Troubling experience not SP related

[FringeFleafish]

Had a weird and slightly worrying experience today. Went to visit a very well reviewed SP. Got directions, arrived a bit early. It was in a neighbourhood with duplexes and such but I got good directions and knew exactly which door to knock on. I pulled around the corner to park my car out of the way. I texted the SP, as I always do, and asked permission to come to the door. I think it is the gentlemanly thing to do. While I waited for and answer to my text, a school bus pulled up a bit ahead of where I was parked. A gentleman came up to my car and asked what I was doing. I told him I was visiting a friend. Should have told him to mind his own business but in today’s world I decided not to. Anyway, he asked where? I thought quickly and said I don’t know, that’s why I’m texting my friend to make sure I get the correct address being the neighbourhood was a bit confusing. He was polite and said he understood but as he walked away, he got on his phone. Probably nothing to worry about but my spidey senses kicked into high gear. Not only concern for myself but what if I had walked up to the door while he’s calling god knows who. If it’s the police, I may be putting others in a bad situation. Namely, the SP. This all happened in a matter of four to five minutes and I just had a bad feeling. I still hadn’t gotten an answer about coming to the door so I texted again and apologized and said I was a bit Spooked and that I was leaving. As I left, I got a text back and I had the opportunity to explain what happened. She was an absolute gem and totally understood. She even apologized for my experience! It had nothing to do with her, totally not her fault. Was I wrong? I don’t think so and neither did she. I hope to see her in the future. Just had to share.

 

[farquhar]

Had a weird and slightly worrying experience today. Went to visit a very well reviewed SP. Got directions, arrived a bit early. It was in a neighbourhood with duplexes and such but I got good directions and knew exactly which door to knock on. I pulled around the corner to park my car out of the way. I texted the SP, as I always do, and asked permission to come to the door. I think it is the gentlemanly thing to do. While I waited for and answer to my text, a school bus pulled up a bit ahead of where I was parked. A gentleman came up to my car and asked what I was doing. I told him I was visiting a friend. Should have told him to mind his own business but in today’s world I decided not to. Anyway, he asked where? I thought quickly and said I don’t know, that’s why I’m texting my friend to make sure I get the correct address being the neighbourhood was a bit confusing. He was polite and said he understood but as he walked away, he got on his phone. Probably nothing to worry about but my spidey senses kicked into high gear. Not only concern for myself but what if I had walked up to the door while he’s calling god knows who. If it’s the police, I may be putting others in a bad situation. Namely, the SP. This all happened in a matter of four to five minutes and I just had a bad feeling. I still hadn’t gotten an answer about coming to the door so I texted again and apologized and said I was a bit Spooked and that I was leaving. As I left, I got a text back and I had the opportunity to explain what happened. She was an absolute gem and totally understood. She even apologized for my experience! It had nothing to do with her, totally not her fault. Was I wrong? I don’t think so and neither did she. I hope to see her in the future. Just had to share.

Was this in the middle of the suburbs?

You have so much vehicle theft and break-ins these days that Neighborhood Watch Groups are making a comeback. Who knows what the guy was thinking and if there were any unconscious biases at play due to the type of car you were driving or the color of your skin?

If he is that nosy, he probably does notice cars showing up at all times of the day and guys walking in/out of that one particular residence. He may assume it's drug related.

As far as I know, the cops really aren't interested in busting two consenting adults who exchange sex for money; now, if the girl is underage, that is a different story.

 

[massman]

Suspect you worry too much. Cops aren't going to investigate a guy sitting in a car, they don’t even have the resources to investigate actual crime. Tho it’s not always wrong to trust the spidey senses. Even if cops did come, you aren’t putting the sp in a bad situation, she is doing nothing illegal.

 

[Sonic Temple]

Had a weird and slightly worrying experience today. Went to visit a very well reviewed SP. Got directions, arrived a bit early. It was in a neighbourhood with duplexes and such but I got good directions and knew exactly which door to knock on. I pulled around the corner to park my car out of the way. I texted the SP, as I always do, and asked permission to come to the door. I think it is the gentlemanly thing to do. While I waited for and answer to my text, a school bus pulled up a bit ahead of where I was parked. A gentleman came up to my car and asked what I was doing. I told him I was visiting a friend. Should have told him to mind his own business but in today’s world I decided not to. Anyway, he asked where? I thought quickly and said I don’t know, that’s why I’m texting my friend to make sure I get the correct address being the neighbourhood was a bit confusing. He was polite and said he understood but as he walked away, he got on his phone. Probably nothing to worry about but my spidey senses kicked into high gear. Not only concern for myself but what if I had walked up to the door while he’s calling god knows who. If it’s the police, I may be putting others in a bad situation. Namely, the SP. This all happened in a matter of four to five minutes and I just had a bad feeling. I still hadn’t gotten an answer about coming to the door so I texted again and apologized and said I was a bit Spooked and that I was leaving. As I left, I got a text back and I had the opportunity to explain what happened. She was an absolute gem and totally understood. She even apologized for my experience! It had nothing to do with her, totally not her fault. Was I wrong? I don’t think so and neither did she. I hope to see her in the future. Just had to share.

You did all the right things mate - well done and sorry you had to go through that. Also impressed how the SP handled it as well.

 

[SexB]

This is why I'm not comfortable with incalls in houses.

 

[bazokajoe]

You handled it better than I would have.
Better book her during school hours. Also, make sure it's not a school PD day either.

 

[FringeFleafish]

Was this in the middle of the suburbs?

You have so much vehicle theft and break-ins these days that Neighborhood Watch Groups are making a comeback. Who knows what the guy was thinking and if there were any unconscious biases at play due to the type of car you were driving or the color of your skin?

If he is that nosy, he probably does notice cars showing up at all times of the day and guys walking in/out of that one particular residence. He may assume it's drug related.

As far as I know, the cops really aren't interested in busting two consenting adults who exchange sex for money; now, if the girl is underage, that is a different story.

Had nothing to do with skin colour, for sure. I actually respect what he was doing. I didn’t have a bias against him, nor did he with me. I was there to basically break the law. Not that anything would come of MY worst case scenario. But I would have possibly brought an uncomfortable situation to others. That’s where my concern was.

 

[FringeFleafish]

You did all the right things mate - well done and sorry you had to go through that. Also impressed how the SP handled it as well.

Yes, exactly! The SP was heartfelt and understood why I cancelled last minute. What blew me away is that SHE was apologizing! That made me feel bad. Water under the bridge for me and I’m sure she would agree.

 

[Jenesis]

It is hard running an incall in a private location. For me, I have a place I make guys go to first before coming to the spot I have available for parking so that there is no waiting once they are parked. Even if I have seen you before and you know where my incall is, you are told to not come to my place first in case you are early and I am not ready. I also control the traffic coming to my place.

People in neighborhoods will naturally get suspicious of someone they have never seen just sitting in a car. Myself included. School times are even worse as more eyes are just naturally out.

I'm glad the SP was good to you about it. Sucks that the appointment didn't happen though.

Maybe next time, park one street over and message her so you don’t have to wait in the parking lot.

 

[boomboom]

Yes, exactly! The SP was heartfelt and understood why I cancelled last minute. What blew me away is that SHE was apologizing! That made me feel bad. Water under the bridge for me and I’m sure she would agree.

to me thats worth going back for a 2nd try, just at a different time & park down the street. I never park in a driveway at a private incall. Even in a townhouse complex, I'll park far enough away so I dont see the unit or down the street. SP was very professional with you & is worthy of a 2nd try.
great way you handled it though & reaching out once parked to confirm its ok to walk up. Then explaining to her what happened.

Boom

 

[boomboom]

to me thats worth going back for a 2nd try, just at a different time & park down the street. I never park in a driveway at a private incall. Even in a townhouse complex, I'll park far enough away so I dont see the unit or down the street. SP was very professional with you & is worthy of a 2nd try.
great way you handled it though & reaching out once parked to confirm its ok to walk up. Then explaining to her what happened.

Boom

2nd thought, because of how she handled it, to me thats very worthy of a 2nd try or even sending a gift card. She was classy & deserves a tip or something

 

[FringeFleafish]

Suspect you worry too much. Cops aren't going to investigate a guy sitting in a car, they don’t even have the resources to investigate actual crime. Tho it’s not always wrong to trust the spidey senses. Even if cops did come, you aren’t putting the sp in a bad situation, she is doing nothing illegal.

It is hard running an incall in a private location. For me, I have a place I make guys go to first before coming to the spot I have available for parking so that there is no waiting once they are parked. Even if I have seen you before and you know where my incall is, you are told to not come to my place first in case you are early and I am not ready. I also control the traffic coming to my place.

People in neighborhoods will naturally get suspicious of someone they have never seen just sitting in a car. Myself included. School times are even worse as more eyes are just naturally out.

I'm glad the SP was good to you about it. Sucks that the appointment didn't happen though.

Maybe next time, park one street over and message her so you don’t have to wait in the parking lot.

You are spot on, Jenesis! I’m not condoning what I did in my situation. However, there was no parking lot. Street parking only. My decision to leave was based on my instinct to protect others and, obviously, protect myself. I know I’m making a mountain out of a molehill. I only share my experience to help others navigate the discretion that is required.

 

[FringeFleafish]

2nd thought, because of how she handled it, to me thats very worthy of a 2nd try or even sending a gift card. She was classy & deserves a tip or something

Already planning my reciprocation . You are correct!

 

[boomboom]

You are spot on, Jenesis! I’m not condoning what I did in my situation. However, there was no parking lot. Street parking only. My decision to leave was based on my instinct to protect others and, obviously, protect myself. I know I’m making a mountain out of a molehill. I only share my experience to help others navigate the discretion that is required.

I disagree, you are not making a mountain out of a mole hill IMHO
you shared your experience, you tried doing the right thing, got spooked, followed spidey senses, & left
you reached out to the SP to explain too, even better.

 

[Mr.Gr33k]

its better to listen to inner voice and be wrong (about a situation) than not listen to inner voice and be right.

Better safe than sorry.

 

[Jenesis]

You are spot on, Jenesis! I’m not condoning what I did in my situation. However, there was no parking lot. Street parking only. My decision to leave was based on my instinct to protect others and, obviously, protect myself. I know I’m making a mountain out of a molehill. I only share my experience to help others navigate the discretion that is required.

I agree with Boom. You are not making this any bigger. It is what it is and it is great sharing experience to help others. That is what this forum is for.

 

[thumper18474]

Always trust your Spidey Senses...

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Well, it is kinda SP related. What else would you have been doing there?

 

[missingme]

It is hard running an incall in a private location. For me, I have a place I make guys go to first before coming to the spot I have available for parking so that there is no waiting once they are parked. Even if I have seen you before and you know where my incall is, you are told to not come to my place first in case you are early and I am not ready. I also control the traffic coming to my place.

People in neighborhoods will naturally get suspicious of someone they have never seen just sitting in a car. Myself included. School times are even worse as more eyes are just naturally out.

I'm glad the SP was good to you about it. Sucks that the appointment didn't happen though.

Maybe next time, park one street over and message her so you don’t have to wait in the parking lot.

Great Advise Jenesis!! I love this !! Great advise all around xo

 

[xix]

Well, it is kinda SP related. What else would you have been doing there?

"Amber alert" school bus near by.
Car / house theft
City bus stop - avoid treat it as a school bus even weekends.

No, the idea of parking far away and walking is good in old neighborhoods built before 1990's in my area but not the new ones. Only one entry street like a cul de sac is hard to park far away. An if the SP is way back in the hood some of them are big the walk can be time consuming. Some even have high rise condos at the back.

Also the SP should be ready 9 - 6 minutes before the appointment for situations like this when client has to really walk over or she lives in a hood made after 1995 or townhouses.

In the past 2 years I was made to wait by the SP's.

Ottawa was a joke - I flew there for her only and to do a day tour of Ottawa, if she had instructions she should have sent a file ready or copy from a text file what she wanted me to do. She could have texted the day before or early that day - appointment was for 900am and I text her when I left airport and again when I arrive at her area. One of those cul de sacs neighbours areas, I texted no respond, then drove off to a gas station around the corner and waited 20 minutes for her to respond and late for appointment. Like really..

The other was here made me wait 12 minutes in the lobby of the condo building. Like really.. Her pics were a bit to altered - agency.

I have a new policy if I have to wait more than 3-5 minutes I walk.

Time management is really disappearing from people even with cells tech today.