Am I being a Karen if……

[Jenesis]

I ask a guy to possibly think about parking in another spot if he sees one available?

So buddy has a big Ram style truck. A Diesel I think. But it is loud. Like really loud. He leaves at 5:15 am during the week and 8am on the weekends. He lets his car run for about 10mins to warn it up. And it is right by my bedroom window.

There would be some other parking available. Not all the time but some of the time and it would not disrupt anyone. I get sometimes, this would not be possible and I just get up, go to the spare room, stay half asleep and when I hear him drive by, I go back to bed. I would just prefer to not have to do this every morning I am home. I’m up early but 5:15am is still a bit too early for me.

So am I a Karen if I politely point out the noise and ask for some possible consideration if and only if he can swing it. I don’t want to say “don’t park here”. He is entitled to park wherever he wants but I would like to at least make him aware so that if he is like me - he would be considerate and try to avoid parking right by my bedroom window.

Should I just not bother though? I will of course tell him I’m not being a Karen and not demanding anything but parking it a hot topic button for people. Should I leave a note instead? Or personally just say “hey btw / when I see him park? I don’t want to catch him in the morning when he is literally trying to race off to work.

Because some people are so fucking entitled it seems impossible now to just have a regular conversation to even see if a resolution can be made.

If you’re a guy with a loud truck, how would you prefer to be approached about this.

Again, I’m not demanding anything. But if it was me - and I found out that it was waking someone up every morning, I would want to try and minimize that for them

Any suggestions?

 

[Sonic Temple]

If approached politely I see no issue at all, its a conversation - if he does it - great - if not well at least you can say that you were polite about it and life goes on.

 

[happeedays]

I ask a guy to possibly think about parking in another spot if he sees one available?

So buddy has a big Ram style truck. A Diesel I think. But it is loud. Like really loud. He leaves at 5:15 am during the week and 8am on the weekends. He lets his car run for about 10mins to warn it up. And it is right by my bedroom window.

There would be some other parking available. Not all the time but some of the time and it would not disrupt anyone. I get sometimes, this would not be possible and I just get up, go to the spare room, stay half asleep and when I hear him drive by, I go back to bed. I would just prefer to not have to do this every morning I am home. I’m up early but 5:15am is still a bit too early for me.

So am I a Karen if I politely point out the noise and ask for some possible consideration if and only if he can swing it. I don’t want to say “don’t park here”. He is entitled to park wherever he wants but I would like to at least make him aware so that if he is like me - he would be considerate and try to avoid parking right by my bedroom window.

Should I just not bother though? I will of course tell him I’m not being a Karen and not demanding anything but parking it a hot topic button for people. Should I leave a note instead? Or personally just say “hey btw / when I see him park? I don’t want to catch him in the morning when he is literally trying to race off to work.

Because some people are so fucking entitled it seems impossible now to just have a regular conversation to even see if a resolution can be made.

If you’re a guy with a loud truck, how would you prefer to be approached about this.

Again, I’m not demanding anything. But if it was me - and I found out that it was waking someone up every morning, I would want to try and minimize that for them

Any suggestions?

It’s sad that we are afraid to approach someone for such a reasonable request…our world has become so impersonal

 

[Mcginn193]

I ask a guy to possibly think about parking in another spot if he sees one available?

So buddy has a big Ram style truck. A Diesel I think. But it is loud. Like really loud. He leaves at 5:15 am during the week and 8am on the weekends. He lets his car run for about 10mins to warn it up. And it is right by my bedroom window.

There would be some other parking available. Not all the time but some of the time and it would not disrupt anyone. I get sometimes, this would not be possible and I just get up, go to the spare room, stay half asleep and when I hear him drive by, I go back to bed. I would just prefer to not have to do this every morning I am home. I’m up early but 5:15am is still a bit too early for me.

So am I a Karen if I politely point out the noise and ask for some possible consideration if and only if he can swing it. I don’t want to say “don’t park here”. He is entitled to park wherever he wants but I would like to at least make him aware so that if he is like me - he would be considerate and try to avoid parking right by my bedroom window.

Should I just not bother though? I will of course tell him I’m not being a Karen and not demanding anything but parking it a hot topic button for people. Should I leave a note instead? Or personally just say “hey btw / when I see him park? I don’t want to catch him in the morning when he is literally trying to race off to work.

Because some people are so fucking entitled it seems impossible now to just have a regular conversation to even see if a resolution can be made.

If you’re a guy with a loud truck, how would you prefer to be approached about this.

Again, I’m not demanding anything. But if it was me - and I found out that it was waking someone up every morning, I would want to try and minimize that for them

Any suggestions?

Not a Karen at all. His need to warm his loud ass truck for 10 minutes at 5:15am every morning doesn't trump your need to sleep in until a normal hour. I would go under the assumption that he isn't aware that it's an issue for you and politely make it known to him. I think a note on his windshield might be the most approriate method and if that fails, maybe try mentioning it to him. Personally this sounds like those guys that get up at 7am every saturday or sunday to mow their lawn except even earlier and everyday. A tad disrespectful if you ask me.

 

[gdurham]

I wouldn’t bother. It’s going to come off as a Karen no matter how it is worded.

 

[Jenesis]

Not a Karen at all. His need to warm his loud ass truck for 10 minutes at 5:15am every morning doesn't trump your need to sleep in until a normal hour. I would go under the assumption that he isn't aware that it's an issue for you and politely make it known to him. I think a note on his windshield might be the most approriate method and if that fails, maybe try mentioning it to him. Personally this sounds like those guys that get up at 7am every saturday or sunday to mow their lawn except even earlier and everyday. A tad disrespectful if you ask me.

See this is my hope. He just doesn’t know so letting him know might help.

I just don’t know if in person is better. My tone often get misread here on TERB, so I worry a hand written note with no laughter or social cues to show I’m not being demanding might not go over well. But then I worry about him feeling bombarded or confronted if I just try to speak to him directly.

I blame road wars for my anxiety over this. LOL. I have seen so many people freak out about people parking in front of their house and I swear I’m not like those people. LOL.

I wouldn’t bother. It’s going to come off as a Karen no matter how it is worded.

That is my fear really. No matter how nice I try to be, it will seem like I’m being entitled when really I’m just trying to let the guy know.

I also worry that with him knowing, he may purposely do it every morning and even rev the engine for good measure

or he does move and ends up bugging another neighbour with the same issue. Or a child. I’m able to go to the other room for 10 mins. Or I stay at a hotel when working. So if I had to, I can handle it. Someone else might not be able to.

 

[onomatopoeia]

Ask him nicely, then flash a nipple. That works with most heterosexual men, and cops.

 

[Knuckle Ball]

In my opinion you should not say anything.

The guy does not have control over what parking spots are available so sometimes he is going to have to park near your window whether he wants to or not. You are thus setting up a situation where he is going to have to feel guilty every time he parks near your window and he will feel obligated to apologize, leave you an apology note, buy you a coffee from Tim’s, or in some way atone for this sin.

I don’t think it’s fair for you to impose this on the guy.


(PS: If this guy has a Fuck Trudeau flag flying from his Dodge Ram Diesel truck then please ignore this advice and feel free to fuck with him in the most Karen-like ways possible)

 

[angrymime666]

yes you are being a karen.

 

[Jenesis]

In my opinion you should not say anything.

The guy does not have control over what parking spots are available so sometimes he is going to have to park near your window whether he wants to or not. You are thus setting up a situation where he is going to have to feel guilty every time he parks near your window and he will feel obligated to apologize, leave you an apology note, buy you a coffee from Tim’s, or in some way atone for this sin.

I don’t think it’s fair for you to impose this on the guy.


(PS: If this guy has a Fuck Trudeau flag flying from his Dodge Ram Diesel truck then please ignore this advice and feel free to fuck with him in the most Karen-like ways possible)

That is a really good point and I didn’t even think of it like that. If he has no choice, of course I don’t want him to feel bad and bringing up would make him aware. That is not fair to him at all. I agree. I know if I was the guy, I would feel bad.

So that settles it then. I will just deal but I feel better. I have a reason now for just dealing with it. If that makes any sense. Before there was a question on if I had to, but you have given the perspective I needed. So thank you.

 

[blackjackshelac]

You should definitel ask him nicely and if that doesn't wok offer to throw him a trade you for him find another parking spot permantly, thats a very good deal fro him

 

[krealtarron]

I dont think you'd be a Karen to politely request it. If you feel awkward I do like the idea of leaving a note.

I personally would oblige if someone requested this politely.

 

[tastingyou]

I ask a guy to possibly think about parking in another spot if he sees one available?

So buddy has a big Ram style truck. A Diesel I think. But it is loud. Like really loud. He leaves at 5:15 am during the week and 8am on the weekends. He lets his car run for about 10mins to warn it up. And it is right by my bedroom window.

There would be some other parking available. Not all the time but some of the time and it would not disrupt anyone. I get sometimes, this would not be possible and I just get up, go to the spare room, stay half asleep and when I hear him drive by, I go back to bed. I would just prefer to not have to do this every morning I am home. I’m up early but 5:15am is still a bit too early for me.

So am I a Karen if I politely point out the noise and ask for some possible consideration if and only if he can swing it. I don’t want to say “don’t park here”. He is entitled to park wherever he wants but I would like to at least make him aware so that if he is like me - he would be considerate and try to avoid parking right by my bedroom window.

Should I just not bother though? I will of course tell him I’m not being a Karen and not demanding anything but parking it a hot topic button for people. Should I leave a note instead? Or personally just say “hey btw / when I see him park? I don’t want to catch him in the morning when he is literally trying to race off to work.

Because some people are so fucking entitled it seems impossible now to just have a regular conversation to even see if a resolution can be made.

If you’re a guy with a loud truck, how would you prefer to be approached about this.

Again, I’m not demanding anything. But if it was me - and I found out that it was waking someone up every morning, I would want to try and minimize that for them

Any suggestions?

While there is a small chance that you are a Karen [ but I do not think so ] by asking for some consideration on this matter I do not think that anyone would consider it to be Karen like as long as you handled it in a graceful manner .

I think that there are very diplomatic ways to explain the situation and to ask if when there are other parking places available would he please use them. Under no circumstances should you ever try and deal with this situation by leaving a note- I am sure that you are much more charming in person than any note would be that you can leave for him.

If you happen to be up and awake for any reason prior to 5:15 am there is a rather recent and quite effective invention that might help [ earplugs, lol,] which you might consider if the situation does not resolve .

 

[hamermill]

As you have gone to the trouble of posting this question suggests you already know the answer and hoping for absolution.

 

[Never late]

I ask a guy to possibly think about parking in another spot if he sees one available?

So buddy has a big Ram style truck. A Diesel I think. But it is loud. Like really loud. He leaves at 5:15 am during the week and 8am on the weekends. He lets his car run for about 10mins to warn it up. And it is right by my bedroom window.

There would be some other parking available. Not all the time but some of the time and it would not disrupt anyone. I get sometimes, this would not be possible and I just get up, go to the spare room, stay half asleep and when I hear him drive by, I go back to bed. I would just prefer to not have to do this every morning I am home. I’m up early but 5:15am is still a bit too early for me.

So am I a Karen if I politely point out the noise and ask for some possible consideration if and only if he can swing it. I don’t want to say “don’t park here”. He is entitled to park wherever he wants but I would like to at least make him aware so that if he is like me - he would be considerate and try to avoid parking right by my bedroom window.

Should I just not bother though? I will of course tell him I’m not being a Karen and not demanding anything but parking it a hot topic button for people. Should I leave a note instead? Or personally just say “hey btw / when I see him park? I don’t want to catch him in the morning when he is literally trying to race off to work.

Because some people are so fucking entitled it seems impossible now to just have a regular conversation to even see if a resolution can be made.

If you’re a guy with a loud truck, how would you prefer to be approached about this.

Again, I’m not demanding anything. But if it was me - and I found out that it was waking someone up every morning, I would want to try and minimize that for them

Any suggestions?

I think you can definitely reach out and have a friendly non-confrontational conversation with a fellow neighbour as you have nothing to lose by doing so.Not knowing what your parking situation is around your house.

But I also think you should realize it’s a you problem and possibly figuring out a way for you to resolve it yourself as i.e. wearing earplugs to bed. No different than somebody that works nights and the sun bothers them when they sleep by using blackout shades on there windows. Can’t tell the sun to go Because you work nights and you need to sleep lol

 

[richaceg]

Not being a Karen. But your bedroom is pretty bad if you can hear a truck from your bedroom. I run my ram and my neighbor has a raptor and he runs even earlier than me and we both can't hear our trucks running in the morning....when we warm it up. I have to peek sometimes just to check if it indeed autostart or it didn't because I didn't hear anything . Again, you're not being a Karen if it simply bothers you and he has other options for parking.

 

[Marky--mark]

When I used to live in a subdivision the people behind me were having landscaping done. These guys would start blazing the stone cutting saws at 7am every morning for about a week. So basically all the loud stuff in the morning than the quieter stuff later on. I approached the neighbor as they were at work at these times and didn’t know that this was going on. I asked her politely but told her that a bunch of the neighbors were pissed off about it. The very next morning it was peace and quiet. This is also part of the reason I live in the country now. What a difference!

 

[Dirkpit]

The only way talking to him works is if he finds you attractive and sweet. A little bit of flirting and he might try to help you out. Otherwise he is just starting his truck and going to work, not really doing anything wrong.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I ask a guy to possibly think about parking in another spot if he sees one available?

So buddy has a big Ram style truck. A Diesel I think. But it is loud. Like really loud. He leaves at 5:15 am during the week and 8am on the weekends. He lets his car run for about 10mins to warn it up. And it is right by my bedroom window.

There would be some other parking available. Not all the time but some of the time and it would not disrupt anyone. I get sometimes, this would not be possible and I just get up, go to the spare room, stay half asleep and when I hear him drive by, I go back to bed. I would just prefer to not have to do this every morning I am home. I’m up early but 5:15am is still a bit too early for me.

So am I a Karen if I politely point out the noise and ask for some possible consideration if and only if he can swing it. I don’t want to say “don’t park here”. He is entitled to park wherever he wants but I would like to at least make him aware so that if he is like me - he would be considerate and try to avoid parking right by my bedroom window.

Should I just not bother though? I will of course tell him I’m not being a Karen and not demanding anything but parking it a hot topic button for people. Should I leave a note instead? Or personally just say “hey btw / when I see him park? I don’t want to catch him in the morning when he is literally trying to race off to work.

Because some people are so fucking entitled it seems impossible now to just have a regular conversation to even see if a resolution can be made.

If you’re a guy with a loud truck, how would you prefer to be approached about this.

Again, I’m not demanding anything. But if it was me - and I found out that it was waking someone up every morning, I would want to try and minimize that for them

Any suggestions?

Well. to answer the first part of your question. That ship has sailed.
Second question. Guy sounds like a cunt. Doubt he will be swayed by reasonable persuasion.

 

[drstrangelove]

Assuming you live in Toronto, there is an anti idling bylaw stating vehicles can't be left idling for more than 1 minute. You could either remind him of this, or be a real Karen and report him to the authorities.