Am I wrong for this?!

[SinnamonFairbanks]

I blacklist guys that don't show up or ask me for bbfs. Some guy just threw a tantrum because I refuse to see him and he can't even comprehend why not showing up is not ok and why asking me for bbfs is not ok. I don't want to see people that go looking for bbfs. He's blocked now, but he really thinks I'm power tripping because I have a vagina.

Like 90% of guys on my blacklist are there for not showing up so why exactly should I give this person a second chance?

Does anyone else take people off of their sh*t list for any reason? I feel like if I were to give someone another chance it's a very reasonable request to ask for a deposit. I know i wouldn't get it, but it puts the decision making in their hands. They can either put up or shut up.

 

[oldjones]

You did right. Not much different from a restaurant refusing another reservation from a no-show, or telling someone who had a food-fight not to come back. Asking for BBFS is like asking to bring your own fish to a seafood place, "Sorry, the only way my other customers and myself can be sure, is if I do it my way."

 

[shack]

I blacklist guys that don't show up or ask me for bbfs. Some guy just threw a tantrum because I refuse to see him and he can't even comprehend why not showing up is not ok and why asking me for bbfs is not ok. I don't want to see people that go looking for bbfs. He's blocked now, but he really thinks I'm power tripping because I have a vagina.

Like 90% of guys on my blacklist are there for not showing up so why exactly should I give this person a second chance?

Does anyone else take people off of their sh*t list for any reason? I feel like if I were to give someone another chance it's a very reasonable request to ask for a deposit. I know i wouldn't get it, but it puts the decision making in their hands. They can either put up or shut up.

1)Your two reasons for blacklisting are valid.
2)Some people deserve 2nd chances.
3)Someone who cannot understand that no-shows are not acceptable and who, on top of that, throws a hissy fit, will only cause you grief of some kind if he is given another chance. Don't even think of it.

 

[JunoxGrey]

you blocked for completely valid reasons, never let someone take advantage of you or let them think NCNS is okay. I've blocked people for much lesser reasons.

 

[dirkd101]

I see no reason why you should compromise on these principals and those who don't see where they erred, never will in the future.

 

[Jeffrey93]

You're asking purely theoretical questions.

You know what the answers are ... You don't need validation from anonymous posters on a message board... Pfft

 

[Aardvark154]

Not showing up without contacting you to explain why (preferably beforehand, or in case of dire emergency as soon as possible) is indeed inexcusable, presumably he did neither if you are banning him.

As to BBFS, have you made it clear that you will not provide this service? If so then again -- you already laid out your rules. If you have, not -- then it was a question.

 

[kherg007]

Yes this bloke's response completely validated your judgement...it's your body and you ladies demonstrate a hell of a lot of courage to share yourselves so completely with us...so even pale red flags enough to walk away forever...

 

[Halloween Mike]

No Show : If he does not show off and don't even take the time to send a quick text saying he won't be able to make it, even with a quick reason like "sorry im holded up at work, will explain later" or something like that then yes he deserve to be blacklisted. I personally as a client always hold my rdv. There is only one time i had to cancel for a valid reason and this was a NEXT DAY meeting and i sent a text the day before explaining i couldn't make it tomorow in details and i probably said sorry like 5 times... I did end up meeting that provider later and had a great time, wish i would had repeat before she quit (maybe she will come back) . Anyway... no showing without any warning is totally rude and waste the time of the provider, so yes im all for blacklisting him. As a client if an escort did the same (no explanation, just no show) i would never contact her again for sure...

BBFS : Honestly i don't even understand why some peoples ask for this... do they not value there health? If he ask you this, it mean he asked others before and may have got it as well, so there could be a bigger risk with this person. Its better to never see him indeed. You should explain to him tough why this is not something to do, not cause you own him a reason (you absolutely don't) but to put some sense in his dumb mind...

 

[Mazzi]

so does that mean you write down the phone number and the name on a spreadsheet

great....

 

[black booty lover]

so does that mean you write down the phone number and the name on a spreadsheet

great....

My guess is she's keeps track of only the guys who are jerks that don't show, or nut jobs asking for BBFS. I have to think most SP's have some sort of system to filter out this nonsense. Not really sure your what your worried about or how you expect them to deal with crap like this...

 

[TeeJay]

So much for expectations of privacy if multiple sps admit to keeping lists of clients

 

[massman]

The OP is totally reasonable in blacklisting such behaviour and indeed given this guy's behaviour she absolutely did the right thing. Not only because of the bbfs request but also his refusal to accept the fact the she has the right to see who she wishes.

 

[rgkv]

There is no right or wrong... your body, your decision... Mine is you did right, don't look back

 

[bigshot]

So much for expectations of privacy if multiple sps admit to keeping lists of clients

TJ - I don't know that she said anything about keeping a list of clients. Having said that, I'm not sure that tracking the contact info on an abusive client violates Anyone's privacy, unless she exposed him to a third party, she's done nothing wrong and no privacy has been compromised.

 

[managee]

So much for expectations of privacy if multiple sps admit to keeping lists of clients

Keeping no records at-all seems a but unrealistic, what with text / call history and/or digital records. Personal safety comes first before personal discretion, me-thinks.

I've looked at this one as "on me" to ensure the level of discretion that I need. Asking an agency or SP to delete all records of our interaction after services are rendered, wouldn't necessarily ease my paranoia, if I was indeed paranoid.

Don't use technology that connects your name, work information or actual phone numbers / email address as a client if this matters to you. Lots of threads here about how to ensure your personal privacy while hobbying.

I'm with the OP here.

 

[sweetiepieexo]

I only blacklist people in two scenarios

1.) NO SHOWS- Well because we can all agree wasting peoples time is not cool. If you book an appointment and make me go over donations/ services/ restrictions AND you ask for an address but then don't show up - then sorry you will make this list. The reason being I don't like being stood up ( don't think anyone does) and it affects my business
2.) BBFS - I think this is obvious - especially to the ladies on here.... Anytime someone asks for this automatically gets blocked and no replies given from my end. It does not matter even if you are asking if I do it or not. It should be self explanatory that any woman who respects herself will not do this with people she doesn't know-even regulars.

I have only taken two people off my blacklist ever and that's because they seemed genuinely sorry for being pushy/ being rude during our first text exchange. But other than that no I do not take anyone off that list .

 

[TFZL1]

I thought girls often share blacklisted numbers with thier friends. Seems to me they would want to warn each other to avoid clients who are pushy and/or ask for unsafe services.

 

[rhuarc29]

The only reason to take someone off your blacklist is if they had a very valid reason for being a no-show AND for not giving you the heads-up. But a guy with his attitude is unlikely to have sufficient justification.

 

[TeeJay]

I thought girls often share blacklisted numbers with thier friends. Seems to me they would want to warn each other to avoid clients who are pushy and/or ask for unsafe services.

LOL At keeping spreadsheets... uh I don't think I know anyone who does this. Blacklist for that specific provider in general just means won't be responded to/booked. For phone inquiries they may get saved as DNB for the name and phone number, in email just send all emails from them directly to trash or spam.

Which is saving personally identifiable information
I would be willing to bet most people do not have a second cell phone (esp those who infrequently hobby) and even if they had a burner phone, many people are so technologically deficient they would not really know how to hide their identity anyways

Either way SPs who keep gold lists for fav clients and black lists for people never to see again is a very alarming precedent
Most of the anon loving members of terb are falling over themselves to be the good guy and saying it is the girls right but so much for your personal privacy

A person who wants to harass a SP can very easily keep getting new cell numbers (most providers will let you do free number change once every 30 to 90 days) or activate as many dummy SIM cards as they can find (usually $5+ but many stores will do for free)