40 and single

Guy just take a look at George Clooney and Pierce Brosnan,
both are considered very attractive .

And both were more upfront about their age than some
of you I am sure. It is the right thing to do since women
less than 10 years younger than Clooney should know they
won't have much of a chance of success.
 
Yeah, I am probably going to have to get used to the idea of dating single mothers. I'll admit it is something that I have avoided thus far.

Single moms, divorcees, women with issues... At least they are more likely to put out on the first date.

I still prefer dating women in their late 20's but I don't expect relationships to last with the younger ones (or for that matter the older ones).

Nothing wrong with being in your 40's (+) and single.
 
Had some bad relationships have you?

I wouldn't tell someone to not fall in love and get married. It does work for some. My only advise is don't get married until you're at least 40.

Not really... I am currently married in a good one.

But, it seems to me that the OP is a bit too needy. And he'll take that needy, supplicant attitude to any woman he meets, and they will either use him and discard him out of lack of respect, or they'll just not bother with him.

My suggestion to the OP, which I suspect will go unheard, is that he gain some self confidence ( yoga, karate, etc) and learn to approach women with a strong attitude.

The ideal woman, IMHO, is one who who is self reliant, calm, well balanced... and that type on woman will not be attracted to the OP.

If he insists on pursuing women in their early 20's I think its unlikely he'll find one who has her act together.
 
Not really... I am currently married in a good one.

But, it seems to me that the OP is a bit too needy. And he'll take that needy, supplicant attitude to any woman he meets, and they will either use him and discard him out of lack of respect, or they'll just not bother with him.

My suggestion to the OP, which I suspect will go unheard, is that he gain some self confidence ( yoga, karate, etc) and learn to approach women with a strong attitude.

The ideal woman, IMHO, is one who who is self reliant, calm, well balanced... and that type on woman will not be attracted to the OP.

If he insists on pursuing women in their early 20's I think its unlikely he'll find one who has her act together.

Ahhhhhh... Makes sense now. :)
 
and losing weight with bodybuilding doesn't hurt either. look young and stay fit even when as you age will help your self-confidence greatly.
 
Two things about age.

One, instead of telling people you're ten years younger than you are, add ten years. Then they'll all be impressed with how good you look.

Two, a seventy year old geezer just got married to a twenty five year old nymph, and he was announcing the news to his buddies. His buddies were suitably impressed and congratulated him. Then they asked the obvious question. Why would such a pretty young thing marry a guy like you? After all, you're seventy! His answer was straight to the point. He said 'Simple. I told her I was ninety.'
 
Being single in 40s(or bit later) is the best thing there is. We have the cash, we still can, we know exactly what we want. And most importantly, we know that life is too short not to try almost everything. Enjoy!

I used to get so down and depressed in my late 20's to my mid 30's that I was single and hadn't found the one for me. Now I love and to a certain extent, am thankful I never met someone. So many of my married friends seek refuge from there wives and kids at my place. I mean, I would have like to experience love myself but it just wasn't in the cards. Having said that, I love the fact that I have nobody to answer to, work around my own schedule, and go see whatever SP I want without feeling guilty or have to hide it.

BBL
 
My man, I am dating a girl 12 years my junior. There are girls out there who don't have a problem with the age difference. Then there are the ones that do. Concentrate on the ones that don't care about the age but rather the connection. There are many out there, trust me. You'll do fine if you listen to the advice here that recommends being less needy and more confident. Not douchebag confidence but rather the confidence that you are comfortable in your own skin and know you'd make a new partner happy. That comes through and girls pick up on that.
 
It's important to be upfront about your age- though I would think the op thought she knew as everyone at work knew and she was from his workplace
 
Were you ever in a long term relationship?

Define your idea of long term. If it's for more than 1 yr ,then my answer is no.

Being in a long term relationship or having kids just won't improve the quality of my life. I'm very content being single.
 
I used to get so down and depressed in my late 20's to my mid 30's that I was single and hadn't found the one for me. Now I love and to a certain extent, am thankful I never met someone. So many of my married friends seek refuge from there wives and kids at my place. I mean, I would have like to experience love myself but it just wasn't in the cards. Having said that, I love the fact that I have nobody to answer to, work around my own schedule, and go see whatever SP I want without feeling guilty or have to hide it.

BBL

True but don't you feel lonely at times? The want for someone who truly cares for you?
 
My man, I am dating a girl 12 years my junior. There are girls out there who don't have a problem with the age difference. Then there are the ones that do. Concentrate on the ones that don't care about the age but rather the connection. There are many out there, trust me. You'll do fine if you listen to the advice here that recommends being less needy and more confident. Not douchebag confidence but rather the confidence that you are comfortable in your own skin and know you'd make a new partner happy. That comes through and girls pick up on that.

Good advice Barca. Ontario's full of hot girls & women,never get hung up on one. There's always a hotter one around the corner somewhere!
 
Wow you really are a piece of work. You are upset at women who grade you the same as you grade them

No I never said that I was bitter at women. I've been rejected by many women over the years. Never turned into a misogynist as a result.



and look at single mom's as attainable fuck dolls with baggage. Your attitude towards that child is bound to fuck his/her life up. A single mom is the chance to become part of a family.

Actually I said I had never been open before to dating single mothers. However, if I want to date women around my age I am going to have to get used to the idea.
 
True but don't you feel lonely at times? The want for someone who truly cares for you?


Once in a while I do, but as I mentioned being single has a ton of perks too, especially when your a pervert...lol. The times it tends to bug me the most is when I want to do something like go on vacation, that's usually when it still bugs me a bit.
 
Once in a while I do, but as I mentioned being single has a ton of perks too, especially when your a pervert...lol. The times it tends to bug me the most is when I want to do something like go on vacation, that's usually when it still bugs me a bit.
on the other hand just think of all the shit you don't have to do on vacation when alone. No need to stare at the setting Sun, long walks on the beach, going through endless stores, salsa lessons-just off the top of my head.
 
So there I met this girl at work. She is 26 and I am 40. We got a long great. She's was being very flirtatious so I asked her out. Went on a couple of dates. Great chemistry. I had butterflies in my stomach. A feeling I hadn't had in a very long time. So I was very excited where this was going.

We had plans for a weekend event but she cancelled. No big deal. Over the next few weeks she was not responding to any of my texts or messages. Still friendly to me at work. When I asked about going out again she would always have an excuse. I was really confused. Then through the workplace grapevine I found out why. She discovered my age. I guess she thought I was around 30.

This is a tough one to swallow. I feel that the dating market has just shrunk incredibly for me. I guess I am feeling my age for the first time.

I guess you can call me shallow but I am not attracted to many women my own age. The women my age who I do find attractive are already taken. I've been really disappointed with dating sites. I also live in a small city (pop 45,000) so the pool is rather limited.

Are things better in Toronto? Fortunately I work in a field where I could pack up and get a job there tomorrow. I don't know if I want to make such a huge change just to find someone. A mid-life crisis I guess.

Buddy 15 years age difference might not see like alot to you or some....but if she is a hot 26 year old ..think about she may not be thinking to have kids
unitl 30 something ...and you will be pushing 50.........??? Here is my theory the less attractive or maybe even over weight younger woman are ok with a older
guy as they feel secure.......but unless a young hot girl is after your wallet,....then good luck
lol Thats why women make a lot of money in this hobby :thumb:
I dont pay or sex.....I pay them to leave me alone after sex.....