40 and single

[Sexucator]

OP, You are not alone on this. Check out this link to a chart that shows a man's age vs the age of women who look best to him
http://www.businessinsider.com/dataclysm-shows-men-are-attracted-to-women-in-their-20s-2014-10

Don't get down about your age. You've earned the wisdom that comes with age. Use that to your advantage. Have the mindset that women must earn the right to spend time with you, not the other way around. Don't ever get down about not being married either. Due to divorce laws, marriage is a raw deal in Canada / US. There's a good chance you would find yourself in the majority - over 60% of couples in populated metropolitan cities will divorce. And that doesn't mean the other 40% are happy. Just together...sometimes for the kids, family shame, family inheritances, etc. If you were to combine divorces and unhappy marriages into the mix, you are looking at closer to an 80% failure rate. Don't take my word for it. Do some research.
Be happy that you are single and 40. You are free to do whatever the hell you want!!! By all means, short or long-term date or see SP's (or both) but don't get married. if you are lonely and want companionship, friendship, etc. then get more male friends. Golf, fish, hunt, play squash, attend sporting events. There are lots of guys in the same boat as you and the bonus is that increasing your social circle will help you appear more attractive to women.

 

[freedom3]

if you are lonely and want companionship, friendship, etc. then get more male friends. Golf, fish, hunt, play squash, attend sporting events.

This was my approach but in the end I concluded that there is no substitute for a girlfriend or spouse. Ultimately, I got married and I can tell you that my life is much better. In my view, the trick is as follows:

-Your lifestyles must be compatible. Ie. you both like to travel or you both don't like to travel. You are both workaholics or you are both not workaholics.
-Have an airtight prenup. This allows you to walk out and gives you peace of mind. If she won't sign one: run.
-Don't have kids. She will always hold them over your head.

Pre-marriage, you need to get used to breaking up with women if it isn't going well. Don't try to "make it work". Don't listen to people who tell you: "Relationships are about compromise".

 

[maniac1911]

I'm in the same boat turning 40 next year and I'm prefer women in there twenties. I've all but given up on dating in Toronto. Not is it only hard to find someone who you like. But you have to also screen them for bizarre behavior. I'd rather see SPs - they don't make jump through hoops or waste your time. In the past my relationship have been through social circles and it worked. But online dating, speed dating, etc don't really get you anywhere (well at least not for me). Going to look into sugar daddy sites next.

 

[Mr. Lucky]

Went on a couple of dates. Great chemistry.

During that time you both should have done a 69

 

[kona]

Yeah, it is pretty hopeless. Not rich enough to be a serious sugar daddy. But I make enough to see escorts so it isn't all bad.

Very few people are rich enough. My rule is that for each million that you have, you erase 5 years off your true age.

 

[notthemama]

Very few people are rich enough. My rule is that for each million that you have, you erase 5 years off your true age.

No wonder the ladies love me. Have you ever met one that didn't love a baby. lol :baby:

 

[Sexucator]

This was my approach but in the end I concluded that there is no substitute for a girlfriend or spouse. Ultimately, I got married and I can tell you that my life is much better. In my view, the trick is as follows:

-Your lifestyles must be compatible. Ie. you both like to travel or you both don't like to travel. You are both workaholics or you are both not workaholics.
-Have an airtight prenup. This allows you to walk out and gives you peace of mind. If she won't sign one: run.
-Don't have kids. She will always hold them over your head.

Pre-marriage, you need to get used to breaking up with women if it isn't going well. Don't try to "make it work". Don't listen to people who tell you: "Relationships are about compromise".

Freedom3, it seems rather odd that you would claim that your life is much better now that you are married and yet, here you are on an Escort Review Board, posting quite frequently about your sp experiences. If you have an open marriage, good on you, but that concept of 'marriage' doesn't represent the consensus of what marriage is. If you take the most traditional definition of marriage, then you my friend, are in the 80% marriage failure rate I spoke of in my previous post. Again, if your spouse knows that you visit sp's and she's good with that, consider yourself lucky to have a non-traditional set up. But then the question becomes, why even bother getting married, why not just live together?

 

[freedom3]

No, I don't have an open marriage. I keep this a secret.

I should be clear that I am not pro-marriage. I am pro-female companionship. The two are very different:

marriage: a legal arrangement under which if the man or woman wants to leave the other, the woman gets the kids, the house, and all of the man's money for the rest of his life.

female companionship: spending the majority of your non-working hours with the same woman.

I only got married because I following the three points I mentioned in my earlier post.

Certainly, anyone who is thinking of getting married should keep in mind that it could easily ruin his life if he is not very careful. The three points in my earlier post keep me safe.