SB expectations

[Blackswann2000]

I had my first date with a new SB. She was reluctant to discuss the transactional aspect so I kept the donation greater to a diamond girl category of an escort agency.
After the deed, when we were relaxed, during the pillow talk she informed that after reading blogs she had a different expectations about the amount she will earn from such a life style.
We have been in touch but a part of me is reluctant to meet her again; maybe she has higher expectations which is steeper than I'm willing to pay.
Just wish she could be direct about it rather than me guessing.. this is end of my venting..

 

[GeeBee]

I had my first date with a new SB. She was reluctant to discuss the transactional aspect so I kept the donation greater to a diamond girl category of an escort agency.
After the deed, when we were relaxed, during the pillow talk she informed that after reading blogs she had a different expectations about the amount she will earn from such a life style.
We have been in touch but a part of me is reluctant to meet her again; maybe she has higher expectations which is steeper than I'm willing to pay.
Just wish she could be direct about it rather than me guessing.. this is end of my venting..

You are the decision maker in this arrangement. Be direct in asking what she is expecting and if you think it's worth it go ahead, if not then say goodbye.
It's a SB arrangement not a dating situation for a reason, no bullshit, no reading between the lines of what a girlfriend is really saying. SB means the good parts of a relationship (sex, fun, etc...) without the other nonsense. That's what you're paying for.

 

[wazup]

While I'm in no position to afford a sb, if she's not happy with the amount, it's doomed imo. One thing I learned from Thailand is always sort out the Financials ahead of time. The question sequence is as follows.
1. What's your name.
2. You freelance?
3. How much short time?
The number one rule of mongering is always sort price out ahead of time.

 

[Fun For All]

I've met some great people in this culture, some SPs I really like as good humans and I'd wish I got to know some of them better...at the end of the day, it's about the money.

 

[I'm Me]

Just by reading your post OP she even just gave me a headache.
Do yourself a favour. Trust your gut. Move on and let her continue on her destiny as a spinster.

 

[shack]

You are the decision maker in this arrangement. Be direct in asking what she is expecting and if you think it's worth it go ahead, if not then say goodbye.

When they ask me how much I am offering, I get them to go first.

When you get your nails or hair done, they don't ask you how much you are willing to pay, they tell you the price. When you go to the lawyer or dentist, they don't ask how much you are offering, they tell you their fee. This is no different. They usually relent and give a figure.

 

[jcpro]

I don't participate in the SB scene, but it looks no different than the SP. I woke up with a hard on this morning-not as common at my age- therefore I took it for a sign. So, I texted 4 ladies I follow on twitter for an around noon appointment for 2h/500. My usual offer is 3h/600, but it's covid time and all... 3 responded, 1 agreed on a price and Bob's your uncle. I don't see why the SB thing should be any different. The ladies may fool themselves that it's different, but, from where I stand, the difference is lost on me. So, get the $$$ out of the way first and drive a hard bargain, the money doesn't grow on the trees. Besides, I'm sure that these girls are juggling several SDs at the same time, anyway.

 

[Blackswann2000]

I don't participate in the SB scene, but it looks no different than the SP. I woke up with a hard on this morning-not as common at my age- therefore I took it for a sign. So, I texted 4 ladies I follow on twitter for an around noon appointment for 2h/500. My usual offer is 3h/600, but it's covid time and all... 3 responded, 1 agreed on a price and Bob's your uncle. I don't see why the SB thing should be any different. The ladies may fool themselves that it's different, but, from where I stand, the difference is lost on me. So, get the $$$ out of the way first and drive a hard bargain, the money doesn't grow on the trees. Besides, I'm sure that these girls are juggling several SDs at the same time, anyway.

Your usual is what I paid as well.. anyways, lesson learnt, just being with a civilian is what makes being with a SB so tempting.

 

[jcpro]

Your usual is what I paid as well.. anyways, lesson learnt, just being with a civilian is what makes being with a SB so tempting.

Aha! But, are they really civi?

 

[Davis]

You are the decision maker in this arrangement.

When they ask me how much I am offering, I get them to go first.

When you get your nails or hair done, they don't ask you how much you are willing to pay, they tell you the price. When you go to the lawyer or dentist, they don't ask how much you are offering, they tell you their fee. This is no different. They usually relent and give a figure.

This.

BlackSwann2000, you need to grow a pair.

 

[ScrubsFan]

I initially kept my budget at 200-300 and met my current gf then sb who was a model out in brantford. She initially wanted 250 until we kept hanging out, it went from 250 down to 200 down to 150 to now where were together. But majority of the ladies I've talked to on SA are down for a fwb arrangement with me for 200-300.

 

[Blackswann2000]

I initially kept my budget at 200-300 and met my current gf then sb who was a model out in brantford. She initially wanted 250 until we kept hanging out, it went from 250 down to 200 down to 150 to now where were together. But majority of the ladies I've talked to on SA are down for a fwb arrangement with me for 200-300.

Congratulations mate, hope it goes well for both of you

 

[AddilynCastle]

It benefits both parties interested in pursing a sugar relationship to discuss their expectations and limitations in regards to finances and togetherness during the first date. Perhaps not at the very beginning of the date, but definitely by the end.

At a salon or dentist office they can tell you a price because the offerings are the same for every client, but men who seek out a sugar relationship desire (and deserve!) to enjoy a highly personalized experience.

The person who self-appoints as the "decision maker" in this situation should be able to answer:

- how often would you like to meet in a month?
- what kind of relationship do you desire primarily? Ex: sporadic or regular dinner and sleepovers? Semi-frequent international travel?
- do you want your relationship to be exclusive?
- what are your sexual interests and preferences for their appearance? Will preparing for a sensual date with you require an escort level of preparation before hand (douching, stretching, waxing, fresh mani/pedi, having BDSM supplies at hand, ect ect ect)?
- does your schedule allow you to give them 2-10 days notice before you meet, or do you want them to essentially be on-call for you?

A person who can answer these questions directly should have better luck at receiving a direct answer about financial expectation from a sugarbabe.

From a lady's perspective though, it is not wise to "name a price" before both parties are clear about what they're agreeing to, nor before taking time to consider how that will fit into their lives.

To cover all her bases, a girl could simply tell you "well, for 20K/month I'd be happy to be hot and ready for you to call anytime, and to do all the sexual things you enjoy". This is absolutely more direct lol, but I don't think that would go over well.

By figuring out what you want and how/if they can give that to you, they may then get to a point where they could say, "sure, I'll accept $X per month or per meet for Y amount of time spent"


- Addilyn Castle