Personally if you've been texting often for days or weeks and she was that into you even as a friend or so she'd ask to meet you other times. If that hasn't happened it's usually a sign someone isn't much into you that way. There is a small chance if she's super shy or wants you to make the first move. I personally would just straight ask or not. It happens in the online dating world too which I've learned from experience. Now after a few days of texting and vibing I cut to the chase and not in terms of just getting into their pants of course. If they aren't willing to meet up they'll either tell ya or ghost ya. Sometimes people get caught up and are nice and enjoy the convo but that's all it ends up being. It's a time waster if you actually wanna date someone or just be friends or something.
Balancing a crush on an SP
- Thread starter Mangoman0052
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Wow. Still bitter eh?
I honestly don’t know what I want.
Who is to know if I could even handle knowing she’s getting railed while I’m at home lol.
I think this is me just talking myself through my situation and that’s with knowing the answers before I even posted.
It’s a pipe dream and I think I need to just take it for what it is. A really great SP that I have amazing chemistry with. Enjoy the time we have together and that’s it.
But we are human. That’s the battle. Real emotions.
Who is to know if I could even handle knowing she’s getting railed while I’m at home lol.
I think this is me just talking myself through my situation and that’s with knowing the answers before I even posted.
It’s a pipe dream and I think I need to just take it for what it is. A really great SP that I have amazing chemistry with. Enjoy the time we have together and that’s it.
But we are human. That’s the battle. Real emotions.
Yeah think with your big head. Your heart has nothing to do with it. That's all emotion stuff which comes into the way of being realistic. And it's not that hard to tell if a chick is using you especially for money. Tell her no a few times and if she makes a fuss about it move on. Don't waste your time with women who get upset because you said no at times. Quite a few nowadays just want, want and want. A lot think for some magical reason they are all that and deserve it. The so-called "I'm a princess/queen" types get annoying quick and cry often not getting their ways. Annoying af.
Not bitter. I rather be creating something with my time, than wasting time with.frustration and negative energy. I'm not putting her down... she literally said she wants to be a whore and that's her way of living.
She is not the same person off the clock in her personal life. You may get a tiny peak but you don't get the whole picture. You don't get her when she is pissed off at you or too tired for sex or dealing with a problem she does or doesn't want your help on.
You don't "know" her.
So either man up, and ask her straight to go off the clock and on a date and get the answer directly from her or stop seeing her on your own. Those are your only two options.
You can't win anyone over with money or away from this hobby unless they want to. Go on online dating sites and post you're rich and debt free for jokes and not everyone you find attractive or something will message you or want you. And typically a gold digger will make sure you waste most of it on her just for the sake of it and move on after they are done with ya. Smarten up...
Whatever dude. If you say so, just know your posts read differently, but I'll leave it here
EDIT: even with your edit - it read bitter. But again; I’ll leave it alone.
WeirdWhatever dude. If you say so, just know your posts read differently, but I'll leave it here
EDIT: even with your edit - it read bitter. But again; I’ll leave it alone.
A lot of guys learn with experience. I'm back into the online dating world and have been hitting it off with someone who wants to meet. Doesn't mean it'll lead to something and so forth. But I also wouldn't waste days/weeks chatting/texting someone who clearly shows signs of not wanting to meet up for a simple in public hangout. There are the few who want to chat longer to feel comfortable to finally meet up in person but that's a different situation. I draw the line when it's been weeks or so of good chat vibes and want to meet. If they still wanna drag it that's my choice to keep dealing with them or not. 99% of the time it's a time waste and some like I said just want attention and stuff.
This is the kind of thread that gets 10 pages of responses in a day
Best chance you have is via open and honest communication. Can’t imagine it will end well but good luck.
So, it looks to me that you're waiting for her to make the first step? If so, it will not happen. She either just fine with the status quo, or just, you know, girls/women don't usually initiate. Ask her out, the following outcomes will happen: (1) She says "yes" then you will have a chance to move on more serious relationships (just don't pay for her time, only entertainment please) (2) She says "No". Then you can stop thinking about her every day and move on.
You can't balance a crush on SP.
You're basically fucked.
Good luck.
You're basically fucked.
Good luck.
Well since you are so charming it’s obvious just that she didn’t want to feel beholden to you and all your money. At least she is in charge of her lifeand has independence instead of having someone call all the shots because they hold the wallet. I’m just guessing though.
You have very wisely answered your own question. You’ve found something pretty awesome, a girl in this business that you genuinely click with. You enjoy her company, and apparently she enjoys yours. You get to have great sex and non sex fun together without the entanglements of a relationship. Thats a pretty cool thing. Just keep it in that zone, and don’t start trying to mimic an actual relationship by seeing her 2,3,4 times weekly and bankrupt yourself.
For a number of years when I’ve found a professional girl who I get a connection with, I’ll stick to them, as long as I can. It’s great to be able to see someone for an hour, or two, or an afternoon if you wish, have a great carefree time, some laughs, good conversation and yes some hot sex. Think of it as a special treat to yourself, and leave the fantasy there when you walk out the door.
Thank you for the very thoughtful response. All the messages are right, I just needed to vent and find solace in others similar situations to remind myself I’m not crazy lol.
Not crazy at all, at least not that crazy. lol.
It’s normal to develop some feelings of attachment in these situations, especially with someone attractive with whom you have just had great sex, and then in the afterglow (with all of those “attachment hormones” flowing around your body, into your brain) and you just start having this great, deep conversation, finding common interests, or finding her hilarious sense of humour and unique outlook on life, years of evolution have wired us to feel that way!
I'm embarrassed to say I fell into this trap with a stripper. At the end of the day, when she left the biz she never returned any of my massages. So I stopped trying.
I learned my lesson. Enjoy your time when you pay, that's it.
Actually the fact that you are questioning shows you are aware and not crazy. I've talked to quite a few girls in the business about this topic. They do form feelings for some of their customers but they value the cash transaction above all since this is their income stream. Yes many string their customers along not via evil intent only as part of the job. Some guys are so starved for love they easily form delusions that the paid for sex is an actual relationship even though they are aware they are paying for the lady's time. One example I recently was made aware of is a customer in a sex less marriage waiting for kids to become adults before divorcing his wife, and in his mind getting together with his SP. I asked her directly if that is even a remote possibility and she said no.she does not want to marry a guy that knows about her role in the sex industry.
