Anyone here ever date or start a relationship with a SP?
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I had a four year relationship with a SP. It worked for both of us until I fucked it up. How I did so is irrelevant, but it stemmed from getting tired of everything and not willing to put in the effort any more. TBH, it was a good 4 years.
I have.
It's like any relationship, maybe a little more complicated due to the line of work, I have good memories and not so good ones. Things didn't work out in the end.
After we broke up she started hanging out with the wrong people and exactly eight years ago she passed away from an overdose at only twenty-three.
It's like any relationship, maybe a little more complicated due to the line of work, I have good memories and not so good ones. Things didn't work out in the end.
After we broke up she started hanging out with the wrong people and exactly eight years ago she passed away from an overdose at only twenty-three.
All of us TERBites have wonky relationships with our spouses/GFs because things are dysfunctional and we hide things... SP/John relationships have the potential to be successful if they begin with honesty and effort is made.
Would you not even try to date a SP who you've hit it off with, who's attractive and who's an expert at sex? Add in great conversation, snuggles, Netflix binging and she makes you a sandwich every now and then?! She might just be a keeper.
You'd have to have a big wiener to apply though. I'm sure she'd be used to BWC/BBC.
Would you not even try to date a SP who you've hit it off with, who's attractive and who's an expert at sex? Add in great conversation, snuggles, Netflix binging and she makes you a sandwich every now and then?! She might just be a keeper.
You'd have to have a big wiener to apply though. I'm sure she'd be used to BWC/BBC.
So sorry. Mean that sincerely. Hope you are ok.
Yes. I'm pretty strong minded and understanding how life works. That's not to say things could change afterwards. But it would highly depend on the person's overall well being. I say that because similar to another post "effort" plays a key role. It happens to women too who deal with a meh SO eventually and they get tired of the effort. People do have breaking points; it's human nature of course. Most people don't stick around if someone has certain issues. For me it would depend what certain issues were or can be. Are people fine with a bit of physical stuff? And that's a topic I won't be getting into this thread. There's already articles about why people do based on their psychology. I do have limits, but if the person overall is fine with a few things here or there because life isn't always happy moments that's never been a deal breaker with me. Any relationship deals with that. And of course based on the few SPs I've seen out of my life I didn't get to know them (quite a few I know just off hand I wouldn't want to lol), but based on stories from other people and the type of person they dated certain things would eventually bug me too. Some people have ex's they wish they could still deal with and be with. I don't so far.
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Yeah, it happened a couple of times for me over the past 25-30 years. Certainly need to be open-minded. Neither worked out, but still friends. Was never about the sex, but some of it was legendary. Heard some crazy stories about client fetishes, that's for sure!
I don't understand the arithmetic: 23 - 8 = 15, and that is after you broke up?
She passed away when she was 23, which would be 8 years ago. Their relationship duration Combat Shock didn't mention.
Anyone here ever date or start a relationship with a SP?
Here is IMHO the bottom line.
Remember I said " HUMBLE "
Sex is fire for the first few months, then, the fire slowly dims. This happens in every relationship. It's the fire that most guys here are after. I can't fathom looking into the escort pool for a long-term relationship. I would say the same is true for women becoming escorts. Sooner or later the primary leveraging factor that brings us together in this industry fades out. I frequent escorts as an endless supply of that fire, yes we can be crazy about each other, yes we can really dig each other, yes the sex is nuclear, yes we can remain friends, but after a while, as it has been my experience over decades of hobbying, one thing holds true.
Like this line from Phil Collins song " MISSED AGAIN "
Well, it feels like something you want so bad
Then you think you've got it, but it's something you already had.
MD
Here is IMHO the bottom line.
Remember I said " HUMBLE "
Sex is fire for the first few months, then, the fire slowly dims. This happens in every relationship. It's the fire that most guys here are after. I can't fathom looking into the escort pool for a long-term relationship. I would say the same is true for women becoming escorts. Sooner or later the primary leveraging factor that brings us together in this industry fades out. I frequent escorts as an endless supply of that fire, yes we can be crazy about each other, yes we can really dig each other, yes the sex is nuclear, yes we can remain friends, but after a while, as it has been my experience over decades of hobbying, one thing holds true.
Like this line from Phil Collins song " MISSED AGAIN "
Well, it feels like something you want so bad
Then you think you've got it, but it's something you already had.
MD
This! I remember my boss at a summer job I had when I was 15 saying, "When you first meet a woman, you'll fuck every day. After a couple of months, you'll fuck once a week. And after a little while longer, you just tell each other to fuck off."
As a know-nothing kid, I didn't fully grasp what he said. As a grown-ass middle-aged man, his assessment is spot-on.
Personally and not to be judgmental, but most come across lazy along with being financially unstable. Quite a few just have bad attitude based on the few I've encountered. It's usually someone with just a high school diploma (if that) and bad attitude eventually. Most of the time the funds are for their bad habits and life choices once you chat them up a bit. I've never had a long term regular, but it seems rather obvious. See them a few times within the first few months and you'll probably be glad you didn't waste time pursing a relationship or something. It's like dating some chick who keeps making bad money choices and stuff then she contacts you wanting help and if you say no they usually ignore you and move on to the next person in line or blow up on you. I've been around the odd older ones with young adult kids and then the kids call up whining about needing money for once again dumb choices. It's some repeat pattern that never ends. Most big themself up like they are something extremely special when they have hardly much to show for. In my 20s someone gave great advice about trying to date older single moms that they'll suck you off real nice, but if you end up paying some sort of support to them eventually that sucking easily dies down. I'd rather just pay for that fire and good attitude for the short time and bounce.
Just don’t.
If you think she likes you bc she calls you “babe”, or “daddy” (
) or hun, or even texts you to say sporadically, remember, it’s her job.
She’s baiting you. Even if she has a shred of affection towards you, your money is more important to her than you.
Or actually, do whatever TF you want, I really don’t give a shit.
If you think she likes you bc she calls you “babe”, or “daddy” (
) or hun, or even texts you to say sporadically, remember, it’s her job.She’s baiting you. Even if she has a shred of affection towards you, your money is more important to her than you.
Or actually, do whatever TF you want, I really don’t give a shit.
The good news was we knew each other's deepest darkest secret before the first real date lol.
However, I think you have to accept her as she is. If she's staying in the biz so be it. You don't have to date. It's arrogant, to me, to demand she quit. If she chooses to, fine. But accept her as is or move on.
However, I think you have to accept her as she is. If she's staying in the biz so be it. You don't have to date. It's arrogant, to me, to demand she quit. If she chooses to, fine. But accept her as is or move on.
Sis are just like regular women except they get paid for intimacy they have real feelings and sometimes they catch feeling for clients or clients catch feelings for them and shit happens. I remember a beautiful Arab lady from this place many years ago she met a client and married him. The reality is simple dont expect her to change anything unless she absolutely offers too. if its not mutual you'll end up getting hurt.
I know a gentleman in my life who has dated various SW in the past. He never judged them for their life choices or what motivated them to stay in the industry. He tried to make those relationships work some last roughly 3 years but a majority last under a year. Personally if you can handle it like an adult that shouldn't stop you from trying a relationship with one if it works out in your favour.
But yah it may or may not work out but that's a given in a relationship with anyone regardless of profession
But yah it may or may not work out but that's a given in a relationship with anyone regardless of profession
It’s more important to her that you have a big wallet than a big wiener.All of us TERBites have wonky relationships with our spouses/GFs because things are dysfunctional and we hide things... SP/John relationships have the potential to be successful if they begin with honesty and effort is made.
Would you not even try to date a SP who you've hit it off with, who's attractive and who's an expert at sex? Add in great conversation, snuggles, Netflix binging and she makes you a sandwich every now and then?! She might just be a keeper.
You'd have to have a big wiener to apply though. I'm sure she'd be used to BWC/BBC.
