For those married man who tried sugar babying or is currently in sugar baby relationship , is it worth the headache and drama and risk of getting caught by wife? If so what make you choose it over escorts ?
Is sugar baby worth it for married man ?
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Yes, for me it has been, but it really depends what you’re looking for. My marriage has been sexless for many years and I started seeing SP’s for obvious reasons. I still do see SP’s but not often, and only if they have something unique about them or seem to touch a chord somehow.
If you’re looking the thrill of different partners and variety, or just to get laid now and then, sticking with SP’s makes the most sense IMO. Finding SB’s can be a lot of leg work and not worth it to just see a girl once. Again just IMO. To me the drama and risk to a married guy is no different than seeing SP’s if you’re frequently looking for someone new.
I have discovered that what I’m really missing, other than regular sex of course, is connection and the sexual discovery that comes with seeing the same person on a regular basis. Not many guys who get into the SB world are looking for this, or so the ladies tell me, but it is what alot of women want when they get into suggaring.
Seeing a SB on a regular schedule can also be cost effective and less risky, particularly if she lives alone and can host our dates, and her schedule matches with mine. For example my current SB has days off during the week and can host at her apartment. This makes it much easier for me to hide my dates with her from the home front. I also don’t have the hassle and risk of finding and using hotels, and the price per hour calculation that we’re all doing in our head is much lower than an SP of the same caliber. The sex is great and varied.
I have some rules that I always follow to keep myself protected from discovery and some other pitfalls that can happen with SB’s. DM if you want specifics, I don’t want to fill the space here.
From reading other threads here success in the SB world REALLY depends on the type of women you’re looking for and your location.
Having said all that I know I’m lucky to have found this situation. No question that it takes time to find the right girl, in the right situation, at the right price point. I also enjoy the “thrill of the chase” when I’m in the market for a new SB but thats a very different vibe than booking escorts.
Hope this helps.
If you’re looking the thrill of different partners and variety, or just to get laid now and then, sticking with SP’s makes the most sense IMO. Finding SB’s can be a lot of leg work and not worth it to just see a girl once. Again just IMO. To me the drama and risk to a married guy is no different than seeing SP’s if you’re frequently looking for someone new.
I have discovered that what I’m really missing, other than regular sex of course, is connection and the sexual discovery that comes with seeing the same person on a regular basis. Not many guys who get into the SB world are looking for this, or so the ladies tell me, but it is what alot of women want when they get into suggaring.
Seeing a SB on a regular schedule can also be cost effective and less risky, particularly if she lives alone and can host our dates, and her schedule matches with mine. For example my current SB has days off during the week and can host at her apartment. This makes it much easier for me to hide my dates with her from the home front. I also don’t have the hassle and risk of finding and using hotels, and the price per hour calculation that we’re all doing in our head is much lower than an SP of the same caliber. The sex is great and varied.
I have some rules that I always follow to keep myself protected from discovery and some other pitfalls that can happen with SB’s. DM if you want specifics, I don’t want to fill the space here.
From reading other threads here success in the SB world REALLY depends on the type of women you’re looking for and your location.
Having said all that I know I’m lucky to have found this situation. No question that it takes time to find the right girl, in the right situation, at the right price point. I also enjoy the “thrill of the chase” when I’m in the market for a new SB but thats a very different vibe than booking escorts.
Hope this helps.
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Beats me what SB is actually/really about but to me it's almost like dating/FWB/sex. Meh, why would I want that? I go with standard fee-for-service. Of course the problem is that if you see the same girl a lot, does it become similar to relationship-ish???? Beats me.
This is true. And It is always in the back of my mind, so be careful.
With quality SP’s there isn’t the risk of her contacting a client (not usually anyway) or the other kinds of personal entanglements that are possible with an SB.
For me as a married guy I always do the following:
- Never communicate via text or anything on your phone. Use Snapchat (most girls of the SB age use it) or text using the burner phone you have for booking escorts.
- I know the temptation is to see university age girls, who doesn’t want to bang a hot young coed? but I’ve had way more success with women who are a bit older. They are more mature, and aren't as careless. I have a better rapport, better conversations, they know you’re married and aren’t looking for a wife, and TBH the sex is better with a more experienced woman. Just IMO obviously, YMMV
- Don’t use your real name. Ever. Not even your first. I have an alias that I use for everything I might use in the SB world, including Snapchat, email, user names etc… No SB has ever even asked for my last name, but I have a complete one made up. Even an middle one just in case. If things go south you don’t want her tracking down your real identity. Be careful to never let her see your ID or even the name on a CC or debit card. I have never had this happen in the years I’ve been doing this, but always be prepared.
- Use anonymous prepaid cc’s (see other threads on TERB for tips about this) for everything including Sugar site fees, condoms, hotels etc...
- I know we’re worried about potential blackmail etc.., from the girls we see. Both Sp’s and SB’s so keep this in mind. Girls are way more open / careless with their name and details of their life. Facebook etc.. has made them way too open with that kind of thing IMO. If you’re paranoid, like I am sometimes, learn something about them. I guarantee that she does not want some people to know she’s having sex for money. A friend might know, but she does not want parents, co-workers etc… to know. An SP is way more likely to be open to friends and family about her gig as an escort than an SB. You can keep this information in your back pocket should the need ever arise. Having said that I have never even come close to this situation. Arrangements can be short or long, and they come and go, so there is an understanding from both parties. Just never make promises you do not intend to keep, you don’t need to piss the girls off.
- Other than that use the same precautions as you do with SP’s to keep this part of your life away from the home one.
If you’re married and want to best avoid your wife finding out you’re better off finding a sw
I’ve been married for over 30 years and we’ve built a very nice life together. Medical conditions have led to my wife being unable to have sex and the treatments have zapped the desire. Trading her in for a younger model doesn’t seem like a wise decision, nor one that I want.
I’m not alone among fellow TERBites in this situation. If married men didn’t see escorts half of their clients would disappear
It depends on your location, and the type of girl you’re looking for. However I’d say that jumping into the Sugar world is not really a way to save money.
I've been on the SD site for about 6 months now. Hooked up with three SB so far. It's all been PPM at about the same price as regular SW (you know they know the market and what SW are charging).
It's a lot more work frankly and although the sex in two of the three instances has been absolutely great (great!) I'm not sure I'll be doing it for too much longer.
The sense of entitlement and false self worth some of these chicks have is beyond belief. And there are just time wasters too (have you met a woman yet that didn't like attention ?)
It's a lot more work frankly and although the sex in two of the three instances has been absolutely great (great!) I'm not sure I'll be doing it for too much longer.
The sense of entitlement and false self worth some of these chicks have is beyond belief. And there are just time wasters too (have you met a woman yet that didn't like attention ?)
Yes, SB and SP are all good for married men.
How many married men still get BBBJ, BLS, DATY, digits, 69, CG, RCG, doggie, DFK etc
after the honeymoon is over? Women once their have gotten your ring, have access to your bank account, have babies, housework, cooking, plus work in the office, will give sex with husband a low priority.
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How many married men still get BBBJ, BLS, DATY, digits, 69, CG, RCG, doggie, DFK etc
after the honeymoon is over? Women once their have gotten your ring, have access to your bank account, have babies, housework, cooking, plus work in the office, will give sex with husband a low priority.
CP
It really depends what your looking for. I currently see an sb but also see escorts whenever I feel the urge or want to feel the thrill of being with someome new. The risk of getting caught by the wife is the same so you have to try your best and cover your bases regardless of who you are seeing. In my experience being with a sugar baby seems less transactional and you do develop a more meaningful intimate relationship if your seeing her long enough. There is also not really any time limitations as there are with escorts meaning I don't have to be done and out the door within within a specified period of time as I would with an escort. It feels more like a fwb relationship now that we have seen each other for a long period of time eventhough I know that seeing her is not necessarily free. I still see escorts whenever I'm feeling horny and my schedule doesn't align with my sb or I'm just in the mood to see someone new. The most important reason why I prefer my sb over escorts is that in my opinion my sb is a true 10/10 in every way from beauty, sex appeal, personality etc. I probably have never been with an escort that is as sexy as her.
Depends what value the wife at home brings verses the overall value of the girl in the sugar baby relationship. If the sugar baby girl should be everything the wife isn't and exceedingly more. Great sex, feminine, attractive. A breath of fresh air bringing peace into your life after a stress filled day. From someone who has enjoyed these types of arrangements, it was worth it and incredibly satisfying. If you are on the fence, give it serious consideration, it can be fulfilling and therapeutic for the mind and body.
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All your doing is paying double to be be led around like a bull with a ring in his nose. Pay for play then walk away.
This. Anyone else saying otherwise is delusional. I know divorces that have happened because of these SB relationships
Sorry but the risk is not the same, not even close. Spending an hour with an SP is so different from seeing an SB for multiple hours or overnights
or going out on dates or booking hotels, she possibly knows your real identity, where you live and has your contact information.
Only a matter of time before the wife catches on.
Not necessarily. It depends on how comfortable you are divulging personal information about yourself to the sb and vice versa. Just because your having sex with her doesnt mean she needs to know everything about your personal life. When going on dates and booking hotels (if that's something you have to do) there are ways to be discreet about it. Obviously there is always a risk to get caught either with an sb or an escort but after a while you figure out ways to better cover your tracks.
