Curious, after the kids are adults and move out, what commitments are granted or expected from you by them?
40's NO KIDS
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Who says they move out when they are adults? lol Emotional and financial support rarely end once they become adults.
Don't forget to mention the web site you got the advice from. That should kick her into touch, permanently.
Damn.
Did you get help like this from your parents after moving out?
It didn't happen for me, so it's an alien concept.
Joe,
I understand that you need to sort things out. Whatever is going through your head (and I have an idea of what it is) I want you to completely process your thoughts and feelings.
Your actions and the way we communicate right now are going to provide so much insight into how true our intentions are with eachother . I’m trying not to feel hurt or rejected because I know you are very unsure about the future with you and I. I can FEEL your negative energy. I can feel your uncertainty. I have a sadness within me because the life decisions you want to make do not have you EVER leaving your hometown. And you do not want to EVER put yourself hours away from your family.
The disconnect you are sending me is painful and I am do not even know how to feel right now.
Please don’t respond tonight. It has been a really hard day since you sent me that message.
Do you ever feel like the inside of your body is being magnetically pulled out and trying to be attached to someone? I feel like my heart is being pulled out of my chest right now …
This is what she texted me tonight
I understand that you need to sort things out. Whatever is going through your head (and I have an idea of what it is) I want you to completely process your thoughts and feelings.
Your actions and the way we communicate right now are going to provide so much insight into how true our intentions are with eachother . I’m trying not to feel hurt or rejected because I know you are very unsure about the future with you and I. I can FEEL your negative energy. I can feel your uncertainty. I have a sadness within me because the life decisions you want to make do not have you EVER leaving your hometown. And you do not want to EVER put yourself hours away from your family.
The disconnect you are sending me is painful and I am do not even know how to feel right now.
Please don’t respond tonight. It has been a really hard day since you sent me that message.
Do you ever feel like the inside of your body is being magnetically pulled out and trying to be attached to someone? I feel like my heart is being pulled out of my chest right now …
This is what she texted me tonight
If you are serious about your decision to not further a relationship with her I would suggest that you not contact her ever again, block her number and delete all contact information.
Entertaining any form of relationship with this woman, even in friendship is a poor use and waste of your time. Contact tends to muddy feelings and decisions. Focus on yourself.
OT:
Not replying to anyone in specific and I am older (51) but to me "ghosting" is the most cowardly, selfish and childish thing to ever develop in modern society.
No wonder people have difficulty growing real relationships with each other anymore and everyone is lonely and "anxious". Treating other people as disposable objects of emotional entertainment is horrendous and knowing that that axe can drop at any time is why real emotional attachments are disappearing so fast in the digital age.
A real man nuts up, gives his reasons and says goodbye. If the other person can deal with that or not is a different subject.
It's called emotional maturity. A lot of people (of both genders) should have had lessons in it.
Not replying to anyone in specific and I am older (51) but to me "ghosting" is the most cowardly, selfish and childish thing to ever develop in modern society.
No wonder people have difficulty growing real relationships with each other anymore and everyone is lonely and "anxious". Treating other people as disposable objects of emotional entertainment is horrendous and knowing that that axe can drop at any time is why real emotional attachments are disappearing so fast in the digital age.
A real man nuts up, gives his reasons and says goodbye. If the other person can deal with that or not is a different subject.
It's called emotional maturity. A lot of people (of both genders) should have had lessons in it.
Generally speaking I realize you can get all sorts of opinions from men on Terb, therefore, it's easy to be conflicted. However, this specific scenario many men are familiar with. They are spot on. Also there's not a shortage of guys who have been down this road and know the hardship to come later down the road.
