Spoiling?

[Rum&Coke]

This question is for those who see an SP occaissionally. Let’s say you see the same SP once every 6-8 weeks and have good rapport with her.

The question is, has the SP ever contacted you and asked you to spoil her for any number of reasons (birthday, X-mas, mother’s day, etc…)

By spoil, I mean send her money, gift cards, etc. without spoiling ever being spoken about or discussed in person.

I am curious what others have experienced.

 

[dryan08]

This question is for those who see an SP occaissionally. Let’s say you see the same SP once every 6-8 weeks and have good rapport with her.

The question is, has the SP ever contacted you and asked you to spoil her for any number of reasons (birthday, X-mas, mother’s day, etc…)

By spoil, I mean send her money, gift cards, etc. without spoiling ever being spoken about or discussed in person.

I am curious what others have experienced.

95% of the time it's a bad idea.
If you do, a $15 gift card or a bottle of wine is the place to start.
If you have the income and she has no one in her life, maybe. But why? Just see her more often. Or not at all.
And yes she should be asking in person.

 

[TigerFlex5]

This question is for those who see an SP occaissionally. Let’s say you see the same SP once every 6-8 weeks and have good rapport with her.

The question is, has the SP ever contacted you and asked you to spoil her for any number of reasons (birthday, X-mas, mother’s day, etc…)

By spoil, I mean send her money, gift cards, etc. without spoiling ever being spoken about or discussed in person.

I am curious what others have experienced.

Directly : Never!

With the explosion of those Only Fan sites and the pandemic, I've noticed more providers asking for money on Twitter. Like asking because they need money for school or a new car, to help for their apartment or else. But I never had one of m y regulars contacted me to ask for money. However, I carefully choose my regulars.

 

[mrakdn1965]

The only thing I bring if morning a Timmy coffee lol

 

[Rum&Coke]

Thanks for the input.
@dryan08, there are reasons I can only see her every 6-8 weeks, otherwise I would see her more often. She knows the reasons but that in no way justifies asking for money just because.

@TigerFlex5, agreed, she has an OF site, which i also subcribe to but was surprised by her demanding me to send/spoil her just because. I thought I had chosen carefully but I guess not.

@mrakdn1965, my regular (ex-regular now) prefers Starbucks, but i get it.

I can’t see myself booking time with her again unfortunately. Which is too bad because we had a tremendous amount of fun together. C’est la vie!

 

[Mandalorian]

I don’t get the ”spoil me!” thing. They always say sex work is work and respect boundaries yet the ones asking to be spoiled tries and friendzone you for freebies. Please, keep it transactional and no one gets hurt. Charlie Sheen’s quote about paying the girl to leave should not be taken personally by the ladies.

 

[shaved_u_a_seat]

Thanks for the input.
@dryan08, there are reasons I can only see her every 6-8 weeks, otherwise I would see her more often. She knows the reasons but that in no way justifies asking for money just because.

@TigerFlex5, agreed, she has an OF site, which i also subcribe to but was surprised by her demanding me to send/spoil her just because. I thought I had chosen carefully but I guess not.

@mrakdn1965, my regular (ex-regular now) prefers Starbucks, but i get it.

I can’t see myself booking time with her again unfortunately. Which is too bad because we had a tremendous amount of fun together. C’est la vie!

You should tell her why. They need to know that clients don't appreciate that kind of behavior.

 

[bukka]

I don't believe in this. I think SP should not have any $$$| problems

I had a lady reached out to me once ask me for 100 but I was travelling for work and I offered to send her a prepaid card card but she said if could send her a etransfer which I said no and never heard back from her again

 

[Deviance]

Nope, not at all, no f'ing way! A small token of appreciation like flowers, wine, chocolate, take out or dine in, certainly. Gifts are offered out of appreciation not demanded due to a sense of entitlement. Asking for rent money, car repairs, etc? Time to learn the word BUDGET like most other people.

 

[oldawg]

I don't think any of these ladies should have any financial issues if they do they should hire a financial planner/advisor lol

 

[CuddleBuddy2]

Do you look like the Monopoly guy by any chance ?


Thankfully I don't so never got asked

 

[Tango441]

I have not experienced this but know others who have. I have had great relationships with many and feel that the feeling between us is business with a personal touch. Its all I want, and all she wants too. Works great. Almost like pretend girlfriend. If you avoid the personal conversations, you will potentially avoid this type of thing. Just my experience.

 

[Mandalorian]

Nice bump of an old thread and I was surprised I have already commented. Just to update my experience, sometimes despite my best efforts a SW will tug at my heart strings and make me do stupid shit. A couple of weeks ago a regular of mine was desperate for someone with a truck to come help her move with a hint that the reward will be big, so I volunteered. Exchanged messages a few times that day, got the location and time and showed up. Well she ghosted me! ..l sat there like a dumb idiot with all her neighbours looking at me while I texted her wondering wtf was happening. A day later she apologized and said she found someone else, didn’t tell me and had moved everything hours before I showed up. i was so pissed I’m not seeing her anymore. So total lose-lose situation.

These girls are pretty messed up in their personal lives, don’t get involved.

 

[CuddleBuddy2]

This is why I don't repeat too often and don't get into personal life. Might offer a little extra cash, small gifts or book longer sessions but that's about it.

Whatever you do, don't put anything on your credit. Renting Apartment, Car financing, leasing are big NOs.

I've read about a client financing a car for a provider. Maybe he was hoping for off the clock sessions or more services. It's just a bad idea. Chances are you will get hustled and disappointed big time.

 

[Sinfulmarv]

I suspect that some guys definitely "spoil" SPs without asking. But it'd be rather bold of a SP to directly ask for gifts.

I mostly see the Asian SPs. On a few occasions, I've picked up someone a latte, few items from Seoul Mart, and even once drove one around for errands and a meal. I provide a small tip for good service, but wouldn't call it spoiling.

 

[Tinmachine]

Nice bump of an old thread and I was surprised I have already commented. Just to update my experience, sometimes despite my best efforts a SW will tug at my heart strings and make me do stupid shit. A couple of weeks ago a regular of mine was desperate for someone with a truck to come help her move with a hint that the reward will be big, so I volunteered. Exchanged messages a few times that day, got the location and time and showed up. Well she ghosted me! ..l sat there like a dumb idiot with all her neighbours looking at me while I texted her wondering wtf was happening. A day later she apologized and said she found someone else, didn’t tell me and had moved everything hours before I showed up. i was so pissed I’m not seeing her anymore. So total lose-lose situation.

These girls are pretty messed up in their personal lives, don’t get involved.

Just by chance can yu tell me what city this was in? All I need to know thnks.

 

[Mike74]

I've had a couple of girls ask me for money,especially one since Christmas, she's been asking for money weekly lol the worst part is when you lend them money and the next thing you know they are posted on leolist lol so the other guys are getting the fun and your just giving money lol its could ruin your self-confidence, I've learned since to set my boundaries

 

[Deviance]

I

I suspect that some guys definitely "spoil" SPs without asking. But it'd be rather bold of a SP to directly ask for gifts.

I mostly see the Asian SPs. On a few occasions, I've picked up someone a latte, few items from Seoul Mart, and even once drove one around for errands and a meal. I provide a small tip for good service, but wouldn't call it spoiling.

I DO think well thought out small gifts are best. Well recieved and enhances the connection (Seoul Mart). Well done, Good Sir!

 

[slobbyist]

a coffee, donuts, box of chocolate etc. are my slobbyist gifts if I click and repeat.

They can use my money from my repeat sessions to buy expensive things for themselves.

If they tell you that you're cheap then their definition of cheap is different than yours. Shelving out $200 to $300 for only one hour is cheap?

 

[Alison_xox]

To each their own , but I would feel so uncomfortable asking for $$ or gifts or anything.
Some clients bring a bottle of wine , flowers , gifts , but I never askfor it.
It even felt weird to create my wish list , but so many clients were asking for it so I added one to my website. I never post or advertise it anywhere.

I feel if a client wants to spoil you , it’s because it makes him feel good to give. It makes both of us feel good.

It’s a completely different feeling to ask and feel like you have to give. Mehhh .. Not my cup of tea.

Gifts are always appreciated , but never expected.

Kisses
Ali