A daughters Perception of a Father dating young women

[Claudia Love]

Ok guys my dad is a great man in every aspect I love him to pieces. It never bothered me before with older guys seeing younger ladies until my own father started dating young women. Hes in his late 60s my parents had me very young. Now the reason im doing this thread is simply this I want you guys who are older to see the perspective of a daughter of a father who sees strictly young ladies. My dad was flying to Vancouver for business he told me he could stop in Toronto for a few hours to see me I saw this girl standing beside him and I thought this girl looks lost why is she walking with him towards me. So my dad introduces her to me and we make introductions she had a face that looked 18 but I later found out she was 21.So my dad says this is my new travel companion and no she's not an escort she's a waitress at a cocktail bar in Florida who I found out approached my dad in the bar restaurant and gave him her number. So then they started seeing each other casually.Not living together but going out on dinner dates movies and golfing . So here's the situation I saw my dad and her for a couple hours at the airport last week.My dad called me tonight and said what do you think? Im like honestly ....I think im very uncomfortable with this and I said to him your nieces are the same ageThis kinda makes my stomach turn. Hes like why what's the big deal age is only a number. Im like yes but if you too became serious and she tried acting like a mom to me I think id either laugh or cry. So he says hes only attracted to young ladies and his last girlfriend who was 55 he finds over 40 women not attractive. I said to him seriously dad your own daughter is 50 how can you say such shit. he says well your one of the few that takes care of yourself and is a beautiful woman for your age. But most over 40 woman make his skin crawl.

Now he knows I escort and he accepts me for me. But this really disturbed me greatly that my own father is openly telling me this shit. Like I wish he would've had his 20 year old women flings and kept it to himself. Ill always love and look up to my dad. But im disgusted that he wants a 21 year old. its easy for me to see other guys go for younger but when its your own dad its different. Now I told him I dont want to hear about her infact I told him I dont want to see her again and if he chooses to visit me to not bring her along I just feel so sick about it. Hes had tons of girlfriends in there 30s almost 40s and I got along great with them. But this girl was younger than my own adult children.Like honestly if your 68 year old mother who's divorced started seeing 21 year old men and your her son and your 50 years old . Would this bother you I honestly think it would bother you men. I cant even tell him how I really feel cause hes gonna think im trying ruin things for him but it disgusts me cause hes my DAD.its like as much as I love him I dont look at him the same way way now I look at him like being a pervert trying to take advantage of a 21 year old. Now my dads never been abusive to me on any level.but I just cant seem to get rid of my disgust feeling about this. I just cant believe this is really happening if my mom found out I think shed have a heart attack so im not telling her but my brother is very weirded out by it too and hes a guy ...I know my feelings are valid and I have to be honest but im having a real difficult time accepting this and I dont want it ruining my dads relationship with me .....Any caring advice is appreciated im embarrassed to mention this to my friends thanks

I realize men here will say good for him hes got a young lady. It doesn't bother me when 60 to 80 year olds see 20 year olds. But because my dads doing it I feel sick about it.ugh

 

[gharamlifter]

was she cute?

 

[shack]

I realize men here will say good for him hes got a young lady. It doesn't bother me when 60 to 80 year olds see 20 year olds. But because my dads doing it I feel sick about it.ugh

Is it fair that for any other older guy in the world, your moral compass tells you it's ok, but that compass changes direction for your dad?

Just askin'.

 

[shack]

was she cute?

Did she have big tits?

 

[oil&gas]

There is an interview of Christie Hefner in the presence of her dad where
she commented her dad's women were getting younger over years since
she was a girl until she became the older one. She seemed to be cooled
with that.

 

[Claudia Love]

was she cute?

yes she was pretty. I think her boobs are fake lol

 

[Claudia Love]

Is it fair that for any other older guy in the world, your moral compass tells you it's ok, but that compass changes direction for your dad?

Just askin'.

I just never thought my dad would want a young woman being a father of a daughter. As strange as that may sound. You know why because when I was 18 I had a 57 year old guy want to take me across Europe and stay at 5 star hotels and eat the best food and shop for the finest things. My dad went bananas and said no way in hell is my daughter going off with this old fart. Then now hes with a young lady ! Total hypocrisy now that I just realized this.

 

[Claudia Love]

Did she have big tits?

mine are bigger haha

 

[onomatopoeia]

A daughters Perception of a Father dating young women

I just never thought my dad would want a young woman being a father of a daughter. As strange as that may sound. You know why because when I was 18 I had a 57 year old guy want to take me across Europe and stay at 5 star hotels and eat the best food and shop for the finest things. My dad went bananas and said no way in hell is my daughter going off with this old fart. Then now hes with a young lady ! Total hypocrisy now that I just realized this.

The story in post #1 might be true, but Grace Sparks doesn't exactly have a stellar reputation for telling the truth in threads she starts.

 

[massman]

I hope you are looking for some honest advice here, and not just sympathy or support for your reaction. If not, stop reading now.

Forgive me if some of what I say seems harsh and critical, and I know you are not the only person who would react this way, and I understand where those feelings come from, to a point. But this is your issue, not his. I’m not saying that you are a bad person for having these feelings, in fact from your writings here you seem to be a kind, funny, joyful person. But I think your reaction to this is wrong and quite hurtful, and borders on selfishness. So consider this “tough love”.

I think it is important to recognize that everyone can and should chose who they want to be with. What they want and what makes them happy is what is important, not what you want. If you think of all the people you know in relationships, no doubt you will have seen parts of those relationships that make no sense to you, yet work for them. And that is fine, it’s their relationship, not yours. Honestly I think you are making a big mistake being this judgemental with your dad, and if you value your relationship with him, you should rethink your approach.
People like you describing these situations often say “gross” or “she’s younger than your daughter, niece…” almost implying that this is some kind of taboo, akin to incest. The thing is, he’s not with his daughter, niece, granddaughter etc, he’s with a different woman, who happens to be that age. If his niece had blonde hair and he was dating a blonde 60 year old, would you tell him that’s gross?

When you tell him you think it’s disgusting, you are actually telling him that he is disgusting, and doesn’t deserve such a relationship, because he is old, worthless. Which I’m sure really hurts him. You say you love your dad,and I imagine he loves you, so to tell him he’s gross, a creep, a perv seems to be pretty cruel to be honest (even if you have only thought those things, and not verbalized it to him, trust me, he gets that message).

This age gap is huge, and it not the norm, but like I said above, he’s the one choosing the situation, not you. Again, the problem is with you, not him. Here’s a woman who makes your dad happy, and you are pissed off about that, disgusted even, and are pushing him away because of your issue with the age gap.

Ask yourself honestly, is your problem with this that you are embarrassed by it? You said that you are embarrassed to tell your friends, If so, you need to take a step back and consider his feelings on this, and keep your concerns for your self image in check. Do you value how your friends would see you, judge you, over your dad’s happiness??

The only reason I can see that is justifiable to be concerned about this is if you are seriously worried that your dad is being taken advantage of financially. From the little you’ve told us, sounds like he’s far from senile, and probably knows what he is doing, but sometimes these situations lead to a bad situation. But you seem to think he is taking advantage of this poor young girl, that he’s the manipulator here.

You mention that your dad knows you escort, and he accepts you for that. Well you are very lucky to have a father who loves and accepts you, because most dads in society would not, many in fact would kick you out if their life (not condoning this, but it is reality of our society where sex work is not the norm, and seen as perverted, immoral by many, see what I’m getting at?). I think you can at least grant him the same courtesy, and try to be more understanding and accepting of what he wants to do with his life. From what you wrote above, it sounds like you don’t even want to try, in fact you don’t even want him to bring up the topic in your presence.

You are afraid that if this becomes serious, she will start acting like “your mom”. You are in your 50s, long past needing a mommy to cook for you, drive you to dance practice and braid your hair. I’m sure she has no desire to be your mom. These fears are totally unfounded.

Fact of the matter is, if you are a man in your late 60s, and are still in good health, you know that’s not going to last forever, and many guys want to enjoy all aspects of their life while they can. I think he’s probably earned it!

Like I said above, I know there are many who would react the same way as you. That’s because our society has preconceived notions / biases about what is acceptable in romantic relationships and what isn’t, That doesn’t justify the behaviour tho.

If I were you, seriously reflect on how you are acting about this. I’d sit down with your dad, sincerely apologize for how you’ve treated him. Tell him that you were shocked at first, and are having a hard time getting used to the idea, given the large age gap, which is not commonly seen. However you love him, and want him to be happy and enjoy his life. You love and accept him for who he is, just like he does for you, like any great dad should.

 

[gharamlifter]

I just never thought my dad would want a young woman being a father of a daughter. As strange as that may sound. You know why because when I was 18 I had a 57 year old guy want to take me across Europe and stay at 5 star hotels and eat the best food and shop for the finest things. My dad went bananas and said no way in hell is my daughter going off with this old fart. Then now hes with a young lady ! Total hypocrisy now that I just realized this.

Now he knows I escort and he accepts me for me.

what changed

 

[Brill]

If a guy fucks a woman who is the same age as his sister, do people say yuck?

 

[poker]

First off…. If it creeps you out. That’s totally fine. There is a difference between escorting and family matters. Whole other world difference.

My first question, do you think she genuinely likes him, or is he getting used for for money. (Yes, we already know the answer, but we have to ask).

My 2nd though… I am really happy your dad accepts you for you.

My 3rd though… depending on the nature of your relationship, you could ask him why age is just a number for him, but it’s suddenly an issue for women over 40? You could also ask him if he knows anybody else at the old Sugar Daddy Club for you. Also, let him know to avoid confusion, only you can call him “daddy”, she has to use “sugar daddy”.

 

[JackBurton]

If your father accepted a big hurdle when you threw it at him then you have to return the respect.

 

[nottyboi]

Its evolution, most men are attracted to young women. That does not change until you die. It can be supressed but why bother. Life is short.

 

[lomotil]

Fuck Oedipus complexes or can we really ?

 

[John Wick]

I think the OP feels threatened by the presence of a much younger woman who has captured the love, affection and attention of her father. Suck it up, buttercup. C'est la vie. Did you think your father somehow stopped being a man like any other once he turned 35?

 

[lomotil]

Its evolution, most men are attracted to young women. That does not change until you die. It can be supressed but why bother. Life is short.

Men are programmed to chase and fuck the most fertile, programming that can be overwritten with varying degrees of difficulty.
There is a multiple billion industry in older women who are trying to look younger.

 

[PAWGLVR11]

Ok guys my dad is a great man in every aspect I love him to pieces. It never bothered me before with older guys seeing younger ladies until my own father started dating young women. Hes in his late 60s my parents had me very young. Now the reason im doing this thread is simply this I want you guys who are older to see the perspective of a daughter of a father who sees strictly young ladies. My dad was flying to Vancouver for business he told me he could stop in Toronto for a few hours to see me I saw this girl standing beside him and I thought this girl looks lost why is she walking with him towards me. So my dad introduces her to me and we make introductions she had a face that looked 18 but I later found out she was 21.So my dad says this is my new travel companion and no she's not an escort she's a waitress at a cocktail bar in Florida who I found out approached my dad in the bar restaurant and gave him her number. So then they started seeing each other casually.Not living together but going out on dinner dates movies and golfing . So here's the situation I saw my dad and her for a couple hours at the airport last week.My dad called me tonight and said what do you think? Im like honestly ....I think im very uncomfortable with this and I said to him your nieces are the same ageThis kinda makes my stomach turn. Hes like why what's the big deal age is only a number. Im like yes but if you too became serious and she tried acting like a mom to me I think id either laugh or cry. So he says hes only attracted to young ladies and his last girlfriend who was 55 he finds over 40 women not attractive. I said to him seriously dad your own daughter is 50 how can you say such shit. he says well your one of the few that takes care of yourself and is a beautiful woman for your age. But most over 40 woman make his skin crawl.

Now he knows I escort and he accepts me for me. But this really disturbed me greatly that my own father is openly telling me this shit. Like I wish he would've had his 20 year old women flings and kept it to himself. Ill always love and look up to my dad. But im disgusted that he wants a 21 year old. its easy for me to see other guys go for younger but when its your own dad its different. Now I told him I dont want to hear about her infact I told him I dont want to see her again and if he chooses to visit me to not bring her along I just feel so sick about it. Hes had tons of girlfriends in there 30s almost 40s and I got along great with them. But this girl was younger than my own adult children.Like honestly if your 68 year old mother who's divorced started seeing 21 year old men and your her son and your 50 years old . Would this bother you I honestly think it would bother you men. I cant even tell him how I really feel cause hes gonna think im trying ruin things for him but it disgusts me cause hes my DAD.its like as much as I love him I dont look at him the same way way now I look at him like being a pervert trying to take advantage of a 21 year old. Now my dads never been abusive to me on any level.but I just cant seem to get rid of my disgust feeling about this. I just cant believe this is really happening if my mom found out I think shed have a heart attack so im not telling her but my brother is very weirded out by it too and hes a guy ...I know my feelings are valid and I have to be honest but im having a real difficult time accepting this and I dont want it ruining my dads relationship with me .....Any caring advice is appreciated im embarrassed to mention this to my friends thanks

I realize men here will say good for him hes got a young lady. It doesn't bother me when 60 to 80 year olds see 20 year olds. But because my dads doing it I feel sick about it.ugh

Honestly sounds like you need to grow up and understand that he is your dad and can do whatever he likes

 

[xix]

Tell your Dad you are Okay with him, he could do what ever he wants even date a guy. And so can you. ( Move on)
BUT..

The "Will" must either be left for you &siblings or charity groups and not a young woman like her or anyone else. Also you want in the will to stipulate to have his body checked for poison at hospital if severely sick or after death.

Sarcasm... follows
ask your future mother if she has a brother or father. I bet she will run away.