No you don't pay if you're just meeting for coffee. I've had a couple of girls insist on getting paid for that and I just move on. And if you're in my position and have a partner, you meet very discretely it would be easy to run into someone you know and get caught.
Sugar Dating Experience
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Ah, ok fair enough then. If it's an unpaid just 'getting to know you' drink or whatever then that's fair enough. Sorry, I didn't know how it worked.
That's ok! It works differently for everyone. Interesting because some of the girls are on more than one sugar site.
One of the sites (i can't remember which one) you can "verify" your account by taking a video of yourself saying "let me be your secret" which helps to get a good look at the person before deciding if you want to even connect. And often you'll see really great pics and then see their video and it's like wtf not even close to the photos. But then some come up and the girl looks amazing.
Hmmm , not necessarily .... a minority take care of themselves and have good genetics.
I’ve never paid for a meet and greet. Be a gentleman and pick up the tab obviously, but nothing else. You’re both there to assess the situation and each other, and if all goes well agree finalize a $$ figure, time and place for the first hookup.
Agreed, always play safe.
My best arrangement was with a 30 year old single mom who worked her ass off and wanted no part of the dating scene. It was all about her kid for her, which I thought was pretty cool TBH. However a girl has needs
. The arrangement gave her some extra money to help with the house expenses, Christmas et…. and we were both getting laid once a week. (Wednesday nights was the kids dad‘s night) and she was more often than not horny as fuck. She had no time for other guys so we were pretty much monogamous for about 5 months. Even then we always played safe, her BBBJ game was on point but intercourse was always covered. Did I trust her? Yes. But only 99 %.
Never knew the details of the dance that is sugar dating until I read the messages here so thanks to the posters. I assume ads are very similar to traditional dating websites but with a different end goal.
For those that have concerns about privacy, what is the verification process as a SD for the sugar dating websites (e.g. name, income/worth) and how much information do you end up giving the SB? And there must be sugar dating forums similar to this that let others learn and exchange information, any recommendations?
Finally to counter the great experiences passed on here, any stories that went the other way?
For those that have concerns about privacy, what is the verification process as a SD for the sugar dating websites (e.g. name, income/worth) and how much information do you end up giving the SB? And there must be sugar dating forums similar to this that let others learn and exchange information, any recommendations?
Finally to counter the great experiences passed on here, any stories that went the other way?
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I gotta ask this...are you not concerned about pregnancy?This is where I can admit to being legit crazy. Ok stupid. I’ve never had any STD and I’ve been intimate with at least a dozen girls from sugar dating sites. Maybe 15-20 now. I’ve only ever worn a condom twice.But we’re open and discuss STD status before doing anything.
I met an absolutely stunning 29 year old in Hamilton this past summer. Went to her place, we talked a bit on the couch and started making out. Then got up and went to her bedroom, we’re the same height so it was perfect, off came the clothes, we kept making out and I pinned her against the wall by the bed. I put her right leg up on the bed and she grabbed my thick cock and used it like a sex toy on her pussy and clit. She was super wet and when I was fucking her standing up she kissed me hard and started to cum.
We had sex three more times and it was so good but a couple of days later she called it off because there’s that mental aspect of it all. If you’re a SP I’m sure it’s the same but you’re mentally in it for a job, whereas a SB might temporarily need cash and it’s far more of a choice.
I wish you guys hadn’t started gloating about your SB experiences. The sites are going to be flooded with simps. Sigh.
Each time you meet? Is there time limit or stay over a few hour? And I think seeking.com have subscription fee but didn't sign up for it. Now seeing this post may me wnat to try. Lol
I've had the best success with Seeking, but of course YMMV. (Personally I think Secret benefits is a waste of your money but thats my experience) All the sites cost $$ for the guys but at least seeking is a flat monthly price.
There is no verification needed for the SD unless you want to do it. I suppose girls would be more inclined to reply to guys with a verification but I don't know this for sure, and I can't see other guys profiles so I can't say what % of guys take that step. Personally I'm not giving the site any personal info for the privacy reasons you've suggested.
Re information given to the SB. I use an alias that I created several years ago in a moment of creativity/paranoia, and I use it on the Sugar sites as well as any messaging apps like Snapchat. You're free to share as much as you want with the girl once you're comfortable but honestly I've never had a girl even ask for my last name, let alone ask if the first name I use is my real one (which it isn't) I never let her see my wallet or ID (leave it in the car, and just bring cash to the meet and greet) Oddly the young women these days seem very unconcerned with their privacy, and I've learned way more about them through simple conversation than I'd ever give up about myself.
I've never found a Sugar Dating forum, but I'd be happy to hear if anyone knows of one.
As far as bad experiences, they do happen, and not every initial contact works out. The meet and greet cup of coffee or drink really helps with weeding out possible bad situations. Rule number one is think with the big head and walk away if you get the wrong vibe, no matter how hot she is.
I did see one girl a few times and finally ended it because she showed up to two consecutive dates hung over. We met on her day off and she kept hanging out with friends at the bars night before. She didn't get that she was getting more from me for a couple of hours in bed than she did from her shitty job, so showing up in peak condition to have fun really was in her best interest. So be it, lesson learned.
To be fair I think the sites are already flooded with them lol
You have to work out timing with the girl… I’ve met some and we’ve had car fun for an hour and some have come over to my hotel room… some for a couple of hours and one actually stayed the night because we were into each other and we must have made each other cum like 4 times and again when we woke up in the morning it was really great
Back in the day the term was AFC...average frustrated chump...
So in return it may be more cost effective, while a good sp may cost up to a few grant per night.
Just curious do you ever check their id and make sure they are old enough?
