I personally feel a degree of SYNERGY with the OP. YES we all retain BODILY AUTONOMY, so there’s no argument whether it’s your right to screen based on race, and there are some legitimate reasons for racial/community screening as others have stated. But it’s NOT all RAINBOWS & LOLLIPOPS, there are far more tagging “no blacks” in particular than can be explained with a cultural exemption and let’s be honest and say it like it is, SOME providers use racist screening BECAUSE THEY’RE RACIST. Which is yes, their personal right, but is still a MORAL FAILURE IMHO.
Why? Well, on the provider side we are mainly SELECTIVE of clients for things like SAFETY, HYGENE, RESPECTFUL behaviour and meeting our financial requirements. You guys are paying for a service and have completely different selection criteria for those you are specifically and especially attracted to. There are perhaps some SWs that also screen for overarching physical attributes but I think that’s more in the nice to have column and really our criteria is on the TOLERANCE side. Think about it guys, we don’t even ask for photos so we’re looking at other criteria than you are.
I also feel the more experienced we are, the more we really don’t need a specific physical deck to build a connection, we move past superficial stuff to connect with the person and care about superficial aspects less and less. This is called personal growth and MATURITY.
For myself I see ALL RACES and screen based on defensible qualities like attitude. I don’t care what race, age (if legal), gender, religion, body type, ability nor height. I might care if you have a monster cock since I’m smaller but that’s about it! And it turns out gentlemen, professors, physicians, lawyers and even bad clients and gangsters come in all shades! And for the record the biggest dicks I couldn’t fit were Greek & Irish; chew on that a bit amongst the stereotypes. And the roughest are usually the smallies trying to overcompensate with other agressive behaviour just FYI. I personally find black men in particular are MORE careful to be respectful and gentle due to unfair stereotypes and racism. My black clients are often so “making love in the afternoon” vibes! Ultimately I feel a natural kinship with a person through their humour, kindness, playfulness and smarts.
So I actually understand and respect why saying “no blacks” without another clear reason comes off as RACIST and why that’s a TURN-OFF. Without a specific reason, It flags someone as narrow-minded and judgmental at best who will likely not be accepting of other physical attributes they may not like. I too find racism a personal turn-off, just as I find immature attitudes about body types and aging so pussy-desiccating. It just strikes me as mean, dumb or both which are super-unattractive qualities. And even though I have to tolerate it sometimes as the provider, I prefer to change to subject and focus on someone’s better self
Why? Well, on the provider side we are mainly SELECTIVE of clients for things like SAFETY, HYGENE, RESPECTFUL behaviour and meeting our financial requirements. You guys are paying for a service and have completely different selection criteria for those you are specifically and especially attracted to. There are perhaps some SWs that also screen for overarching physical attributes but I think that’s more in the nice to have column and really our criteria is on the TOLERANCE side. Think about it guys, we don’t even ask for photos so we’re looking at other criteria than you are.
I also feel the more experienced we are, the more we really don’t need a specific physical deck to build a connection, we move past superficial stuff to connect with the person and care about superficial aspects less and less. This is called personal growth and MATURITY.
For myself I see ALL RACES and screen based on defensible qualities like attitude. I don’t care what race, age (if legal), gender, religion, body type, ability nor height. I might care if you have a monster cock since I’m smaller but that’s about it! And it turns out gentlemen, professors, physicians, lawyers and even bad clients and gangsters come in all shades! And for the record the biggest dicks I couldn’t fit were Greek & Irish; chew on that a bit amongst the stereotypes. And the roughest are usually the smallies trying to overcompensate with other agressive behaviour just FYI. I personally find black men in particular are MORE careful to be respectful and gentle due to unfair stereotypes and racism. My black clients are often so “making love in the afternoon” vibes! Ultimately I feel a natural kinship with a person through their humour, kindness, playfulness and smarts.
So I actually understand and respect why saying “no blacks” without another clear reason comes off as RACIST and why that’s a TURN-OFF. Without a specific reason, It flags someone as narrow-minded and judgmental at best who will likely not be accepting of other physical attributes they may not like. I too find racism a personal turn-off, just as I find immature attitudes about body types and aging so pussy-desiccating. It just strikes me as mean, dumb or both which are super-unattractive qualities. And even though I have to tolerate it sometimes as the provider, I prefer to change to subject and focus on someone’s better self
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we put them on a BL and warn other providers. I can’t imagine a worse way to turn off my client base than complaining about all the bad dates I’ve had. 
