Just wondering. I was going to tip one of my regulars for Christmas. I gave her a chunk of change last Christmas and she seemed pretty happy. I was going to make a grand gesture and push the boat out and give her more this year, but it occurred to me that it could create a problem. It might seem somehow patronizing and over the top. I can't really afford to be crazy but I can afford to be generous. Once a year. She could get the wrong impression. It could be misconstrued. I am tending towards the idea of keeping it down to a dull roar, after mulling it over. Any opinions on what crosses the bounds of good taste? (twenty bucks or forty bucks? lol)
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Give her a raise, chump. If she is continuing to see you she's taking on added risk and hopefully she is having to be more selective about encounters. Can't be good for her income overall...Perhaps a gift?
The whole idea of tipping seems wrong to me. It's like you're creating a measuring scale for all future encounters.
But gifts can be whatever. You're not held to any standards. And on Christmas you wrap it in a holiday giftwrap.
Cheers.
What's a good raise? $20? $40?
I stand by what I said.
Perhaps if one feels generous, book for 2 hours or longer and bring a gift if there's a holiday. Tipping is a slippery slope.
I give "Xmas presents" and "birthday presents" of an extra $100 to my regulars. $20 seems a little on the small side.
I don't know why you would tip at all, she got paid for her services. If she wants more she can up her rates. Someone mentioned just do multi hours, i wonder how much sps hate multi hours and have to put on their best face that they enjoy them.
Maybe if she gets to get dolled up and go out for dinner, but a multi hour stuck in a hotel room with a John must be excruciating.
Maybe if she gets to get dolled up and go out for dinner, but a multi hour stuck in a hotel room with a John must be excruciating.
I have been told by my reg that she wants extra cash, not gift cards.
2 hours and a box of chocolates and you're good, the extra hour is one helluva tip and can make a massive difference this time of year.
Give her the same, if you were comfortable with what you did last year. Inflation is low. Even though we had a bad year, it is not incumbent upon you to make up the difference.
I think you're over-thinking this. Can being over-generous create problems? Of course it can, but it might also not create problems. I don't think there are bounds for good taste. Your comfort is discomfort level is yours and yours alone.
Thanks for the input. I went with my gut and gave her more than I did last year. Quite a nice fat amount. Didn't want to cheap out. She was very happy. Although I don't presume we are friends, but we are on very friendly and trusting terms. Chocolates and gift cards are ok for some. But most girls could use the cash. When it's not just for themselves. Worked out well for once without backfiring on me.
It's a fine line. But in my experience it hasn't worked out, either going unnoticed or simply creating more demand. I gotta be cold for my sanitys sake, lmfao. With covid19 one could make the case its much more appreciated since many are likely struggling. But in normal times, I think differently and the money isnt really needed and more than likely blown on Gucci garbage.
Most guys give nothing. 100$ is nice but it may be too much for a guys budget. 20$ or 40$ is a nice tip and a nice gesture. if she does 40 appointments between Thanksgiving and Christmas that's 800$-1600$ in tips. That ought to help pay for her Christmas.
Better yet, visit those mom and pop restaurants and patronize those places as much as possible. I am trying to make an effort to support these places before Christmas. Throw a few bucks in the tip jar. They will appreciate it. I can tell you this for sure.
