I would imagine that this type of single mom with 2 or more kids, especially if still school age ones, would also be financially strapped and if we get involved with one like that in any serious way, we could get into trouble financially.
Are Single Moms Worth Your Time?
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You can never tell her kid how to behave, she knows better that is why she had the kid, NO matter how correct, or right you are, It is her way and she knows better. Seen this to many times, years later I ask how is your Adult child, They try to avoid the conversation.
I met single moms that are straight, LGBT , that don't have real work, are Nosy, also Bossy and make Trump look normal, they only seek $$$.
In the old day before 1990, marrying one (single mom/dad) would last forever. But if you try that now or the person is born after 1980, forget it. It's all about $$$. Anyone born in the 70's is a grey area.
Look at ZOOM, that place is a psychological fest pool of deceit. But if you are good at reading people you will see the lies quickly.
I met single moms that are straight, LGBT , that don't have real work, are Nosy, also Bossy and make Trump look normal, they only seek $$$.
In the old day before 1990, marrying one (single mom/dad) would last forever. But if you try that now or the person is born after 1980, forget it. It's all about $$$. Anyone born in the 70's is a grey area.
Look at ZOOM, that place is a psychological fest pool of deceit. But if you are good at reading people you will see the lies quickly.
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And if she is hot with big tits you probably won't be able to resist rawdogging her. And boom you are now a permanent member of her club of misfits.
I did do it. And decided I didn't want the baggage, and to be second place. Don't get involved with the kids. Take her out, away on the Dad weekends. Beyond that you are realky busy with work right now.
We only calculate risks because we have something to risk. The less you have to lose the less to worry about.
And wasn't it dinner and a movie that led to getting her pregnant the first place??
Completely different calculation that women do. They know that 80% of men don't have sole custody. So women aren't worried about competing for the guy's attention [over his kids]. They aren't worried about financial responsibilities for his kids. The calculation that these women are thinking is, "how much money does he have left for me and how much of it do it get to influence."
If the guy is up to his eyeballs in alimony and child support, he will be as attractive as a high school dropout on CERB. A guy needs to bring money and resources to the table. She just needs to be slim with big tits.
Not true! I'm established and I have lots to risk and lose. I do realize that life is passing me by and I'd like to have some happiness and fun... I guess I'm currently on Step #1 - See SPs & Cheat.
Perhaps I'll be freeing myself of my burdens if I divorce and my wife gets half?
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Come on men dating a single mom is not that bad. Sure some of us had kids rather young but again it takes two to tango. Single mothers arent money seeking/ attention seeking individuals for the most part they are just regular ladies. It is true that a man will always come in second place behind the womans child...if he didnt then i would think something is serious wrong with the mother. Don't rule out dating a single mother because of her kids.. most of the time they are to scared to even bring men into their lives.
They are already made aware that society sees them as a simple hookup and whatnot...not people that can settle down into a steady relationship.
They are already made aware that society sees them as a simple hookup and whatnot...not people that can settle down into a steady relationship.
Exactly. Children come first always - whether they are yours or not or a random kid on the street.
Missing peace. I don't know if that was a mistake or a profound thought. If they are the one destined for you it's no difference if they are a single mom, a double mom or another guy. Try not to live your life wishing for better days...
Ive done it. and I wont do it again.
you will always be last. not first or second or even third. kids, pets, family and down the line you will eventually rank.
time is an issue. any time spent will be around her schedule which consist of the kids and life. if you like a patchwork of time spent together( just sex) great. however to put in time for a serious relationship she wont have the time, unless kids are in tow. then again the focus will not be on you.
some have money issues.
you will be expected to provide your resources to further her family(time, money and possible role model).
its a financial nightmare if you cohabit or even spend time with her kids. a single mom can have child support from several men(father, co habiter, someone who spends significant time with her kids).
as a role model and if they are not your kids you will not be able to discipline them as you see fit, since they are not your kids, the kids know it and so does mom.
living a care free lifestyle does not work well with a woman with children.
for just a pump and dump knock yourself out, but if you really want to build a bond with a woman go for a child free women.
women do make choices to become single moms. they choose poor partners, dont use appropriate birth control, dont utilize abortion or to adopt the child out. women have many choices but choose not to utilize them.
if a woman marries a man and he dies thats a different story.
I’m not looking to ever date again personally, but if I was going to, I wouldn’t date anyone with non-adult children. I don’t want to deal with kids anymore. I don’t do vacations where there are kids, I hate being stuck on a plane with kids, I’m just done with little kids.
I gave my time, paid my dues, did it all as a single mom. So I know the other side, but I just don’t want to deal with it anymore. And not with someone else’s kids. My own, different story. My tune will probably change if I have grandkids, but for now. No kids.
While I was a single mom, I didn‘t date until they were older. And I avoided meetings between guy and kids for as long as possible. My family was mine, his was his. We rarely mixed them.
I gave my time, paid my dues, did it all as a single mom. So I know the other side, but I just don’t want to deal with it anymore. And not with someone else’s kids. My own, different story. My tune will probably change if I have grandkids, but for now. No kids.
While I was a single mom, I didn‘t date until they were older. And I avoided meetings between guy and kids for as long as possible. My family was mine, his was his. We rarely mixed them.
Hungry for sex? Unlikely. If married men struggle to get in the sack with their woman of the same age, why would a single mother be any hornier?
Don't mistaken desperation for horny. She may jump in the sack quickly but it's because she'll do anything for you to stick around and help out or is just lonely..
Don't mistaken desperation for horny. She may jump in the sack quickly but it's because she'll do anything for you to stick around and help out or is just lonely..
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If you're looking for a strictly FWB or a Sugar situation a single mom is absolutely worth it. I got very lucky and dated an attractive woman 20 years younger than me, along the way learned a few things.
She got on a SB site for some extra cash and some adventure in her life.
We both found the thrill of meeting in secret added to the fun.
She had a regular, decent job and was not desperate for money. I helped pay for some extras in her life.
Her daughter was her priority, and that was good, she did not want a guy involved in that relationship and I didn't want a GF or kids.
We both were very firm upfront that this was a FWB / arrangement not a long term thing.
We only met when her daughter was at the ex's (shared custody) and I never met any of her family.
The sex was great, most nights she was just as horny as I was.
More than once I brought dinner and it got cold. She wanted to go upstairs and fuck the minute I walked in the door.
Worth my time? Absolutely!!!
She got on a SB site for some extra cash and some adventure in her life.
We both found the thrill of meeting in secret added to the fun.
She had a regular, decent job and was not desperate for money. I helped pay for some extras in her life.
Her daughter was her priority, and that was good, she did not want a guy involved in that relationship and I didn't want a GF or kids.
We both were very firm upfront that this was a FWB / arrangement not a long term thing.
We only met when her daughter was at the ex's (shared custody) and I never met any of her family.
The sex was great, most nights she was just as horny as I was.
More than once I brought dinner and it got cold. She wanted to go upstairs and fuck the minute I walked in the door.
Worth my time? Absolutely!!!
This the core issue.
If a man marries a woman and it does not work out, he is permanently handicapped on the dating market to the point where he has virtually no sexual market value. A woman's sexual market value to men is her looks, youth/fertility, submissiveness. So she can literally be a broke waitress with 2 kids, and if she is still attractive, she will be beating men off with a stick. A 22 year old man has muscles, youth, rock hard D, quality sperm, but has almost no sexual market value in terms of long-term relationships because he is not a proven success story who can financially provide for a family. As a man, you are only as good as your last day's work, whether it's on the job or in your relationship as a husband and provider. If you suddenly cannot provide, whether that is through injury at work, divorce/alimony/child support, downsizing, etc, your value to women is 0. I am surrounded by men who are financially crippled through divorce, or are in a loveless relationship that they would leave if it were not for the fact that they would be financially annihilated for life. These men have essentially zero value to women on the dating market, despite making $150K+ per year at their jobs.
