I think the term is losing its meaning. I've seen women call men with wives and children incels on platforms like Facebook.
Are the two murderers that you referred to representative of incels? Are you certain you're not conflating killers with a subset of males who wouldn't harm a fly but who can't obtain companionship due to their own shortcomings (perceived or real)?
Why do you think they're entitled jackasses? Why is there a stream of venomous vitriol that goes along whenever you mention the term incel?
Anecdotal one off incidents dont mean anything. I have literally never seen women call men incels, until someone does something to deserve it.
The murderous acts may not be representative, but the internal anger, the entitlement etc., very much are.
A small subset of incels may be men who lack confidence and can legitimately be helped, but a large majority of them are just assholes. That is why I dont have much respect for them.
JP is the right way. Tate is the right way. Neither are pimps and both believe that women should be cherished and protected.
You cannot put JP and Tate on the same platform. JP is controversial, and although some of what he says is acceptable, certain other points he makes is just grift.
Tate on the other hand, is a criminal. Tate is the right way? What are you smoking? Running a webcam operation, trafficking women, stealing their money by telling them he is paying taxes, beating them, abusing them, raping them, putting up bullshit courses on hustler university and ripping people off, illegally obtaining multiple passports - this is the "right" way to you? And you wonder why incels cant get laid. Illegally making millions and having a couple of whores on each hand, is not success and should never be emulated.