What to do about declining sex drive?

[mellowjello]

Page 2 and most people give the same advice

Eat well, sleep well, exercise and all that... but it doesn't take care of the mental side of the equation.

OP explicitly said that he doesn't enjoy it as much as he used to even when the physical part is under control.

This to me is very much psychological.

I used to enjoy going to clubs and bars, loud environments full of people in my teens and 20's. Now, I'm in my 40's and would rather spend time with friends and family in a quiet setting. I'm at a different stage in my life and it's perfectly fine.

I'd argue the same analogy can apply to sex. If one doesn't feel like having it, why do we force ourselves to behave in a different way? Does having sex very often validate something??

I've asked myself the same thing.
Nothing makes feel more alive and exhilarating than feeling really horny.
Even when I don't feel horny, I want to feel horny.
It also satisfies needs for intimacy.
It's the life force.

 

[johnd5050]

Mid-40s here... I can fuck for over an hour, but I have a tough time blowing my load. Can't get over-the-top... This is affecting my desire to have sex with the wife (when the opportunity rarely occurs).

I've been unable to see SPs since September 2022 due to a variety of reasons. I'm actually worried about my next session and being unable to climax.

You have something that most men desire, staying hard for over an hour. Makes me jealous for sure. Just don't think about it and enjoy your next session

 

[kherg007]

Chemicals?

Do you mean drugs like viagra or hormones like testosterone?

Because hormones most certainly do affect your sex drive. I'd go so far as to say that hormones are your sex drive. Not just testosterone but prolactin, serotonin, and other endocrine hormones. All of which are enhanced by exercise and adversely affected by a sedentary lifestyle. Getting a belly and losing sex drive by 40 for no apparent reason is a strong indicator of a sedentary lifestyle.

Sorry meant viagra etc. Testosterone will for sure work. But if not careful your balls will shrink and acne will hit you.

 

[Malibuk]

There's definitely a physical difference from when I was younger. If I see a beautiful woman there's just
no thrust to the feeling. I recognize she's hot but there's nothing (or very little) behind it.

When you are young you fantasize about possibilities.
When you get older you realize that there is no chance.
And you are talking about looking so of course the same old same old becomes boring shit to simply look at.
It is most likely that the right stimulus is simply not coming your way.
Would you turn down hot girls because you have no drive and desire?

 

[Robert Mugabe]

When you are young you fantasize about possibilities.
When you get older you realize that there is no chance.
And you are talking about looking so of course the same old same old becomes boring shit to simply look at.
It is most likely that the right stimulus is simply not coming your way.
Would you turn down hot girls because you have no drive and desire?

"It is most likely that the right stimulus is simply not coming your way."
Yea I wonder about that. my regular still excites me but has become very restrictive. I was very happy with her. Not bored at all. I would be very happy if we could get back to the hug kiss suck fuck balls to the wall we used to do. So not sure if my sex drive is the problem or the lack of opportunity to test it out. I guess I'll never know at this point.

 

[Adamxx]

It is important that you do not let it ruin your sex live / happiness, especially with your significant other.

We are all different, some , lose there sight / hearing etc no sight, earlier than others for whatever reasons.

A lot of good advice communicated. For my part, it look me some time to appreciate it is part of my journey, and make the best of it.

I do not use any meditation, as everything had consequences.

Now I enjoy having to take a long time, and has changed for the better, my approach to love making, and my SO, also adjusted.

Nothing can make you live or be the same forever, adapt and enjoy the journey.

 

[Darts]

On a related issue, has anyone had their semen tested?

 

[chickenriceandbeans]

On a related issue, has anyone had their semen tested?

Tested for what? Healthy sperm you mean?

 

[black booty lover]

Accept that you're not 20 anymore!

There's nothing wrong with not wanting sex 24/7 at 40 years old. Try focusing on quality vs quantity.

This to some degree has been an absolute blessing. 80% of my time/life used to be consumed by porn/back booty escort. Because my sex drive has declined significantly over the last two years, I'm able to focus on other things that I've always enjoyed but didn't get to because of my perverted hobby...lol. For example, instead of seeing an SP on my day off all the time like I used to, I'm now starting to play much more golf again.

That's been my experience so far.

 

[Darts]

Tested for what? Healthy sperm you mean?

Just curious.

• pH level: Whether semen is too acidic, which can affect sperm health.
• Semen volume: Amount of semen in the sample (in millimeters).
• Sperm concentration: Number of sperm per millimeter of semen.
• Sperm morphology: Size and shape of the sperm.
• Sperm motility: Ability of the sperm to swim toward an egg.
• Time to liquefaction: How quickly semen changes from a sticky substance to a liquid.
• Vitality: Percent of live sperm in the sample.
• White blood cells: A sign of infection or inflammation.

 

[jeff2]

I don't think it is possible to acquire a fetish. But that would do it.

 

[black booty lover]

I don't think it is possible to acquire a fetish. But that would do it.

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