I think most won't answer a text app. Maybe if it's slow and lucky. Im single now but when I had a SO I usually just block the SP number and delete text messages. They liked to go threw my phone lol.
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Been doing this for 15 years. Never had a problem and I use my ph. Every week. Lucky I guess
I know this will Sound strange the other option, which worked for me is to be open and honest with your SO about your wants and needs and maybe like myself you will be lucky and she will say go for it!
She is more than happy to not do certain Fetish's i might have anymore lol
She is more than happy to not do certain Fetish's i might have anymore lol
This is smart
I have a rule that I will not message someone back if it has been longer than an hour since they messaged. This goes for my regulars too.
That is completely false. Most reputable escorts and agencies don’t accept text apps. Myself include. I’m not a scammer at all.
Sorry to hear but thanks for sharing the story and the advice for other guys. I hope you're willing to update us about what happens. Good luck.
I'm feeling inspired to share a story, for those in the mood to read a novel.
I got busted about 5 years ago.
I feel like I should include a little background. She was a GF I had lived with for about 6 years at the time. She was practically perfect in every way, and marriage had crossed my mind, but maybe 4 or 5 years into it she totally lost her libido. She saw doctors about it, and was apologetic about it, which made me feel bad, so I always just tried to reassure her it was "OK", never pressure her, and tell her we'll make it work (while keeping my fingers crossed). But it felt like sex like maybe once or twice a month became more a chore for her which was just depressing to me.
The reason I got caught is I just got really complacent and lazy. Maybe subconsciously I wanted to get caught, that's the only rational explanation for my carelessness. But my GF was not a snooper, and would never have gone searching through my phone. So I never bothered to get a burner. I would just delete my texts when I got around to it, and that was my version of being careful. One day, I opened up a text conversation with an SP to delete it and then I got distracted. Sometime later that day, my GF innocently borrowed my phone in front of me to play a game. But the conversation with the SP was still open, so the first thing she saw upon opening my phone was my complimentary message to the SP after a session, something along the lines of "That was awesome. You're the best, and you have an amazing butt!".
So of course, she suddenly flipped out and was extremely hurt. So much so, that she didn't keep reading the conversation history and shoved the phone towards me. She knew I had cheated but not that it was with an escort.
The rest of that day and night was particularly hellish (probably the following days and weeks too, kinda hard to remember now). I don't blame her, but it was pretty hard to take, the way she would be yelling at me, then ask a question, and interrupt to yell some more. I could not get a single word in. Also when I was feeling like the yelling was too much, she would tell me I wasn't allowed to step outside for a breather. I just needed to sit there and listen. That night when I thought we were going to "call it quits" till tomorrow, when I'm on the verge of falling asleep, she yells in my ear to start up again.
Sometime in the days after that, she told me she obviously didn't forgive me, but was feeling extremely horny. And we had the best sex we had had in years, maybe ever. (Apparently, that's a pretty common thing, maybe it's the cheated-on person feeling subconsciously that they need to prove their worth, and getting genuinely unbelievably horny).
At times, I was very tempted to explain to her that those texts were to an escort. Just because she assumed it was like an "affair". And I think, for many women, that's more hurtful than the idea that her SO just needed sex. So I kinda hinted around that, just saying things like "it was just about sex", "she meant nothing to me", and even "it was very business-like. We were just there for sex, no affection and nothing personal, it was casual." She was skeptical about that. I did that pussy-footing because, if I know her, she has the idea that visiting an escort is particularly repulsive.
We stuck together for 2 years after that to see if we could make it work. And we had some decent moments during that period, but generally she could always be quite mean to me after that. I would always be on eggshells and trying to make her happy, but I had turned her into a completely different person. She was suddenly pretty mean and crazy at times, and we never had sex again during those two years. It always seemed like we might attempt to have sex again one day, but I never wanted to pressure her and I just felt very guilty about how much it hurt her. And she would seem mostly disgusted if I tried to cuddle or massage or something, so that was our lives.
After two years, I was the one to finally end it because I realized we both had to move on. Pretty quickly our relationship became much more friendly than it had been in years. And we're still friends. I have a lot of regrets, mostly just how much my decisions hurt her. Another regret is I didn't make more of an effort communicating with her about how frustrated I was sexually. But I have to admit I've also enjoyed the about 3 years since breaking up. Been thoroughly enjoying meeting new people, had some great relationships mostly focusing on women who are into the "ethically non-monogamous" scene. And I'm still figuring it out, but that seems to be my speed for the moment, since almost every monogamous relationship I've had has ended in issues about sex (just either a lack of it or a need for variety). Thankfully, I think "ENM" is becoming more common. On dating apps, I find it's not a deal-breaker to say right off the bat that "I'm exploring ENM". Many women are into it and just very thankful for the honesty and willing to see where it goes.
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Well to be fair you shoulda just dipped or had a very serious convo about your sexual lives not being compatible. I don’t know your finance situation but if you depended on her for rent/mortgage or other expenses I can understand, but you both just dragged it on for no reason for far too long.
she got horny because she realized you’re a real man that needs pussy and probably low key always looked down on you for putting up with her who had no sex drive.
fwiw - I use text free and text now apps, delete everythng as I go and if the wife ever did see it - I would tell the her that it's so I dn't get spam calls and emails to my actual phone if she ever saw it. Lots of onlin stuff requires a phone number verification these days.
I delete everything as I go and you can turn the message and call alerts off so your phone never rings or beeps.. I also bury them within a folder which has 100s of other apps... Its also real easy to switch numbers and leave the old ones behnd.
A burner phone and you are screwed really. A friend had his found in his hockey bag and there is no explaining that one away. hard to have a reason that you need an extra phone lol.
Apps have ever been a problem for screening as you can often provide other means for their comfort but you can't have everything, if the MPA wont allow it then she wont allow it. I would never use my real number, it's crazy risky to me.
Best of luck to the OP. fwiw - you may be able to own it, come clean and move on. If, like me, sex has stopped over the years or you just have other wants - you may find her understanding... Good luck.
I delete everything as I go and you can turn the message and call alerts off so your phone never rings or beeps.. I also bury them within a folder which has 100s of other apps... Its also real easy to switch numbers and leave the old ones behnd.
A burner phone and you are screwed really. A friend had his found in his hockey bag and there is no explaining that one away. hard to have a reason that you need an extra phone lol.
Apps have ever been a problem for screening as you can often provide other means for their comfort but you can't have everything, if the MPA wont allow it then she wont allow it. I would never use my real number, it's crazy risky to me.
Best of luck to the OP. fwiw - you may be able to own it, come clean and move on. If, like me, sex has stopped over the years or you just have other wants - you may find her understanding... Good luck.
You a text app and password lock the app or get a burner phone and remove the sim when not using.
Sorry to hear about this happening to you and there seems to be a few good suggestions in this thread. What I don't get is why an SP would contact you more than half a day later without you specifically telling her that she could?
There's also the option of a dual sim phone. Gives you a real number, can be completely disabled when not in use, and no second phone to be found.
Thanks for all the feedback but at this point, it isn't looking good for me. I should have been more careful.
I really like the second sim card, it would be a pain in the ass to remove the cover and put it back on again and again but nothing is perfect.
I use the "burner" app in my iphone, password protected, no notifications allowed, no siri search allowed, no microphone unless I have to call the girl. I use a fake gmail account to login to the app and pay the app with paypal. I used to hide it in a folder now I delete the app along with all its data every time I am not using it for fun times. You can re download the app and all your messages will be there. But lately I am deleting all the messages as well and only leaving my regulars numbers in the contact list, which is password protected. Its not perfect, but its much better than using your own phone and getting caught. If your SO wants to snoop then let them as there is nothing to find. And if a SP ignores you because you are using a burner app, then that is her loss. There is lots of pussy for sale. I will never allow a SP into my real life.
I use the "burner" app in my iphone, password protected, no notifications allowed, no siri search allowed, no microphone unless I have to call the girl. I use a fake gmail account to login to the app and pay the app with paypal. I used to hide it in a folder now I delete the app along with all its data every time I am not using it for fun times. You can re download the app and all your messages will be there. But lately I am deleting all the messages as well and only leaving my regulars numbers in the contact list, which is password protected. Its not perfect, but its much better than using your own phone and getting caught. If your SO wants to snoop then let them as there is nothing to find. And if a SP ignores you because you are using a burner app, then that is her loss. There is lots of pussy for sale. I will never allow a SP into my real life.
I have never had an issue with my app. I can even make phone calls thru the app to book appointments. Maybe I am just lucky with those I deal with.
Can you give more detail on this...not a big time tech guy, but how do we do this? Where do we purchase phone and package? ....thx
You have an old phone that you don't use.
Get cash, of course.
Go to TELUS (or Bell I suppose) and get a pre-paid $25 ? per month voice voice only service
Prepaid, Pay As You Go Phones & Plans | TELUS
Try TELUS Prepaid with plans as low as $15. Get a free SIM card when you order a phone online, and pay as you go with reliable talk, text and data.
www.telus.com
Pay cash
Activate it, put in what ever name/number you want, good to go.
Load addition gift cards against the account number so it reactivates every month.
I've never had an issue with this as well. There are more than enough people using popular apps, especially the apps that don't differ from their mobile phone number.
