Married Guys - Guidance Wanted

Butler1000

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I'm not sure why I see so many recommendations for burner phones. I prefer to use my actual phone, instead of finding some phone hidden somewhere, which could be difficult to explain if found. Install an app when you hobby, uninstall it when done. Yes there are a handful of agencies and escorts that demand that you call from a 'real' number which is a dumb requirement anyways because burner phone bought with a gift card can't really be traced. Any escort and agency I care about is ok with text apps.

To hide cash, have one credit card with eStatements your wifey doesn't know about. Use it to pay for things and disappearing cash can be explained that you used cash to buy those things.
As I said, make it a part of an emergency kit in the car. Easy peasy explanation. A clean regular phone you can hand over, loan to her at any time is the best defense against suspicion.
 
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Butler covered a lot, particularly the budget. The physically separate phone is likely the best approach. Pay for it with gift cards.

  • In addition, test for STIs. Consider CBJ in addition to CFS. Chlamydia and gonorrhea will show VERY quickly so you can't prevent that but there are other ones to be worried about. With incubation periods you never know. Use teletest.ca, it doesn't impact your Family Doctor so they won't kick out of of their practice.
  • If your wife has access to your Lifelabs account, go to Dynacare. There might be other urine/blood labs, I don't know.
  • If you use cialis/viagara, for fucks sake do not use your benefits. This will show up there. Use a difference pharmacy than your family.
  • Your greatest problem is - where do you get the cash without leaving a trace? Don't use your bank account to periodically withdraw cash. I withdraw from my investment accounts, particularly the RRSP since that's harder to view the history on. The RESP is a great source as well, fuck the kids make them pay their own education. Get a cheque and cash the cheque at the bank. However, the transaction MIGHT show up. Consider opening a separate bank account with that cheque. If the wife does a credit check search, it'll show up with activity but if she's researching you to that level you're fucked anyway :ROFLMAO:
  • Think of every single thing that leaves a digital trace and try to eliminate it.
I think this industry would collapse if married guys didn't 'participate'.
Yeah. Appreciate the health reminders!
 

Butler1000

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My system is good old fashioned skimming.
For example, If I take $100 from the ATM for legitimate reasons, I set $20 aside in a place that my wife would never find. My wife knows I play Proline and make sports bets with friends, so sometimes I don't play but tell her that I did and lost (but I actually pocket my "losses"). Or better yet I play and say I win $150, I tell her 'great news, I won $100!' and set the remaining $50 aside.
Within weeks I have a couple of hundred to go see someone.
Get a separate account. Start by complaining about how much she spends on hair, make up, clothes, whatever else. Not big but in a nagging way. Get her to the pissy point over time. Then say look I can't stand looking at it, so let's set you up with a seperate account and monthly amount to go in you need. It will also be for gifts etc.

Then set up your own at the same time.
 
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jjjj77

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As I said, make it a part of an emergency kit in the car. Easy peasy explanation. A clean regular phone you can hand over, loan to her at any time is the best defense against suspicion.
I want to be able to contact escorts anytime I'm in a position to do so, not only when I'm in my car. I have my phone on me 24/7, I'm in my car just occasionally each day. I can hand my regular phone to wifey already anytime I want.
 

Butler1000

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I want to be able to contact escorts anytime I'm in a position to do so, not only when I'm in my car. I have my phone on me 24/7, I'm in my car just occasionally each day. I can hand my regular phone to wifey already anytime I want.
Ok. You have it down. It's an option for those who don't, who plan things differently because of their circumstances. Most married guys need to plan well ahead.
 
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Get a separate account. Start by complaining about how much she spends on hair, make up, clothes, whatever else. Not big but in a nagging way. Get her to the pissy point over time. Then say look I can't stand looking at it, so let's set you up with a seperate account and monthly amount to go in you need. It will also be for gifts etc.

Then set up your own at the same time.
IMO, that would just draw more skepticism, but my wife isn’t a big spender so perhaps that would work for those whose wives are.
 

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There's TextMe and TextNow. Just need an email to sign up which you can create a new one through Gmail, Proton, etc. The phone number they let you pick through a list. If you're gonna uninstall the app and stuff just try and remember the email and pass. You also at times might get texts or calls from people who used the same number that you got which is rare. Like a collections calling or someone wanting something. I just ignore it or have replied back saying this is a new number not the person you are looking for. I hardly use the apps.
 
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There's TextMe and TextNow. Just need an email to sign up which you can create a new one through Gmail, Proton, etc. The phone number they let you pick through a list. If you're gonna uninstall the app and stuff just try and remember the email and pass. You also at times might get texts or calls from people who used the same number that you got which is rare. Like a collections calling or someone wanting something. I just ignore it or have replied back saying this is a new number not the person you are looking for. I hardly use the apps.
there is also talkatone and fongo which worked the same way when I used to use them

I have seen many escort ads that say they will not respond to apps, which is absurd to me. This whole hobby is based on discretion and confidentiality.
 
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For cash Kavi uses cashback option available in grocery stores. He would normally get $60 per transaction and then tell the cashier no bill. Cashier would throw in the bin.
And he always shops for fresh fruits and vegetables. So, it is almost every other day if not every day.
 

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Based on the anecdotal evidence I get from a regular of mine, plus what I see on X, this time of year is actually a bad time for the industry; as all the married guys have to spend their cashola on gifts for the wife and kids, and their free time on Holiday Family BS. Thus, they don't participate as much as they do the other 11 months of the year.

It's like Black Friday; but in reverse.
It's true. The few months before Xmas are the worst. When I do see people they're usually single with no kids. I save money to get through this time or get a part time job. It picks up again in January.
 

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I find it much easier to uninstall an app than hiding a physical phone. Been doing it for 10+ years and I don't think there's anything difficult about it. Want to fuck? Install the app. Finished session? Uninstall and go home.
What App you talking about?
 

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Just don't be stupid about it. First always take care of all your shit at home. Second don't make sudden drastic grooming changes. Next don't make sudden drastic schedule changes. Slowly line up your free time excuses for a few hours. Learn to turn off geo location. Clear search histories. Burner phone(put together a car emergency kit in a small storage tub for the trunk. Battery charger, water, first aid kit, snack, warming items etc) and include a pay as you go phone. That is your hobby phone.

Next is to realize not every hobby time will work out. Cancelations will occur, plans will have to change to accommodate your family. Prioritize things so the hobby is always the second choice.

Yes it's a rush of dopamine. But be an adult about it. Keep that separation at the forefront. Doing that can help prevent losing control. By taking control of all aspects and treating it as the relationship dangerous activity it is.

Set a budget, stick to it.

Good luck.
Do you guys know where I can get a used burner phone in TO? I have tried a few places in Scarborough but no luck
 

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Do you guys know where I can get a used burner phone in TO? I have tried a few places in Scarborough but no luck
Kijiji - just buy any old phone - easier than going to BestBuy to buy a pay as you go phone. I got a Google 6 for $200 - no traces and I have a data sim - and I use MySudo as an app for the phone. Its not registered to Google (Play Store) and if I want an app I just search and install the APK file. Completely anonymous. Also for plausible deniability I have instagram on it and I follow random people with good photography and some AI and semi nude type girls. Worst case scenario I say - "yeah instagram drives me nuts these days its all naked girls - I should just delete it"

Edit update; Just thought I'd mention how I got the data sim without being gouged.

Right now if you go on Fido website they are offering a tablet deal. You have to already be a regular customer. Login then just go to tablets - choose cheapest tablet and then go to select data - its $15 and when you checkout they apply enough credits that the tablet is free. Get the deal - buy a phone on kijiji and stick the data sim in. For some reason they wont sell you a data sim without getting you into a 24 month deal. But hey its cheap so...
 
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