Anyone else over 40 getting bored with life?

[that6969]

Such as the daily routine and so forth? It's been like this for me the past few years.

I should get a hobby, but I don't really have much interest lol.

No, I don't have depression but just bordem.

Things I enjoyed in the early days such as video games I'll get into at times then take a long break or stop.

I might get back into reading a few novels or watch a few shows I've missed out on, but it's usually meh.

 

[poorboy]

If you live in Toronto, being bored is 100% on you. There is more to do in Toronto than any other city in Canada.

Try getting out and exercise instead of sticking to sedentary hobbies for a start.

 

[xmontrealer]

How about learning a musical instrument? Take it seriously, take lessons at least to get started, and practice daily...

Also golf is fun during the season. Not crazy expensive, and a round can eat up 4 or 5 hours a day.

 

[southpaw]

No, I don't have depression but just bordem.

I feel the same way. The French have a term for this.

Definition of ENNUI

a feeling of weariness and dissatisfaction : boredom… See the full definition

www.merriam-webster.com

 

[Butler1000]

Mid life crisis. That is what you are experiencing. It can be a dangerous time in a man's life. Make sure you aren't making emotional decisions to shake things up.

I have found the key to managing a routine is to find something that will show incremental improvement in your life. It could be financial, physical, or social. It's about reseting goals.

But also just remember you are now going to start slowing down. A bit less testosterone, stamina, and a certain malaise about day to day life is normal. There is also a certain amount of self reflection that creeps in. Asking the what if questions. The looking back with regrets.

Don't. Instead look and appreciate the simple successes in your life. Realize there are always those worse off than you. And then use that base to plan for the future.

 

[Indiana]

Canada is death waiting to happen.
Get to Asia

 

[Telebass]

If you’re just venting, that’s fine but don’t expect things to change until you decide to change and take interest in whatever. Hobbies are well and good, just dabbling leads to boredom. Work to become proficient. And if you’re lucky enough to have a job where proficiency is recognized and rewarded, all the better as it can lead to more interesting and more rewarding work. When bored, get out and look what’s around you with interest and curiosity. Too many people don’t. It’s how you can become an expert. It’s all up to you.

 

[Adam_hadam]

Such as the daily routine and so forth? It's been like this for me the past few years.

I should get a hobby, but I don't really have much interest lol.

No, I don't have depression but just bordem.

Things I enjoyed in the early days such as video games I'll get into at times then take a long break or stop.

I might get back into reading a few novels or watch a few shows I've missed out on, but it's usually meh.

Well you can golf, skate, ski, collect stamps, collect Porsches, travel for adventure/leisure/follow your favourite sports team, go to different resto every week and do a blog, volunteer, geta dog, etc
Whatever turns your crank.

 

[Y_Diner]

Sometimes, but I’m a thrill seeker, and work a lot so not always enough time to do all I want.

 

[shack]

40 is when my life really picked up.

That's when I divorced.

 

[The Options Menu]

Such as the daily routine and so forth? It's been like this for me the past few years.

I miss both hobbies and boredom. Savour both-- They can be taken away in a flash. Especially at the age you're at. Even if you and your immediate household is in good shape (for now) then how about the elderly members of your family (or any in-laws)? If you're felling bored learn to love the tranquility, or fill that time with things that bring you joy or a sense of accomplishment and / or purpose. Life seldom grants those times in perpetuity.

Do try to avoid any cliché midlife crises, though you're on TERB so it may be too late for that.

 

[prettyboy00]

Not over 40, but you gotta start living life man, going out, getting drunk out the wazoo, making new friendships, I'd say even more drug related things lol but better not to advise on that

 

[that6969]

I hardly drink and not a fan of being drunk. Drugs are a no. I barely even deal with weed now. That's not to say I'll have something small here or there the very odd time. And I hardly hangout with folks for social. My previous jobs I was social and don't got an issue with that and get along with others fine. I am working on becoming an entrepreneur now and hoping to make the same amount of money I had based on the jobs I had or more. The goal would be to make more and hire folks too. I did adopt a cat a few years ago since a dog was just too much. I'm divorced and been single for the past 7 years. Things did get busy cause my 2 kids are with me every other week for a full week but I hardly found that challenging. I think once my business is fully up and running shortly this year that might help too.

I'm pretty strong minded as in not making emotional decisions to hurt my financially for retirement. But because I hardly had bad habits and such I've saved up. I might look into travelling once or twice a year since I haven't done that.

The other thing I thought about down the road is doing a career change and even going back to school for it since I like learning new things and challenging myself.

 

[boobtoucher]

Yep. Buy a motorcycle. Nothing makes you feel more alive than 100+ miles an hour in the open air. Bonus if it's 50 years old and you built it yourself. Plus you can spend the winter working on it in your house.

Start inviting your friends over for dinner. Cooking for people makes you look like a hero, and is way more interactive for the buck than going out.

 

[kona]

I’ve been there. Every single day was the same. Every single year was the same. Same festivals, same events. Then I did some math... since I worked Monday to Friday, the only time that was truly mine were the weekends. I also got 4 weeks per year vacation and 10 public holidays. So out of 365 days, only 134 days were “mine”. Say I worked starting 18 and retired at 65…that gives me ~6300 days in my working life. Average age when a person starts having health issues is 69 so if I add 1500 days (4 years * 365) to 6300, I get a grand total of 7800 days of healthy days that are mine. That equates to only 21 years out of 69. Now sleeping will take 7 years out so that means that I only have14 years out of 69 that I am awake and “mine”. That is when I decided to retire early. Today, I spend 6 months each year travelling the world and that provides a lot of excitement and prospective. It is incredible that you can get Michelin meals at food courts in Thailand for $2. I used to think Raman was good in Toronto, then I went to Japan and experienced what Raman is supposed to taste like. Same thing with pina colada in Puerto Rico. I also fondly remember my last trip gorging on A5 Wagyu skewers @ $10/each at a department store called don don donki. We are REALLY getting ripped off in Canada. Life is what you make of it.

 

[that6969]

I'd have to reach out to different communities and make new friends. I don't mind cooking for people and chatting while having a drink here or there. Or even going out for a coffee and such. It would have to be with people similar to me in terms of interests, level minded, non-judgmental and we get along than someone blowing up or being immature of course.

I could in a sense retire early and move aboard, but then I'd miss out on my kids who I enjoy co-parenting and raising. Going overseas to certain places seems better especially because of the quality/price of food and things compared to Ontario now. And I'm no longer in Toronto since I left over 10 years ago. Most places where I am are generally meh. I usually go out to eat under 5 times a year if that. I more so rather just cook at home since I enjoy it. I wouldn't mind leaving Canada for 4 or 5 months during the winter going to places in Asia once my business is established and doing decent. I'm sure in time I'll figure it out.

 

[richaceg]

Anybody waiting to turn 65 and "retire" IMO is the worst you can do to yourself....I retire every saturday sunday....enjoy your life as much as you can right now. You need to go out there and see what interests you.
Here's the 4 Hobbies I spend my time and $$$.
1. Fishing - spend most of my $$$ there.
2. Riding my bike - I toned down on that...sold my road and mtb...now only do gravel...bikes has doubled in price....
3. Seeing MPs - 2x a month.
4. Seeing SPs - used to be every week, then 2x a month, now only do it when i see someone interesting.

Make sure you have the $$$ to finance your hobbies...also helps if you love your job. if you don't you get bored fast.

 

[kona]

I'd have to reach out to different communities and make new friends. I don't mind cooking for people and chatting while having a drink here or there. Or even going out for a coffee and such. It would have to be with people similar to me in terms of interests, level minded, non-judgmental and we get along than someone blowing up or being immature of course.

I could in a sense retire early and move aboard, but then I'd miss out on my kids who I enjoy co-parenting and raising. Going overseas to certain places seems better especially because of the quality/price of food and things compared to Ontario now. And I'm no longer in Toronto since I left over 10 years ago. Most places where I am are generally meh. I usually go out to eat under 5 times a year if that. I more so rather just cook at home since I enjoy it. I wouldn't mind leaving Canada for 4 or 5 months during the winter going to places in Asia once my business is established and doing decent. I'm sure in time I'll figure it out.

You have to do what is right for you and your situation. You definitely don’t want to miss out on time with the kids. Being an absent parent will cause resentment in the future. Also depending on your business and how hands on you need to be, 5 months away can be a recipe for bad things. I don’t think I would be able to enjoy myself while I am away.

 

[LTO_3]

Boredom is a part of life. Just like there were days when I was bored and/or hated my job - I I think everyone does at one time or another - that passes quickly and then you just move on to what's next in life. In other words, there are good days and bad days and they all come and go, welcome to life.

LTO_3

 

[rgkv]

you think every days the same,,, wait till your 70's