Is my life fucked?
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If you see an old guy tying his scarf to his wrist, buy me a drink. I keep spilling mine.
Yeah, but after hearing their stories, I bet your life doesn't seem so bad, eh?If your hobby is nature/hiking there are definitely plenty of hiking clubs around. https://www.ontariotrails.on.ca/hiking-clubs Pick one and join it.
Then make it a point to group hike for every 3,4 or 5 solo hikes. As for easy conversation on a group hike go to the book store and grab a book on fauna, another on birds and a journal. If you have enough money grab a pair of binoculars and a decent camera. Identify what you see on your solo hikes and talk about it on the group hikes. You'll find plenty of like minded hikers willing to talk about you've seen. From their you'll get pointers to other areas to hike, bird clubs to join, gardening clubs etc... photography etc...
Then make it a point to group hike for every 3,4 or 5 solo hikes. As for easy conversation on a group hike go to the book store and grab a book on fauna, another on birds and a journal. If you have enough money grab a pair of binoculars and a decent camera. Identify what you see on your solo hikes and talk about it on the group hikes. You'll find plenty of like minded hikers willing to talk about you've seen. From their you'll get pointers to other areas to hike, bird clubs to join, gardening clubs etc... photography etc...
I watch a shit load of youtube, mostly people doing things I wish I could be doing. That might not be helping.
It's to save face. They don't want their other married friends thinking they don't have a successful marriage.
It’s really surprising how some of the most happiest, joyful guys are just dead inside.
The original lecture is well over an hour. This is the condensed 10 min version. Worth the watch.
The Last Lecture is an academic idea that if you were going to die, what is the last talk you would give your students. Randy Pausch had pancreatic cancer and did not need to imagine.
The Last Lecture is an academic idea that if you were going to die, what is the last talk you would give your students. Randy Pausch had pancreatic cancer and did not need to imagine.
LOL! Very few of us are willing and able to show our true self to the world.
never really get the logic...never cared what my relatives and friends think about who I gonout with....
Probably not but marriage is a whole different ball game than going out. Especially a marriage that is failing.
Take on fishing...I felt starting it was a serene, hobby to be alone....it was, but along the way I have met a lot of great people through fishing...just be careful....it could be a very expensive hobby....all the way to buying a boat...lol...
I’m sorry but if you don’t believe in therapy I don’t know how you think you’ll ever get better. That’s what therapy is meant for and many different forms & some is free. We choose the path we are on & you can choose a different one if you really want to find happiness. I know I did and I am not looking back. Best of luck and I am really glad to see all the male support on here
Fishing aint a sport! 
About therapy. I don't live in Canada and healthcare isn't free here. I would rather save my pennies so I can change my environment as soon as possible. I hate working, I don't much like my family and hate everything else about my situation. So changing my situation seems like a better plan than changing myself.
About therapy. I don't live in Canada and healthcare isn't free here. I would rather save my pennies so I can change my environment as soon as possible. I hate working, I don't much like my family and hate everything else about my situation. So changing my situation seems like a better plan than changing myself.
It takes two.
You say your wife is boring, frigid and distant.
Then you say your social skills are limited, you are unhappy with your life, you have a decreased sex drive and do not believe in therapy.
I am sure your wife and children sense your disdain for your current life and situation and that could affect how they interact with you.
Your marriage will only improve if you BOTH put effort into it.
Like others have said, try therapy or counseling.
If therapy or counseling do not help, then you have to decisions to make.
