Be patient, give her time...sooner or later their true colours will show and they all turn into bitches at one point or another! LOL
Do your knuckles drag on the ground when you walk zogg ?I really really hope that TH here is kidding.
In my experience, the best relationships I had with women were the ones in which I I took charge. No waffling, no "where do you want to go tonight, honey?", no "That's ok, we can just cuddle", no "We can watch whatever you want to watch." She may actually like it when you're a doormat, but like doesn't get you anywhere.
Respect does. So you have to earn her respect. That means saying "no" more often, that means saying, "We're going to such-and-such restaurant," saying, "I'd rather watch the game. If you wish to watch the movie, feel free to use the TV in the bedroom."
I know it sounds absurd and counter-intuitive but dammit it works.
You know, it's often heard in many contexts that the best thing to do is "be yourself."Be yourself. Be considerate. Don't be a doormat, but don't be a rude obnoxious jerk.
Amber, with great respect, I submit that you were attracted to the man you are currently with because he showed leadership characteristics. He refused to be a doormat, he took the lead when it was necessary, and when he said "yes" to something you knew he could be counted on 100% to follow through. He was not the "nice guy." He was not the guy women settle for, he was - and is - the guy that you respect.Do your knuckles drag on the ground when you walk zogg ?
LMAO... I was thinking along those lines myselfDo your knuckles drag on the ground when you walk zogg ?
Believe it not you can respect a man without him being a ass...Amber, with great respect, I submit that you were attracted to the man you are currently with because he showed leadership characteristics. He refused to be a doormat, he took the lead when it was necessary, and when he said "yes" to something you knew he could be counted on 100% to follow through. He was not the "nice guy." He was not the guy women settle for, he was - and is - the guy that you respect.
That's right, Surfbum. We expect you to do better than you are. We hold you to a higher standard. We expect you to be morally superior than the rest.How about trying to be better than you were yesterday and the day before that? Better in confidence, better in consideration, better in leading, better in any way you can think of? It means, at the start, not "being yourself." It means being BETTER than yourself.
Damn! There is nothing else to look forward to. Hee, hee, hee.I've slept with her already.
I know I do.That's right, Surfbum. We expect you to do better than you are. We hold you to a higher standard. We expect you to be morally superior than the rest.
A sentiment to which I heartily agree. Nobody's said anything about the man being an ass. On the contrary, a good man is the furthest thing from an ass. I'm not sure I understand the binary nature of your answer. He's either a spineless nice guy or an ass?Believe it not you can respect a man without him being a ass...
Should we not all strive to be better than we were yesterday?That's right, Surfbum. We expect you to do better than you are. We hold you to a higher standard. We expect you to be morally superior than the rest.
nope,thats not it at all cap.Amber, with great respect, I submit that you were attracted to the man you are currently with because he showed leadership characteristics. He refused to be a doormat, he took the lead when it was necessary, and when he said "yes" to something you knew he could be counted on 100% to follow through. He was not the "nice guy." He was not the guy women settle for, he was - and is - the guy that you respect.
Ok, I hold you to a higher standard as well. I expect you to do better than you are. Don't disappoint me.Should we not all strive to be better than we were yesterday?
lolA more cynical guy might question why someone is asking for women advice on a forum filled with divorced pooners LOL