Advice Needed - Nice Girl

[Spacewalker]

Be patient, give her time...sooner or later their true colours will show and they all turn into bitches at one point or another! LOL

 

[Greekstar]

You need to have sex with her as soon as the opportunity presents itself.
Otherwise you will become a "friend" without benefits.

 

[Dewalt]

Enjoy it for the time being. It sounds like you will fuck it up soon enough with all the imprinting the Bitches have done to you over the years. I just hope you don't make her cry too much.

 

[amber-jade]

I really really hope that TH here is kidding.

In my experience, the best relationships I had with women were the ones in which I I took charge. No waffling, no "where do you want to go tonight, honey?", no "That's ok, we can just cuddle", no "We can watch whatever you want to watch." She may actually like it when you're a doormat, but like doesn't get you anywhere.

Respect does. So you have to earn her respect. That means saying "no" more often, that means saying, "We're going to such-and-such restaurant," saying, "I'd rather watch the game. If you wish to watch the movie, feel free to use the TV in the bedroom."

I know it sounds absurd and counter-intuitive but dammit it works.

Do your knuckles drag on the ground when you walk zogg ?

 

[capncrunch]

Be yourself. Be considerate. Don't be a doormat, but don't be a rude obnoxious jerk.

You know, it's often heard in many contexts that the best thing to do is "be yourself."

But what if "being yourself" isn't working? What if "being yourself" got you in the current state (whatever it is) in the first place?

How about trying to be better than you were yesterday and the day before that? Better in confidence, better in consideration, better in leading, better in any way you can think of? It means, at the start, not "being yourself." It means being BETTER than yourself. Big difference.

 

[capncrunch]

Do your knuckles drag on the ground when you walk zogg ?

Amber, with great respect, I submit that you were attracted to the man you are currently with because he showed leadership characteristics. He refused to be a doormat, he took the lead when it was necessary, and when he said "yes" to something you knew he could be counted on 100% to follow through. He was not the "nice guy." He was not the guy women settle for, he was - and is - the guy that you respect.

 

[Ladyraven]

Do your knuckles drag on the ground when you walk zogg ?

LMAO... I was thinking along those lines myself

 

[Ladyraven]

Amber, with great respect, I submit that you were attracted to the man you are currently with because he showed leadership characteristics. He refused to be a doormat, he took the lead when it was necessary, and when he said "yes" to something you knew he could be counted on 100% to follow through. He was not the "nice guy." He was not the guy women settle for, he was - and is - the guy that you respect.

Believe it not you can respect a man without him being a ass...

 

[Surfbum84]

I've slept with her already. That's not the issue.

I just want to make sure I dont screw things up by being too nice, or too much of an ass. I'm going to just mirror her personality and see how it goes ahha.

 

[Rockslinger]

How about trying to be better than you were yesterday and the day before that? Better in confidence, better in consideration, better in leading, better in any way you can think of? It means, at the start, not "being yourself." It means being BETTER than yourself.

That's right, Surfbum. We expect you to do better than you are. We hold you to a higher standard. We expect you to be morally superior than the rest.

 

[Rockslinger]

I've slept with her already.

Damn! There is nothing else to look forward to. Hee, hee, hee.

 

[moviefan]

That's right, Surfbum. We expect you to do better than you are. We hold you to a higher standard. We expect you to be morally superior than the rest.

I know I do.

 

[capncrunch]

Believe it not you can respect a man without him being a ass...

A sentiment to which I heartily agree. Nobody's said anything about the man being an ass. On the contrary, a good man is the furthest thing from an ass. I'm not sure I understand the binary nature of your answer. He's either a spineless nice guy or an ass?

That's right, Surfbum. We expect you to do better than you are. We hold you to a higher standard. We expect you to be morally superior than the rest.

Should we not all strive to be better than we were yesterday?

 

[amber-jade]

Amber, with great respect, I submit that you were attracted to the man you are currently with because he showed leadership characteristics. He refused to be a doormat, he took the lead when it was necessary, and when he said "yes" to something you knew he could be counted on 100% to follow through. He was not the "nice guy." He was not the guy women settle for, he was - and is - the guy that you respect.

nope,thats not it at all cap.

 

[Rockslinger]

Should we not all strive to be better than we were yesterday?

Ok, I hold you to a higher standard as well. I expect you to do better than you are. Don't disappoint me.

 

[Brill]

A more cynical guy might question why someone is asking for women advice on a forum filled with divorced pooners LOL

lol
Pooners misunderstood the rules, we have hire instead of higher standards.

 

[pilot123]

In the short term you have all the great advices already here.

But in the long term, I think you'll have to work harder, be more ambitious, and successful overall than her. (since you said she is hard working and such) on top of you just being nice, etc.
Most wonderful looking, hardworking women will want a man equal or better than her. Otherwise, its difficult to keep such a trophy.

 

[needinit]

Treat others as you wish to be treated.

Don't be yourself - be someone a little nicer. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966

There is one word which may serve as a rule of practice for all one's life - reciprocity. ~Confucius

And in my own words appreciate it, acknowledge it, enjoy it, and let yourself be generous as well!...enjoy what may be a wonderful relationship

 

[Kailani]

Just take a deep breath and follow your heart Answer will come and you can do what's right. Take time and think before you do something with her or for her. This is my advice to you.

 

[Rockslinger]

This so funny. I'm watching the Big Bang Theory and Dr. Cooper keeps attracting women who are attracted to him because of his intellectual prowess. Women are so shallow.

Anyway, back to our friend Surfbum.