27 Year Old Virgin - My Sad Story

[simon482]

i would agree with most here. go and get it done and it will help you build confidence and get rid of the desperate aura you are walking around with. after you get that first one out of the way and get a hair of confidence built up it will be easier to approach a girl after that.

or do like fuji said and take your first post and copy and paste it to POF. lots of girls would find it cute and charming and might even want a long term hook up or relationship with you as you come across as a nice guy but just a little timid.

 

[DigitallyYours]

Nothing really. Just to finally lose it.

As mentioned, I'm going to skip the SP. I got a wing man who's helping and I might try online dating.

In that case, it's wise to skip the SP. Not really going to do much for you at this point.

Forget online dating. Dating is won and lost in real life. Do speed dating and practice making an impact on people quickly.

 

[Noodle]

Seriously take what you just wrote and post it on Plenty of Fish. I bet you get a sympathy fuck out of it. Maybe a girlfriend.

Add a pitch at the bottom with you positive attributes but just post that verbatim.

I like this idea, thanks man

 

[marcobaliey]

I've thought about it and going to a massage parlor or seeing a SP isn't going to really solve anything, nor do I think I'll enjoy it based on gut feeling.

I'm going to try a few different things, maybe going out more with a friend, talking to girls, I'll try the online dating circuit, if that doesn't work then try other measures. But it's one step towards things.

 

[marcobaliey]

And I'm not sure if I want to do the POF post. Seems like something way too private to admit online in a wide open space with a picture of yourself attached to it. I know a few coworkers that are on OkCupid.

And thanks for all the replies.

 

[d_jedi]

I've thought about it and going to a massage parlor or seeing a SP isn't going to really solve anything, nor do I think I'll enjoy it based on gut feeling.

You never know if you don't try.
Unless something goes horribly wrong (stick to well-reviewed girls!), it's hard not to enjoy it.

 

[highpark]

Hey Marc. I have to ask..... Are u obviously ugly, fat and sweaty or otherwise physically repulsive on some way ????

 

[rex_baner]

A lot of girls have this huge fetish for taking a guys virginity. You might get lucky for being open about it. Some guys may try to judge or poke fun, but in truth they don't really give a rats ass.

 

[DanJ]

Hey Marc. I have to ask..... Are u obviously ugly, fat and sweaty or otherwise physically repulsive on some way ????

He said in the first post he considers himself "not a bad looking guy, just shy".

 

[DigitallyYours]

He said in the first post he considers himself "not a bad looking guy, just shy".

Unfortunately, being shy is far worse than being not good looking.

 

[DanJ]

I've thought about it and going to a massage parlor or seeing a SP isn't going to really solve anything, nor do I think I'll enjoy it based on gut feeling.

I respectfully disagree. First off, it solves the virginity issue. That alone relieves that pressure when approaching other women later on. Gets the monkey off your back, as it were. Second off, it allows you to be clumsy and learn your way around a woman's body who isn't going to judge you. You can ask the SP to show you things and talk more openly with her I think than you likely want to with someone you might see again. And I'll echo the suggestion above that Sweet Petite Jessica is a great choice for this.

 

[bestman007]

Heard Saudi **********'s pay big money for virgins. Maybe OP should make a trip down there and get paid!

 

[bestman007]

Interesting. TERB won't let me type the word: S - H - E - I - K. LOL.

 

[wigglee]

Seriously take what you just wrote and post it on Plenty of Fish. I bet you get a sympathy fuck out of it. Maybe a girlfriend.

Add a pitch at the bottom with you positive attributes but just post that verbatim.

sounds like a plan.....may I steal your post and try it on Puddle?

 

[blackrock13]

Interesting. TERB won't let me type the word: S - H - E - I - K. LOL.

For those of us who have been here a while, it not really that surprising.

 

[Eddie401]

If you don't someone like myself will burn you to a crisp in the business arena.

That was totally random...the guy asks a serious question and you use it to try make yourself feel better at his expense?

You reek of insecurity because people that actually have achieved a measure of success in their lives don't say stupid shit like that.

 

[Eddie401]

To the OP: Nothing wrong with you and nothing wrong with seeing an SP for your first time. a) It'll remove a lot of the mystery b) It'll remove a lot of the pressure (double entendre intended) and c) you'll have a better idea of what it's all about when you sleep with a girl that means something to you.

It seems like it's just something you need to get out of the way to improve your confidence levels. The right SP (not some BP $100 disaster) can make this a positive experience for you. Be honest with her and she'll rock your world.

 

[marcobaliey]

I've come back to this thread out of curiosity and I'm amazed that it's still getting some responses, even though I sort of ended it a while ago. To clarify some things, my original post might have been a bit over dramatic and made me sound more sad than I am, but it probably was my somber mood that day. I don't regret posting this, it's given me some outsider opinions.

I've had the chance to date girls and sleep with them in the past, but I was either not attracted to them or I liked them but got butterflies in the stomach and I tend to freeze up. There were nights I would walk home hitting myself in the head thinking why didn't I just say that.

I wouldn't say I'm shy, but introverted and quiet by nature. And I'm not like this in other parts of my life, just with approaching women I really, really like.

I got a private message from a member here and he's right in saying that sleeping with a SP (even though I'm somewhat frustrated) is the easy way out and isn't going to solve the bigger problem. I need to get laid the hard way. That's by getting out of my shell, shedding the fear of rejection and actually connecting with someone.

This thread and some of the responses made me think. I started going out with a friend who I finished school with. He's known for bedding a new girl ever week and I've asked him to teach me the ropes. We went out last night and he helped me strike up some conversations. Given some of them were awkward at first and I wasn't vibing off some of the girls and vice versa, but heck I had fun and it helped me break out of my shell a bit.

I ended up exchanging numbers with an attractive blonde. Assistant, likes doing ballet on her spare time and she's a foody. We went out the next day for burgers for lunch. I'm not sure if it's going to led to anything long term or serious. I'm just not totally into her, but it was fun and I'm just going with the flow and opening myself up more.

 

[yolosohobby]

You need some confidence and whether you realize it or not, if at age 27 you are still a virgin, you are not participating in life's blessings and you have no guarantee about what tomorrow brings . RUN, dont walk, RUN to any number of the terrific SPs you can research on TERB. And do not just go once, do at least 10 different sessions in rapid succession. Itll be the best investment u ever make

If you gain a little confidence it will change your worldview and more importantly your view on yourself. then you wont have to go on PoF or some online sight. You will actually be able to meet real women anywhere.

 

[Ringworld]

OP, for what it's worth, I agree that an SP is not the answer. Your virginity isn't the issue. It's being able to form a connection with a woman that you want and escalating that to a sexual relationship. Losing your virginty to a pro isn't going to address whatever issues you have with self-esteem, assertiveness, etc. In fact, the danger is you sexually imprint on play-for-pay and don't learn any other avenue of sexual gratification. Prostitution is for guys in mid-life that are either unsatisfied with what they have, or are past the age of being able to attract a 24 year old hottie.

Ever notice how the perpetually single guys are the ones with the highest standards? As if only the hottest girl in the room is worthy of their time and effort? That's a reflection of low self-esteem.

The ability to hook up is a skill like anything else, and the key is that you get better with practice. In general, the hotter the girl, the more game you need to get her. My recommendation to anyone in your shoes is to start with the girl that you can get, and trade up from there. Sounds heartless, but that's how it works. Thing is, you may meet someone worth keeping fairly early on.