Just because there is a genuine desire from your civi girlfriend does not negate the fact that you still pay to some degree. Desire or not being in a loving relationship is not free.
I think you are missing my argument. I’m not saying that a civi relationship is free. I already agreed with you that both seeing escorts and romantic relationships both cost money. My argument is spending time with a civilian lady and spending time with with an escort are two completely different worlds. Spending money in both worlds does not make it the same world. In Other words, just because money is spent in those two different relationships, doesn’t mean the circumstances of those relationships are exactly the same.
Also if you’re not in a relationship and you take a civi girl out, there’s no guarantee that she will sleep with you at the end of the night. If you have a girlfriend then I don’t see why anyone would pay an escort unless they really just want some variety of women who won’t get too clingy so they can go home to their girlfriends without worrying we will call them down or show up at their door step.
For dates, I may or may not be able to sleep with her at the end of the night. The main difference between between taking a civilian out for dinner vs taking an escort out for dinner is that for taking out a civilian, she chose to agree to go out with me on her own time and I am talking to her true self. With escorts, the sex is basically guaranteed. However, most escorts will only reveal a small glimpse of their true self to me. I will know nothing about their personal life no matter how many times I see them. Escorts may glamorize their appearance far better than most civilians for themselves but I see is a fantasy character.
I could text a civilian and she will use her
own time to text me back which feels good that I am worth a woman’s time. An escort won’t text me back unless I book an appointment with her or e-transfer her. That’s the difference.
I’m also talking about courting a girl you are interested in sleeping with. You can take her out to dinner or take her out on dates, pay for it all, buy her gifts and flowers etc and still never get to see so much as a nipple.
I don’t know any man who does this.
You pay for an escort and you can have an equally great time and get some porn star action by the end of the night. You go on the date knowing exactly what you’re getting from the start instead of hoping and wishing upon a star that you will get lucky. There is nothing wrong with transactional sex and the fact that this board exists at all and is still running just proves that.
At the end of the day, either way you spin it you are still paying for sex whether there is genuine desire or it’s a transaction.
To conclude, My argument isn’t “transactional sex is wrong”. My argument is simply romantic relationships and escort/client relationships aren’t exactly the same just because money is spent on both relationships.
P.S not a bad discussion
