6 years ago I had some success. I am a fugly chud, fat, employ/ed/able but with some assets.
Granted most of those who respond were born in China but living here including the 2 I met.
I got about 20 messages but they were by those who looked 20 years older than my actual age [I look younger], about 10 BMI fatter or in some cases looked like dudes and also couldn't put together a sentence or use things like punctuation or capital letters. [My standards are higher if I am sending a message than posting on a forum]
I find the numbers on POF have gone down a lot. I don't try tinder because at least with POF if you find someone promising you can send a message and work the charm. In Tinder if they don't swipe on you based strictly on looks you are fucked and I know my strengths and weaknesses.
I find I become a victim of POF mentality. After a while I strictly judging on looks…. Looking for people out of my league… and ghosting perfectly decent people myself.
How I get treated it much worse then that.
I make a decent living, but it’s not a desirable job. The other people in my job make the industry look bad. Usually, most women ask what I do within a few minutes of chatting, then ghost me if I answer.