2nd time... Is this normal??

[Catherine]

I posted before regarding this...

I would like total honesty...if you dont mind... and this thread won't be kept on for long...just like the first one, which BTW.. I thank you for your candid answers. (I just dont want to get caught posting this...)

But I first posted a question about whether or not it was normal for a guy (in early 20's) to explore his sexuality, and to explore the 'gay porn sites.. etc...

2 days after seeing his search history (of searching gay sites) I find on my redail list a # for the 'Cruiseline' for gay men. I then try to set up an account (to catch him) but my # has already been used for a free account. Which only he could have set up as he was the only person there.

i THEN SEARCHED HIS CELL PHONE AND FOUND THE SAME #'S

I KNOW he is actively screwing women and telling at least one of them (me) that he loves her. He says he can't live without me, and that I am PERFECT for him. He has constant anger outbursts with his family and friends (which I always run and console him over) and he is a major 'macho head' He constantly jacks off and confides in me the amount of times, and if I think thats normal...

I want to NOT believe he is gay... or bisexual... But I know he has contacted a shemale to call him when she was available... and then this and the gay porn search....

Maybe he is attracted to the male intense sexuality.... (he is VERY emotionally sensitive to intense feelings..)

What is this...

Is he GAY? Should I be worried???

Catherine
xoxoxoxxoxox

 

[a 1 player]

In my opinion, he is bisexual but has not come out of the closet. Probably very hard for him to hide this from everybody.

 

[rafterman]

I would exit.....carefully!

 

[Cycleguy007]

I think "da player" nailed it...

he is bisexual but has not come out of the closet.

Good luck with this situation Catherine...

 

[BallzDeep]

Most guys might look at a gay porn site for curiousity, but if he's tried to actually contact a gay phoneline, I'd say he's pretty ghey. What possble reason would he call a gay cruisline for, a bank loan, weather forecast, or to get bumfucked?

If he acts macho and displays a real dislike for gays, he's prolly gay, he who protests the most, well you know. Bring up the topic of someone you know is gay and see how he reacts. Sounds like you know he's gay but don't want to believe it.

 

[herames]

If he is metro sexual ..i think that would seal the deal that your boy has dual sexual appreciation

 

[Brill]

You know he's screwing other women, that's enough to dump him isn't it?
He's probably bisexual, if he isn't open about it then don't allow him to be your problem.

 

[Dave - WebGuy]

I would offer that if he isn't bisexual, he would be bi-curious at the very least.

I guess that you'd have already had your suspicions and only confirmed what you had not hoped to confirm in your little investigation. There's little doubt from what I'm reading that if he isn't already involved with multiple men ... he likely could be working on it.

If you're not concerned with him having multiple partners of both sexes, most bisexuals have a preference of one sex over the other. If you feel that you aren't comfortable in a relationship with someone who's bisexual, it may be time to move on.

Might be an avenue he's exploring and when it's no longer interesting or fun he'll find another sexual diversion ... it could be as simple as that.

 

[King Midas]

Normal is relative. If every one agreed it was perfectly normal, would that change how you feel about it? What's normal for some is abhorrent for others.

If his behaviour -- his secretiveness, his sexual curiosity and the idea that he might be acting on it -- are things you are not comfortable with, end it.

 

[smylee52]

Why do you care ? If you are OK with him screwing other women why would you care if he throws in the occasional guy . Maybe he just wants anal sex but can't say if it's giving or receiving .

 

[5hummer]

He's Bi.

Remember, communication leads to a healthy relationship.

 

[skypilot]

If he has difficulty getting hard with you he is probably discovering that he is gay.
Try wearing a mens suit and fuck him in the ass with a strap on. Reach around and see if he is hard. If he is, he's probably gay.
Tell him you have wanted to do a threesome with him and another man. When it happens watch his behavior. If he spends most of the time blowing the other guy, chances are he is either gay or just enjoys the taste of cum.

 

[Cycleguy007]

If he has difficulty getting hard with you he is probably discovering that he is gay.
Try wearing a mens suit and fuck him in the ass with a strap on. Reach around and see if he is hard. If he is, he's probably gay.
Tell him you have wanted to do a threesome with him and another man. When it happens watch his behavior. If he spends most of the time blowing the other guy, chances are he is either gay or just enjoys the taste of cum.

Just curious... How does that make him gay??? If he is engaged in sexual conduct with a WOMAN?

 

[skypilot]

Just curious... How does that make him gay??? If he is engaged in sexual conduct with a WOMAN?

Obviously he is fantasizing about being fucked in the ass by a black guy with a thermos bottle sized cock.

Don't ask me how I know this.

By the way, isn't "Just curious" a code phrase meaning you'd like to try life on the wild side?

 

[Cycleguy007]

Obviously he is fantasizing about being fucked in the ass by a black guy with a thermos bottle sized cock.

Don't ask me how I know this.

By the way, isn't "Just curious" a code phrase meaning you'd like to try life on the wild side?

Nope... I have no interest in other dudes TYVM!

My life is wild enough already.

 

[Dave - WebGuy]

Obviously he is fantasizing about being fucked in the ass by a black guy with a thermos bottle sized cock.

Don't ask me how I know this.

By the way, isn't "Just curious" a code phrase meaning you'd like to try life on the wild side?

I don't think it's that obvious ... I've heard of guys who only want an oral relationship with another man. For all we know he's getting comfortable sexually around anoither guy and wants to do a MMF threesome ... you're drawing conclusions.

Catherine's post only suggests he's interested in something involving another man or a TS.

 

[Frank Fingers]

If he is metro sexual ..i think that would seal the deal that your boy has dual sexual appreciation

A guy who is a metro sexual is a guy who takes care of himself. It has nothing to do with his sexual preference.

The guy in question is gay though. He surfs gay porn, calls gay numbers and like shemales. He is queer as a $3 bill.

 

[browsing]

At the very least he is Bi. No straight guy would call a gay line. But I would lean strongly toward him being outright gay by the sound of it.

 

[fuji]

Honey, women can be bi, but guys? It's as they say--

He is either gay, straight, or lying.

My guess is that he is flaming gay, but not comfortable with it, and fucking you and other women and acting macho to try and convince himself he is straight.

Sorry.

 

[gramage]

Email Dan Savage to be sure, but I've read him say that shemale lust is allmost exclusively a heterosexual thing, but the rest indicates a very bi man.

At the risk of offending you if your OK with him fucking other women, there's no rational reason for you to have a problem with him fucking men. Being bi means liking different things about each sex and wanting to fuck them, it isn't insulting to you and shouldn't be taken as such.