SP's who give it up off the clock

choclatluvr

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Hi all,

Haven't posted in a long time but lurk regularly, been hobbying a bit both on the mp and sp side and sharing info via PM...I have a story I want to tell with the purpose being to brag a little and also explain why I now feel like I can be free of the hobby for a long time to come.

Every hobbyist has the dream where he is so desirable that his favourite provider offers her services for free...well this happened to me this weekend.

About a month ago I noticed via an sp review that a popular agency had brought onboard a lady who physically fulfilled every one of my fantasies, the type of woman I'd been trying for so long to figure out how to meet, the type of woman I've searched torrent sites for every week during the past few years.

So I booked a late afternoon weekend appointment and it was everything I wanted, not only was she physically exactly as was represented in her photos and description but also really nice, very passionate and enthusiastic, perfect GFE/PSE mix, we had a great time. At the end of the session she asked me what I was doing later that night. I said I was partying, she said she might want to meet up. I gave my cell# and headed off into the night. I never heard from her, frankly I never expected to so I wasn't mad, I always figured I could book another session.

Some unexpected costs prevented me from seeing her again as quickly as I wanted to but fastforward to this weekend and finally the opportunity to book another session. I go see her and boom, as soon as I walk into the room she's all over me, within 15 minutes the first SOG is out of the way and the inquisition begins..."where have you been, I've been trying to call you, you gave me the wrong number, I missed you so much, I think about you everyday"...I was blown away, I said if I gave you the wrong number it was totally unintentional, I definitely have been wanting to see you again. She shows me the paper I wrote my number on, turns out it was just my poor handwriting on one of the numbers that confused her. Anyway I apologized, made sure she had the right number then had an absolutely wild romp that resulted in the second SOG and an agreement to meet outside of the business the next day.

I walked from her location to my buddy's place after the session, she calls during the trip to say how much fun she had and she can't wait to see me the next day. Then she calls again at 2am when I'm home just passing out again saying she can't sleep and is so excited. At this point I'm thinking this chick is going to give me whatever I want, I'm just going to go to her place next day, shag the shit out of her for free and see what happens.

Next day she calls with directions to her place (I wanted to avoid the potential consequences of her knowing where I live so we made plans to hang out at her place then maybe go out), I make my way there early evening shaking my head while trying to comprehend that this is actually happening. Show up to her apt with a bottle of wine...let's just say it's very very small one room, like tiny. I have to admit that having grown up in a very comfortable family and now making a nice living for myself I wasn't used to this type of humble abode, it threw me off for sure. But the way she greeted me quickly helped with adjusting to the conditions and before I knew it we were naked, going at it like people who hadn't done it in years. Very aggressive hot sex with a PS finish, perfect start. At this point she knew very little about me beyond the physical but her compliments of my appearance and prowess had me wondering if my head would fit through the door when I left.

We talked for a bit, drank some wine, but I couldn't keep my hands off her body (she was very receptive) and before you know it we're going at it again, the neighbours easily knew what was going on, it was incredibly hot, aggressive, with another scintillating finish.

So we hung out a little more, drank some more wine, I was starting to realize that I'd accomplished my goals and just wanted to get out of there (plus I'd made plans to meet friends later that night) so I used the "I don't want to drink and drive excuse" and slowly but firmly started to work myself out of a situation I was no longer comfortable in. The conversation was fine, flowed easily and we had some things in common but knowing I wasn't going to do her again I wanted to hit the road.

She started talking about meeting again, I was definite about the fact that we would be taking things VERY slowly and that I would not be available again until the following weekend. She seemed to take it well and we parted with a very friendly embrace.

What I've realized though is that I won't be seeing this slut again. I won't be spending any more time or money on her. As I said before every hobbyist dreams of the chance to screw his favourite sp on his terms with no dough exchanged, well that happened to me, I'm very happy about that and also pleased with the way I handled the situation. Maybe if her living conditions were more acceptable or if I felt like I wanted to be in a relationship then I would give her another shot. The whole fact of her being an sp is a non-issue I have no problem with that. But this fantasy has been fulfilled, obviously if an sp is willing to give it up to me for free after she knows I'll pay for it then there are plenty of other little hunnies out there who are probably living better who will let me get in with no cash exchanged in the first place. Why pay for it when it's out there for free .

I'm going to call her this week, let her down easy, be glad that all she knows is my cell (and I know hers so calls are easily blocked) and feel pretty good about myself.

Fuck it's fun being me, any feedback, opinions, kudos, or similar stories would be much appreciated.
 
Nice story, but why do you consider her a slut for desiring the same thing as you? It's interesting you are judging her by her economic background, why not try to get to know her more before casting her aside?
 
Svend said:
Nice story, but why do you consider her a slut for desiring the same thing as you? It's interesting you are judging her by her economic background, why not try to get to know her more before casting her aside?


nah let him dump her and then she will learn a lesson from all this to keep it strictly business. Then again maybe you are willing to take her out for dinner and talk to her after he breaks it off with her? (I say that because I know you are a very kind hearted person.) I sort of feel sorry for her in this situation in that she gave it up too easily looking for some fun with a man that she prob thought could be some fun on the side.

You know I am sure all us sp's have met men that have honesly done it to us the way we really desire and pushed all the right buttons, but this is a good example as to why to keep away and enjoy them when you can get them. I really feel sorry for new girls that have to learn this lesson the hard way as they are the most vulnerable to want to just have some fun. To all new girls have your fun with men who offer to take you out off the clock from themselves.
 
I think you're right Stacey, it's a good lesson for other young women here starting out. It sounds like this girl would have no trouble attracting a guy on the town anyway.
 
Actually, choclatluvr, you sound like an egotistical, misogynistic, hypocrite.

You should be proud of yourself for charming this girl into wanting you as a boyfriend, but you should be ashamed for:

a) treating her like a piece of trash (she is person with feelings, after all)

b) judging her based on her economic situation

c) bragging about it on a review board. If it's so fucking fun being you, why do you need our validation?

My feedback to you would be to grow up and get over yourself. What goes around comes around, buddy.

One day, someone will callously disregard your feelings. Then tell us how fun it is being you.
 
Let her down in a kind way if you must. I hate being nasty and mean to other people..who were nice to me. ..so be a good guy and explain it to her as nice as you can. She is a human and has feelings just as you do. Just because she is an SP doesn't make her any less a person than anybody else.

And don't call her a slut for for enjoying your company.....I'd say it was a compliment.
Slut is a very nasty and demeaning term......unless of course your fucking at the time and then it's most erotic if your lady is cool with it.
Give her a break and be a gentleman above all.
 
She certainly deserves to be found out as to who she is in my opinion because it sounds to me like she really enjoys sex. Now she could be jaded a little bit. Too bad. :(

Thanks goodness there is several very sweet men out there the thing is girls have to learn to give it more time to know who these men are. BTW I am going out on the 5th. :-D We all deserve time out. There is lots of men who just like to spend time out with ladies after the business is done. If you need to go have fun while in the business stick with these types of men. Or have fun on your own time out on the town.

Test the sincerity of the men never rush into anything and never view them as a bf.
 
Thanks for the replies all, I really wanted to talk (alright brag) about this so I appreciate the responses from all angles.

I think the way me and the boys love to toss around "slut" less as an insult and more as a term of admiration (e.g. we "love" sluts and wish there were more of them) has softened the impact of the word for me as compared to others, I don't mean to offend anybody.

What I'm saying is that for a very desirable sp to offer to see you outside of business is incredibly satisfying to the ego, I'm still riding the trip and probably will be for awhile. What I think it also means though is that this validates the idea that if this woman will sleep with me for free when I've demonstrated my willingness to to pay her for her services (the hobbyists ultimate fantasy), other women who are not in the business will also be willing to have a romp without any dollars exchanged in the first place.

So why jump into any relationships when clearly I should be out there chasing free tail?!?! I'm morally ambiguous re: her occupation, it even kind of turns me on especially considering that her occupation may allow for a very open view of sex, but I could not spend any time at her place, so we would always be at mine which I am not cool with at all, there is better possibility of an sp being involved with undesirable elements and I'm a single guy with a good job so my pad is well appointed, there's a risk there I can't accept. Also I'm not interested in supporting anybody, this city is full of beautiful woman who can support themselves, don't get me wrong I learned to share and enjoy it but I like the other person to be in a position to share with me as well.

And Stacy..."misogynist"...I see from my post why you might think that way but definitely not, I love women so much I want to pleasure them all!
 
Indiana said:
Svend, Miss Maya and Sheik.. I totally agree with you.



Stacey4U2luv, I understand where you are coming from, but frankly, not all of us are trying to take advantage of a lady.

I totally agree with you hun but we all must learn to know the difference. :)
 
choclatluvr said:
I think the way me and the boys love to toss around "slut" less as an insult and more as a term of admiration (e.g. we "love" sluts and wish there were more of them) has softened the impact of the word for me as compared to others, I don't mean to offend anybody.
I understand, I'm a slut as well. :D
 
Seems you got it backwards.

From your post it seems she asked you out because you were one type of person but dumping on her and calling her a "slut" you proved your not.

Don't trip over yourself patting yourself on the back because you may not come across the same offer anytime soon. (Just going by what you posted.)

I know it is suppose to be an ego trip for you... I like to be feed my ego by actually being nice to people and respecting them. Hey everyone's different.

Enjoy.
 
Indiana said:
I sensed that she feel head over heels for you which is not a healthy thing for her to have reacted the way she did after the first meeting. She will be hurt when you let her down. Again, my $0.02 only.

Well I have to admit I kind of thought the same thing but until I read your post it was strictly an ego inflator for me, the fact that a woman could fall for me after a single appointment where I PAID her for her time, it doesn't seem like that happens, or should happen and it says something positive about me...I mean I always get along well with the providers I see but I generally walk out thinking that she has a lower opinion of me because I paid for her services.

I guess I've thought that providers were ambivalent about their feelings for customers, that they were there to provide a service (thank god it exists) and there was no feeling involved from her end, so I was thinking that I could end this just as quickly, no harm, no foul

I'm definitely not trying to hurt anybody...
 
KWI said:
So you get a big head from her going off the clock with you......

You want a bigger head and long trip so you come here to brag......

You got to ckeck mark off a scene from your fantasy list and now want to dump the "slut" and then you come to defend your comments by saying that you meant "slut" in the most loving of ways............

Did I get all that right?????

Maybe by using "slut" I was being a little over enthusiastic...but generally yeah...you got it.
 
This is not every hobbyist's dream. In fact it is actually far from it. Most of the seasoned hobbyists here on TERB have had plenty of off the clock encounters with SP's, MPA's, and even dancers. This type of thing is for yourself to enjoy, and not some story to go telling everyone, especially when you dumped her and called her a slut. At first I thought this was a good story, and I was happy for you. Then it took a weird turn and you for some reason didn't want anything to do with this woman you just not too long ago thought was the epitomy of your fantasies. Perhaps hobbyists have different goals when participating in this hobby. I am not here to judge you nor the hobby we both love, but does calling her a slut and knowing you got sex for free make you feel like a bigger man? If you were the bigger man, you should of told her that very night that you were only looking for free sex, and you wouldn't want to see her again. If she still went though with it, then you'd be the man. However, right now, all you have done is made this SP more skeptical about men then she probably was to begin with. :cool:

BTW, for your benefit, I hope she doesn't read TERB.
 
I'm going to call her this week, let her down easy

choclatluvr,

I hope you do this, especially the 'let her down easy' part.

I've just reread the initial post (twice), as well as your responses to the feedback. Maybe it's just your writing style (???) that makes you come across as callous, uncaring and misogynistic. Maybe you're just young. But that is, indeed, how you come across, and you can see from the feedback that many of us are alarmed at your 'apparent' attitude toward this woman who seems to have let her guard way down for you. And alarmed at the hurt she might be in for from you.

Be a man, and treat her right, k?

-V
 
I am very glad that I wasn't the only one who picked up on this assholes big-headed demeaner.

Hey buddy, you're a dick, through and through. The fact that you called her a slut adds to the point.

This girl was obviously smitten with you and you used her as a fuck doll and dropped her. I have had my share of one night stands, but the comfort level was there because we were both on the same level. I would not and could not go through with a one-night stand if I knew the girl wanted something more than a fuck.

While I'm no Daddy Warbucks, I am familiar with lots of money and the well life. However, I don't look down on women or men for that matter who have not had as generous a life as myself. In fact, I have dated donut shop workers. I don't put my money as the thing that defines me. It's the human things and compassion for others that define me. I'm not here blowing my own horn but rather pointing out to you that well to do people shouldn't be looking down on the less fortunate.

Your mentality is really sickening. You should stick to your upper crust crowd because heaven forbid you might have to screw another low class chick. :rolleyes:

What a fucking asshole this guy is. WOW
 
Rarely I aggree with Ruck. Got to hand it to you on this Ruck you nailed it. :D
 
hunter001 said:
Rarely I aggree with Ruck. Got to hand it to you on this Ruck you nailed it. :D
Rarely? How come? LOL Glad we agree on what's important.