Hi Luna, you know I respect you 100%, but I don't agree with a lot of your statements. You have to realize that a lot of clients are "socially inept", and can't get into a real "civi" relationship, if their life depended on it. Therefore these guys see SP's "out of desperation", if the guy wants any sort of sex life, at all. I checked out some of your selfies, and you're "gorgeous" looking, so I can understand how some clients might be awkward in approaching you. For example, sending you very long e-mails etc.
Also, a client is paying a lot of money to see you, so in some ways they deserve to be pampered. You have to realize that a "socially" inept guy who's sees a "gorgeous" SP like yourself, for a 3 hour date, can start getting boundary issues blurred. FYI, a lot of SP's don't offer 3 hr dates , because they don't have the "gravitas", and high level social skills, that you seem to possess. I don't see how seeing a pretty escort like yourself, can lead to addiction. Luna, you have to realize that most escorts aren't like you. A lot of escorts are just happy with a bunch of 1 hr dates, as some escorts themselves, don't have the social skills to go on romantic outings or for dinner dates with "fun" after.
Are you saying that I shouldn't be offering longer dates because if I do I need to give something more than what the guy paid for? I really don't understand what you're talking about. You don't think my clients are being pampered? It seems like you're projecting a whole narrative onto me, when in fact you have never met me and if you look at most of my reviews they are written by very satisfied customers, who didn't necessarily book longer than a hour.
The guys who book these dates are not socially inept, let me tell you that. They are usually men who are very intelligent and good conversationalists and want to spend time with someone they feel they can have discussions with. What you have to realize is that I worked very hard at developing social skills and that is what you and others also don't understand. I never said I wasn't happy with 1 hour dates lol you are making that assumption. I get all sorts of dates. But I am not ''tricking'' socially inept men into booking me for multiple hours if that is what you're implying lol.. And I don't think booking long dates is what leads to addiction. It's consuming escort services like it's junk food, that does. Addiction is compulsive behavior. I am not going to become a food addict because I went to a nice restaurant with a 7 course meal. I'm more likely to become a food addict if I don't take care of my mental health and emotional well being and I compulsively eat junk food
Not necessarily. A lot of SP's on terb, get constantly good reviews, like Abby@DD, and Jenn@Mirage, to name a couple. Some guys like reviewing, as it helps the other guys avoid subpar sp's, and to help guys not waste money. As you know this "hobby", isn't cheap.
Luna, in my opinion, you're making a lot of generalizations. With that being said, I still respect you 100% , and I appreciate your opinions from an SP's point of view. A lot of sp's are too scared, to be as open and honest as you are, as they are afraid that they'll lose business. However, you're an independent provider, whose "gorgeous" looking, so you can get away with it.
I feel like you're missing my point. I know seeing an escort isn't cheap. However, this isn't a hobby and no one is entitled to these services. Believe me, I am scared of losing business and I do have some haters, but I allow myself to be outspoken on the behalf of other providers who, like I have in the past, have been targets of men who were aggressive, saw us as objects and pushed our boundaries. It seems like you don't see the amount of work, resources, and energy I put into this business.. I haven't always been an independent provider, either. I have worked for massage parlors as well, for a while. And when I started as an indy, my rates were very low and since I was new I was targeted by the type of sex addicts who have lower empathy, they tried to lowball me and treated me without respect.
Sometimes guys, don't have the ability to get in real life relationships, for whatever reason. That's why seeing SP's, "is the world's oldest profession." It's a much needed service.
No one is entitled to sex, NO ONE. Not even me. I grew up getting bullied and my family members were cold. I have always been seen as ''weird'' and never had friends when I was young. Social skills are things that you can work on. Believe it or not, you can work on yourself. Nobody is doomed to be single their whole lives and doomed to spend money on escort services. I have had long periods in my life during which I was single and didn't have a partner, couldn't find one. It was usually because I needed to work on myself.
Addiction often happens because someone has unhealed trauma and undiagnosed mental health struggles that they need to address, which is nothing to be ashamed of.. But it's something that has be worked on with the help of a therapist. Lots of men are lonely and socially inept but aren't addicted to porn or seeing escorts, btw. I hear this excuse a lot.. ''I see SP on a regular basis and feel addicted to it, because I am unattractive and don't have good social skills''..
There was a client I had before who was convinced he was ugly, but he was actually well dressed and cute. He was an intelligent, pleasant man but held so much anger and resentment, and he was CONVINCED that he could never find a girlfriend and had to see escorts forever. He spent all his time on a review board and would see girls from agencies and write reviews, spent all his (pretty good) salary on hour long appointments with escorts that he actually never even got to know as people. In reality he had developed a sex addiction. Many such cases.
