and volunteer at a Food Bank, or shelter. Use some of your time to put back into the community and put some balance and perspective into your life. The dividends this will pay to people truly less fortunate and to your self will be great. A break from just thinking about yourself is really what you need right now. IMHO
Re: No Poorboy
Well said Wollensack. Too many people are caught up in having the latest material things. All of them are meaningless and contribute nothing to your self worth. Become good at something, a hobby, helping others etc. and you will feel better about yourself.
wollensak said:
Well said Wollensack. Too many people are caught up in having the latest material things. All of them are meaningless and contribute nothing to your self worth. Become good at something, a hobby, helping others etc. and you will feel better about yourself.
Being unemployed is difficult...you feel like life is passing you by. It is at a time like this that the friends in your life can help you pick yourself up and move forward. Counselling (though kind of a bad word), might help to avert depression.
Turn the situation around. Don't consider the situation bad, only an opportunity to change things in your life for the better. What do you like to do? Do it, with the angle of making sufficient money to live. If you enjoy your work, that is half the battle, and the money will come from that.
Money does not always buy happiness. If you enjoy your job, then it isn't work. Enjoy your time with friends and family. Some of the richest people I know have little money, and would give you the shirt off their back if you asked.
Start with a plan...1 year, 5 year, 10 year. Know where you want to be. Know what you have to do to get there. Success should not be measured in dollars alone.
Turn the situation around. Don't consider the situation bad, only an opportunity to change things in your life for the better. What do you like to do? Do it, with the angle of making sufficient money to live. If you enjoy your work, that is half the battle, and the money will come from that.
Money does not always buy happiness. If you enjoy your job, then it isn't work. Enjoy your time with friends and family. Some of the richest people I know have little money, and would give you the shirt off their back if you asked.
Start with a plan...1 year, 5 year, 10 year. Know where you want to be. Know what you have to do to get there. Success should not be measured in dollars alone.
I think you've just summed up your problem.poorboy said:
Bitter whiners who spend their time worrying about what others have, and why they are seemingly undeserving of such, rarely succeed.
You've busted your ass - but everyone else around you is lazy. You're a genius, but those who have surpassed you are idiots.
There's a difference between self-awareness and self-centeredness. Its pretty obvious which side of the line you fall under.
Sage advice!bbking said:However, where I am different than this fellow is that I always surrounded myself with people smarter than me and willing to bust their ass for me.
Then I would steal all their good ideas.
carpe diem
A lot of great advice, thus far in this thread.
Get/ find a mentor, whom you admire!
True, surround yourself with great people, who inspire & yield success!bbking said:
A lot of great advice, thus far in this thread.
Get/ find a mentor, whom you admire!
You have lots of cash in the bank, and low overhead. If you are not happy with the way things are now why not change direction, if only for a few weeks. Go on a trip for a week or two, Cuba, Thailand, Dominican Republic, someplace totally different. Take being laid off as an opportunity to explore.
Hobbies are good, you need to do something where you can see some successes, something you can be proud of.
Exercise is important. When you exercise, you will feel better, mentally and physically. You will also look better, feel more confident, and be in a better position to score with the babes Just do it!
Hobbies are good, you need to do something where you can see some successes, something you can be proud of.
Exercise is important. When you exercise, you will feel better, mentally and physically. You will also look better, feel more confident, and be in a better position to score with the babes
Just do it!Truer words, were never spoken!
p.s. this is a good read:
http://webcenter.health.webmd.netscape.com/content/Article/93/102344.htm?printing=true
How do you have time to run your business, what with all your 10,000 word Foreign Affairs pieces you write on here???bbking said:
Hello all,
Thank you for all your replies with the exception of The Shake, which I will address in this reply.
To answer some of your questions asked:
Winston,
I took English riding lessons at York Equestrian Riding School in Newmarket. I took it for two reasons. 1. High female to male ratio. 2. I always wanted to learn to ride a horse, and if #1 didn't work out, at least I would be doing something I was interested in. I felt that learning something you wanted to do instead of something for the sole purpose of meeting a girl would put me in a better light with the females because they would see I was concentrating on riding well and enjoying myself.
I did meet someone. She turned out to be my riding instructor. She had a similar ethnic background, infectious smile, cheerful disposition, even temperament, was effortless to talk to, similar interests, a good upbringing and was easy on the eyes. Problem was she had a boyfriend. I thought he was quite a loser too. She lived in the country, and sometimes field mice would get into the house. He would run and hide in her bedroom because he was afraid of them and leave her to deal with them. Once she got a flat tire and her father had to come out and change it. I asked why her bf didn't drive out to help her, and she said he was there, but didn't know how. It's just a flat tire, not an Apollo moon launch! Instructions are in the manual and usually on a sticker in the trunk! As well, he had trouble buying himself the right size of clothes and she would have to return them for him.
It was a bit dissappointing to see her with someone like that, but I found it easy to let it go because she was such a great girl.
Paladin,
I understand what you are saying. I too have been in your situation as a glider pilot instructor. There were student pilots I couldn't recommend for solo because of lack of ability. What is perplexing though in my last position is that the Director who hired me gave me an MVP nomination, the CEO handed to me in person a pair of gold seat Blue Jays tickets for a job well done, and I recieved consistent verbal praise, but when that director moved on to another department and the two levels of management changed above me, I was let go within a month and a half and handed a termination letter with my name misspelled and two periods missing. I just think it is ironic that they say I needed to improve on my attention to detail and they couldn't spell my name when the manager would see it daily on the emails she was sent. I think my attention to detail is above average. I used to roll commercial paper in my previous job, sometimes in excess of $60,000,000 with no errors.
Shades,
I currently volunteer almost 200 hours, mostly in the spring and fall helping out with Air Cadets in their gliding program. I have been doing so for well over 10 years.
I am good and Roadwarrior II,
How far am I from making the goals I set? I figure I am about 5 years behind. I thought I would have been married and a homeowner and in a good job in my late 20's, with kids on the way in my early 30's.
Brat man 7,
I try and keep busy with my hobbies. I golf, and admittedly am not that good at it, but I take lessons at least monthly and am trying to get better. I have been a glider pilot and private pilot for over 15 years, and have put through 11 students and have logged over 1,300 flights. I also own and race a Grand National, and have won a few trophies for racing and show. I used to get my exercise by walking to work everyday rain or shine, and run half an hour once a week.
Finally, The Shake,
The self proclaimed title of Drama Queen suits you well. You've seemed to have conveniently forgotten that the thread is asking others what path they took to become successful. I believe I have expressed dispair, not bitterness. If I was bitter, I don't think I would be asking for assistance or ideas. You say I'm a complainer. I don't know what your definition of complaining is, but if someone is looking for guidance or a solution, I don't count that as complaining. You also manipulated my quote to leave out that I need to learn how to work smarter, not harder as working harder is not accomplishing my goals. If I thought I was genious like you are implying, why would I acknowledge that I need to work smarter?
To me, you are the one that needs to evaluate what kind of person you are as the only thing you have done is manipulate what I have said to put me down, changed the original focus of the thread and have provided no hint of a solution!
I'd say you are the bitter one Shake.
Thank you for all your replies with the exception of The Shake, which I will address in this reply.
To answer some of your questions asked:
Winston,
I took English riding lessons at York Equestrian Riding School in Newmarket. I took it for two reasons. 1. High female to male ratio. 2. I always wanted to learn to ride a horse, and if #1 didn't work out, at least I would be doing something I was interested in. I felt that learning something you wanted to do instead of something for the sole purpose of meeting a girl would put me in a better light with the females because they would see I was concentrating on riding well and enjoying myself.
I did meet someone. She turned out to be my riding instructor. She had a similar ethnic background, infectious smile, cheerful disposition, even temperament, was effortless to talk to, similar interests, a good upbringing and was easy on the eyes. Problem was she had a boyfriend. I thought he was quite a loser too. She lived in the country, and sometimes field mice would get into the house. He would run and hide in her bedroom because he was afraid of them and leave her to deal with them. Once she got a flat tire and her father had to come out and change it. I asked why her bf didn't drive out to help her, and she said he was there, but didn't know how. It's just a flat tire, not an Apollo moon launch! Instructions are in the manual and usually on a sticker in the trunk! As well, he had trouble buying himself the right size of clothes and she would have to return them for him.
It was a bit dissappointing to see her with someone like that, but I found it easy to let it go because she was such a great girl.
Paladin,
I understand what you are saying. I too have been in your situation as a glider pilot instructor. There were student pilots I couldn't recommend for solo because of lack of ability. What is perplexing though in my last position is that the Director who hired me gave me an MVP nomination, the CEO handed to me in person a pair of gold seat Blue Jays tickets for a job well done, and I recieved consistent verbal praise, but when that director moved on to another department and the two levels of management changed above me, I was let go within a month and a half and handed a termination letter with my name misspelled and two periods missing. I just think it is ironic that they say I needed to improve on my attention to detail and they couldn't spell my name when the manager would see it daily on the emails she was sent. I think my attention to detail is above average. I used to roll commercial paper in my previous job, sometimes in excess of $60,000,000 with no errors.
Shades,
I currently volunteer almost 200 hours, mostly in the spring and fall helping out with Air Cadets in their gliding program. I have been doing so for well over 10 years.
I am good and Roadwarrior II,
How far am I from making the goals I set? I figure I am about 5 years behind. I thought I would have been married and a homeowner and in a good job in my late 20's, with kids on the way in my early 30's.
Brat man 7,
I try and keep busy with my hobbies. I golf, and admittedly am not that good at it, but I take lessons at least monthly and am trying to get better. I have been a glider pilot and private pilot for over 15 years, and have put through 11 students and have logged over 1,300 flights. I also own and race a Grand National, and have won a few trophies for racing and show. I used to get my exercise by walking to work everyday rain or shine, and run half an hour once a week.
Finally, The Shake,
The self proclaimed title of Drama Queen suits you well. You've seemed to have conveniently forgotten that the thread is asking others what path they took to become successful. I believe I have expressed dispair, not bitterness. If I was bitter, I don't think I would be asking for assistance or ideas. You say I'm a complainer. I don't know what your definition of complaining is, but if someone is looking for guidance or a solution, I don't count that as complaining. You also manipulated my quote to leave out that I need to learn how to work smarter, not harder as working harder is not accomplishing my goals. If I thought I was genious like you are implying, why would I acknowledge that I need to work smarter?
To me, you are the one that needs to evaluate what kind of person you are as the only thing you have done is manipulate what I have said to put me down, changed the original focus of the thread and have provided no hint of a solution!
I'd say you are the bitter one Shake.
..treat people with Dignity and Respect, its tough in real life becuase life is tough, in a Business situation treat the people you work with as valuable people in your life, who are contributing to your well being, even if they are a bit of a jerk at times. Outside the office ....thats a different story altogether. Keep in mind the difference between a business and personal relationship, and most of all , watch your big mouth. The number one killer of Business relationships, never cross that line , because you may never be allowed to go back.
