AITA for walking away from a session after a mixup ?

[nerd7036]

This is my first time posting on TERB, and apologies if this is not the right forum for this. I will not reveal any details of the agency or the SP in this post.

I had an incall session scheduled in downtown Toronto with a reputable agency, and there was a mixup at the location which resulted in a no show.

I reached the incall on time, and the scheduler provided me the buzz code and apartment number, and specifically asked me to go right in, and NOT knock under any circumstances. Before going up, I triple checked the address to make sure I was at the right place and triple checked the door number of the apartment.

When I reached the door of the apartment, I tried to open it but it was locked. I felt a slight panic. Was I at the wrong address, or did the scheduler provide me the wrong door. I messaged the scheduler immediately and waited outside the door for a minute. After that I went down to the lobby, and told the scheduler that the door was locked contrary to their instructions. The scheduler asked me to go back to the apartment, and walk right in as the SP was waiting for me. I thought that maybe I might have not turned the knob hard enough the first time. The second time I gave the knob a hard turn, and pushed the door with force, but it was clearly locked. I messaged the scheduler once again, and waited for 30 sec. I was getting increasingly nervous, because the apartment was right next to the elevator, and people were entering and exiting the lift while I waited.

I then decided to go back down to the lobby and had a back and forth with the scheduler. Once again, the scheduler asked me to go back up, without addressing the fact that the door was locked, contrary to their original instructions. My social anxiety was kicking in, and I decided to walk away, because I did not want to be seen going back and forth into the elevator and raise suspicion. I had a previous bad experience in a non SW friendly city due to waiting in the lobby, and did not want a repeat. As I informed them, they told me I am blacklisted from the agency.

In all honesty, Im not sure what the right thing to do was.

TLDR: I decided to cancel after reaching the location because the instructions provided to me were not accurate, and I got a mild social anxiety induced panic attack.

Edit: After reading some of the comments, I think it would be ok to name the agency. It was @MIRAGE. It was on Friday, 19th Feb at the Front/Spadina Location

 

[Charlemagne]

This is my first time posting on TERB, and apologies if this is not the right forum for this. I will not reveal any details of the agency or the SP in this post.

I had an incall session scheduled in downtown Toronto with a reputable agency, and there was a mixup at the location which resulted in a no show.

I reached the incall on time, and the scheduler provided me the buzz code and apartment number, and specifically asked me to go right in, and NOT knock under any circumstances. Before going up, I triple checked the address to make sure I was at the right place and triple checked the door number of the apartment.

When I reached the door of the apartment, I tried to open it but it was locked. I felt a slight panic. Was I at the wrong address, or did the scheduler provide me the wrong door. I messaged the scheduler immediately and waited outside the door for a minute. After that I went down to the lobby, and told the scheduler that the door was locked contrary to their instructions. The scheduler asked me to go back to the apartment, and walk right in as the SP was waiting for me. I thought that maybe I might have not turned the knob hard enough the first time. The second time I gave the knob a hard turn, and pushed the door with force, but it was clearly locked. I messaged the scheduler once again, and waited for 30 sec. I was getting increasingly nervous, because the apartment was right next to the elevator, and people were entering and exiting the lift while I waited.

I then decided to go back down to the lobby and had a back and forth with the scheduler. Once again, the scheduler asked me to go back up, without addressing the fact that the door was locked, contrary to their original instructions. My social anxiety was kicking in, and I decided to walk away, because I did not want to be seen going back and forth into the elevator and raise suspicion. I had a previous bad experience in a non SW friendly city due to waiting in the lobby, and did not want a repeat. As I informed them, they told me I am blacklisted from the agency.

In all honesty, Im not sure what the right thing to do was.

TLDR: I decided to cancel after reaching the location because the instructions provided to me were not accurate, and I got a mild social anxiety induced panic attack.

I've had the door slammed in my face a few times due to my skin color. That was years ago though, I primarily go to MP's now or a few select SP's which do massages.

 

[xmontrealer]

This is my first time posting on TERB, and apologies if this is not the right forum for this. I will not reveal any details of the agency or the SP in this post.

I had an incall session scheduled in downtown Toronto with a reputable agency, and there was a mixup at the location which resulted in a no show.

I reached the incall on time, and the scheduler provided me the buzz code and apartment number, and specifically asked me to go right in, and NOT knock under any circumstances. Before going up, I triple checked the address to make sure I was at the right place and triple checked the door number of the apartment.

When I reached the door of the apartment, I tried to open it but it was locked. I felt a slight panic. Was I at the wrong address, or did the scheduler provide me the wrong door. I messaged the scheduler immediately and waited outside the door for a minute. After that I went down to the lobby, and told the scheduler that the door was locked contrary to their instructions. The scheduler asked me to go back to the apartment, and walk right in as the SP was waiting for me. I thought that maybe I might have not turned the knob hard enough the first time. The second time I gave the knob a hard turn, and pushed the door with force, but it was clearly locked. I messaged the scheduler once again, and waited for 30 sec. I was getting increasingly nervous, because the apartment was right next to the elevator, and people were entering and exiting the lift while I waited.

I then decided to go back down to the lobby and had a back and forth with the scheduler. Once again, the scheduler asked me to go back up, without addressing the fact that the door was locked, contrary to their original instructions. My social anxiety was kicking in, and I decided to walk away, because I did not want to be seen going back and forth into the elevator and raise suspicion. I had a previous bad experience in a non SW friendly city due to waiting in the lobby, and did not want a repeat. As I informed them, they told me I am blacklisted from the agency.

In all honesty, Im not sure what the right thing to do was.

TLDR: I decided to cancel after reaching the location because the instructions provided to me were not accurate, and I got a mild social anxiety induced panic attack.

Can you think of any reason, including skin color, that the sp didn’t want to open the door for you? In that situation, especially the second time, I would have knocked regardless of instructions to the contrary. I assume this was a condo as at hotels they don't mind knocking, and don't like to leave doors unlocked.

I have had that happen to me a couple of times. When I found the condo door locked I texted the agency, and shortly after the sp opened the door and apologized.

I also have had a few experiences where I was sent to the wrong hotel room, and even once to the wrong hotel...

 

[nerd7036]

Can you think of any reason, including skin color, that the sp didn’t want to open the door for you? In that situation, especially the second time, I would have knocked regardless of instructions to the contrary. I assume this was a condo as at hotels they don't mind knocking, and don't like to leave doors unlocked.

I have had that happen to me a couple of times. When I found the condo door locked I texted the agency, and shortly after the sp opened the door and apologized.

I also have had a few experiences where I was sent to the wrong hotel room, and even once to the wrong hotel...

i dont think the SP consciously chose to not open the door for me. I think it was a mistake/miscommunication between the SP and the scheduler. That being said, I was in a very uncomfortable position. it was not a hotel, but an apartment. I did not want to stand in front of that door indefinitely, especially with an elevator next to me and people walking past me. I was also beginning to second guess whether I was at the right address or not, despite checking it multiple times.

I hope the scheduler understands that if they tell the client that the door is unlocked, its a very uncomfortable position to be in (for some of us) if the door is locked. It was double worse because I went up twice. My guess is that the SP left the door locked by mistake and was not ready or did not hear the knock.

 

[Sonic Temple]

Oh man - in this situation - especially as you went up for a second time, I would've left - no question. Not worth the risk for whatever reason. Hope you are ok mate - no one should that level of anxiety especially when you are there to escape from it all.

 

[massman]

You were not in the wrong. This was the agency’s fuckup. There is no way they should ask you to go up and try to get in the locked door a third time, attracting attention not only in the lobby entering and exiting the elevators, but to the other tenants you looked like you were trying to get your way into an apartment you had no business being in. Either they did not communicate with the girl properly to unlock the door, they sent you to the wrong address, or to the wrong apartment. After the first incident, the girl just should’ve waited at the door, as you were on the way up, watched at the peephole, and opened the door as you arrived at it. This is what most girls that I’ve seen will do, to avoid the knocking at the door. They should offer to rebook you with a discount. If the agency advertises here, contact them through a private message.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

 

[RLTF]

I've often received that intsruction: "Don't knock, the door is unlocked. Just go right in." And when I got to the door it was locked. After trying to open the locked door, I knock very softly and every time it gets unlocked from inside. Let the games begin....

 

[Darts]

I also have had a few experiences where I was sent to the wrong hotel room, and even once to the wrong hotel...

Yes, it happens. One time a hairy man answered the door. I asked for "Lola". He gave me a "know what you mean" smile and said "no Lola here".
(It was right room but wrong hotel.)
Barry Manilow - Copacabana - 1978. - YouTube

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Old prospector rides into town and heads to the saloon. Asks the bartender where he can find a hooker. Bartender says go upstairs. Knock on the door Room 21. So he goes upstairs knocks on the door. Voice says "what do you want?" He says "a piece of ass". Voice says "slide $20.00 under the door". Prospector does. Nothing happens. So after about 5 minutes he starts banging on the door. Voice says "what do you want?" Prospector says "I want to get fucked!" Voice says "what? again?"

 

[xix]

You should have done the following. Know or be aware where the stairs are. Go with elevator and get off one floor above. Walk to the stairs and down to correct floor. IF deny entry walk back to stairs , once in the stairs contact them again. This way you avoid people in the hallway or elevator and the lobby.

 

[xmontrealer]

i dont think the SP consciously chose to not open the door for me. I think it was a mistake/miscommunication between the SP and the scheduler. That being said, I was in a very uncomfortable position. it was not a hotel, but an apartment. I did not want to stand in front of that door indefinitely, especially with an elevator next to me and people walking past me. I was also beginning to second guess whether I was at the right address or not, despite checking it multiple times.

I hope the scheduler understands that if they tell the client that the door is unlocked, its a very uncomfortable position to be in (for some of us) if the door is locked. It was double worse because I went up twice. My guess is that the SP left the door locked by mistake and was not ready or did not hear the knock.

One time I went to visit an sp at a condo. "No knock" instruction from the agency. I could hear very loud music inside, loud enough to drown out a normal knock. I texted the agency, but no reply. I then knocked on the door with no result.

As I had seen the sp a couple of times before and got along fine I assumed she just couldn't hear a regular knuckle knock, so I took a Toonie coin out of my pocket and knocked sharply with that. She opened the door within a few seconds, said she didn't hear my previous knocks, and apologized...

 

[Darts]

Know or be aware where the stairs are. Go with elevator and get off one floor above.

Some stairwells have "one way" doors. You can get out but can't get back in. You have to walk down from the 50th floor back down to the lobby.

 

[nerd7036]

You were not in the wrong. This was the agency’s fuckup. There is no way they should ask you to go up and try to get in the locked door a third time, attracting attention not only in the lobby entering and exiting the elevators, but to the other tenants you looked like you were trying to get your way into an apartment you had no business being in. Either they did not communicate with the girl properly to unlock the door, they sent you to the wrong address, or to the wrong apartment. After the first incident, the girl just should’ve waited at the door, as you were on the way up, watched at the peephole, and opened the door as you arrived at it. This is what most girls that I’ve seen will do, to avoid the knocking at the door. They should offer to rebook you with a discount. If the agency advertises here, contact them through a private message.

They basically told me that this whole thing is on me, and informed me to not call them further. They did not even address the locked door, just kept asking me to go back up..

 

[Robert Mugabe]

One time I went to visit an sp at a condo. "No knock" instruction from the agency. I could hear very loud music inside, loud enough to drown out a normal knock. I texted the agency, but no reply. I then knocked on the door with no result.

As I had seen the sp a couple of times before and got along fine I assumed she just couldn't hear a regular knuckle knock, so I took a Toonie coin out of my pocket and knocked sharply with that. She opened the door within a few seconds, said she didn't hear my previous knocks, and apologized...

That's being prepared. Have the tip ready.

 

[richaceg]

Yes, it happens. One time a hairy man answered the door. I asked for "Lola". He gave me a "know what you mean" smile and said "no Lola here".
(It was right room but wrong hotel.)
Barry Manilow - Copacabana - 1978. - YouTube

or he could've easily said, "I could be whoever you want me to be, hun"

 

[Darts]

I really hate it when you have to pass through TWO doors in most condos.

The first door gets you into the lobby. You hit the unit number on some large keypad outside the front door. Then you stand there in plain sight and wait and wait and wait and wait for the SP to buzz you in. After 45 minutes she finally buzz you in.

So, you go to the unit and the fcuking door is LOCKED and you hear LOUD music from inside. The door never opens so you go back down to the lobby. Meanwhile, the concierge is suspicious of what is going on and calls 911.

 

[bazokajoe]

They basically told me that this whole thing is on me, and informed me to not call them further. They did not even address the locked door, just kept asking me to go back up..

To hell with them. Put it behind you as a lesson learn and move on.

 

[Willie Layer]

They basically told me that this whole thing is on me, and informed me to not call them further. They did not even address the locked door, just kept asking me to go back up..

Was this an Asian agency?

 

[MuffDiver]

They basically told me that this whole thing is on me, and informed me to not call them further. They did not even address the locked door, just kept asking me to go back up..

With that low level of professionalism, they are doing you a favor. Spend your money elsewhere, where you will be appreciated. That's the great thing about Toronto. So many agencies and so many beautiful women that we don't haver to put up with incompetence or BS.

I do wish you would out the agency however. They need to explain. There are two sides to every story and we're only getting one side.