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sevenstrings00

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My sp just asked me out (off the clock). My questions are as follows:

Should I go? Should I talk to her about how to proceed with our “business” relationship? Should I ever attempt to conduct “business” when she is off the clock? I guess what I am looking for is any advice from people who have had an off the clock relationship.

Thanks.
 
I wish I could say treat it like any other prospective romance. Don't get emotionally attached too quickly. Keep it light and see how the relationship develops. Seek out her intentions and expectations. Also: ensure that she is emotionally balanced. 'Business' should not enter the picture.
 
"Should I go? "

Do you want to go?
If yes, then rather then asking business questions I would go and enjoy yourself and forget temporarly the other stuff. Thinks may come up as you go.....and perhaps you'll get a feeling on how things will go.
Have fun....
 
No i am single. im a young guy, early twenties.

i guess i just feel strange because i know what she does and i use her services. I do want to go. She is a really cute and wonderful girl. Also, what should i do when i want to use her services?
 
sevenstrings00 said:
No i am single. im a young guy, early twenties.

i guess i just feel strange because i know what she does and i use her services. I do want to go. She is a really cute and wonderful girl. Also, what should i do when i want to use her services?
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Why the hesitation???

Why even think about using her services again when you may get it for free??
 
Machine said:
I wish I could say treat it like any other prospective romance. Don't get emotionally attached too quickly. Keep it light and see how the relationship develops. Seek out her intentions and expectations. Also: ensure that she is emotionally balanced. 'Business' should not enter the picture.
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Both Machine and Stoo’s replies are very valid. I have been down this road myself and it all went very wrong very quickly, the girl was not emotionally balanced and I was married. And once you have crossed the line, you cannot go back to your original SP / client relationship.

Nevertheless, if the opportunity should present itself again, I know I would go for it again.

:o
 
What is the big deal.. she is just like any other girl. I recommend you invite her over for a nice home cooked meal... I bet she would do an excellent job helping to shuck the corn and stuff sausage casings!
 
Surprisingly enough, SPs are people too with feelings and aspirations just like the rest of us.

This girl obviously likes you enough to ask you out. If you think you can have a "normal" relationship with her, then why not? From a long-term perspective, the vast majority of ladies eventually retire from the biz anyway so it's not likely that she'll be an SP forever.

But if you think you'll get hung up on the fact that she's an SP and that she boffs (many) other guys, then stop now and keep things on a biz level.
 
sevenstrings00 said:
Should I talk to her about how to proceed with our “business” relationship?
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If she asked you out presumably she wants to move to another level that doesn't include business. Any mention of biz while out may insult her or at the very least make you look like a knob....IMHO.

Personally once I engage in off the clock activity with an industry girl of any kind the business stops....period; if things work out for a while great if they don't that's fine too but I never go back to a business relationship. I believe it's part of the 'Guy Code'. To me it would be the equivalent of offering your girlfriend money for sex after she dumped you.

Good luck!
 
What baci said... he's a wise man.

Especially the "good luck" part.
 
Hi sevenstrings00!!!

Having been there.... and done that, (twice, actually), let me offer you some advice...

If you really are genuinely interested in her, (and not just for the free sex).... I say... "Go for it!"

My two longest relationships have both been with "customers turned BF". I don't purposely seek out customers to be my BF or anything... it just happened because I was spending time with them (as customers) and we grew to like each other. (Actually, that's not exactly the whole truth..... Truth was.... we were horny as hell, and we just need someone to boink the hell out of... :D )

Anyways, my first relationship with a "customer turned BF" lasted 6 and a half years, and my second relationship with a "customer turned BF" lasted a little over 4 years (the guy in my posts that I call a**hole). The second relationship was a disaster... but the first relationship was good. It only ended because the passion was gone and I could not see myself marrying him. But he was always good to me, and I was always good to him.

The reason why I'm telling you to "forget it", if you're only interested in her for the free sex, is because it would not be the right thing to do. You would only be leading her on and hurting her in the end. I know sometimes, people feel that just because we are in the "adult business", that we somehow are less emotional when it comes to love and all that stuff... but it's totally not true. We fall in love... and we get hurt too. Sometimes, deeply.....

So if you're enjoying her services, but not quite sure if you want to take things to the next level.... best thing to do is be honest about it. But do realize though... that if you do decide to take things further, don't expect her to quit her work... 'cuz most likely, she won't. Or can't.... So make sure you're o.k. with her job. Otherwise, it'll just be a heartache at the end.

Best of luck....
 
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