This hobby can get lonely

[Nut_Cracker]

One of the happiest times in my life was when I had a buddy to hit the MPs with. We'd drive all over town to find the right spots and after the session we'd drive home smoking a joint and comparing notes. It's one thing to read reviews on here and it's another when you get it straight from the horses mouth. The closest thing I had to bromance, the only dude I could share my secrets with while hearing about his adventures as well. Our friendship ended over some nonsense and i've never had another friend like him since. My other buddies aren't into the hobby and would much rather chase women, secretly date them and risk getting caught. Meanwhile they all want to hear the latest stories. Not sure why I'm saying all this but being at home during COVID has me on these forums more than usual and I started to reminisce.

For you guys out there who still have that buddy in your life, cherrish it!

 

[luvyeah]

How do you break the ice on mentioning "oh btw I pay for pussy!"

Whats the line of conversation that allows someone to comment or potentially open up?
Since prior you probably both fear anything being heard by the wrong ears!

 

[Nut_Cracker]

It can be a very isolating life for both us guys and the girls we see. For many of us it's like having a second identity. I've never had a buddy that I could share stories of this industry with. I just exchanged a couple of Twitter DMs with my favourite girl letting her know how hard it's been trying to get our schedules to match up. Because of COVID there are changes to my job and she isn't available as much as she used to be. I said to her that COVID frustration is a real thing and if it ever gets into the dictionary it will have my picture beside it. I should probably stay away for now all things considered and I wouldn't actually be tempted to see anyone else but her. She's working today and she must have some time to kill to be sending out DMs, because she doesn't usually bother with them. But I'm not in the area today so once again our schedules didn't match up this week. I hear you, though. All this has been making me nostalgic too. I even started a blog to write out some thoughts and memories.

There are so many of us in this city, it's interesting that we're all so isolated. Growing up I never had a longing to be with my buddies because they were always around, now that they aren't, these forums are one of the only places I can go for guy-talk. I actually went to an agency Christmas party a couple years back hoping that. other than having fun with the girls, that I could possibly make a friend. There were 2 Russian guys there and I found myself envious of their friendship... A few years ago I also left a job I had been with for more than 10 years because I had to see what else was out there for me. Now I have a job making 25% less than before and have gone into debt trying to hobby at the same pace as before.

My old buddy and I used to cover each other's MP fees if one guy was down on his luck. Boy... those were the days.

 

[xmontrealer]

"Loose lips sink ships..."

 

[Nut_Cracker]

How do you break the ice on mentioning "oh btw I pay for pussy!"

Whats the line of conversation that allows someone to comment or potentially open up?
Since prior you probably both fear anything being heard by the wrong ears!

I'll never forget.. We were hanging out on my balcony, smoking a joint and I said. " I wanna tell you something.... I sometimes go to massage parlours"

His face lit up as he replied "ME TOO!!!!" After that day we were Bill and Ted having excellent adventures!!

Other times I've tried to find ways to work it into the conversation. At some point as you're getting to know a guy the conversation will eventually turn to sex.. like if a woman walks buy and a guy says "Man, I'd love some of that", I'd say "ya? i know exactly where you can find that". I've met a lot of guys who's either admitted to going "once" or having a buddy who goes regularly, so it's not strange for them when it comes up. I just don't know how you can go once, and not go again unless you had a bad experience. But... I've tried cocaine once and never again, yet some people can't live without it.

 

[Sonic Temple]

"Loose lips sink ships..."

Exactly.

I prefer to keep this for myself and only myself. I enjoy these forums because it lets us express our thoughts and at the end of the day we live out our lives. I will take this hobby to my death or until I have had enough. Until then I will see you on the internet highway.

 

[Nut_Cracker]

"Loose lips sink ships..."

There are a lot of covert agencies who thrive on confidentiality, and I dare say there are more guys who keep the code than ones who break it. It's not easy to keep track of a large group of members but I'm talking about one friend. I have at least 4-5 of my buddies who know that I'm into this hobby and I'm not worried about "loose lips", I just want someone to "get on the rollercoaster" with me. I have friends who tell me about getting a BJ at the office but I can't say, "Ya, let's go to your office and both get BJs!"

 

[NiceToMeetYou]

I don't have a buddy here in Canada to share these "hobby" stories with in person. It seems to be a "no-no" thing in Canada to share these stories with someone in persons because of the taboo, social norm and risks to be punished / employment terminated by employers as unacceptable behavior outside works which they call "ethics".

However, in the country where I born and grew up, we as childhood friends AND coworkers at works go to to MP and brothel together. We can talk about this thing together with lots of fun, jokes and down-to-earth intimate details. It may be because of the differences in social norms, acceptance and behaviors between different countries and cultures. I don't say that which countries and cultures are better or worsen than the others. It just works differently in different countries and cultures. Over there, the LE will never bother us about this thing so there is no fear and liability to walk into the MP with my happy face in and out LOL.

Whenever I go back to my country about once every year, I always reconnect with my childhood friends. Many of us went to MP together whenever I visit my childhood friends and family in my country. We had lots of fun together and we usually eat meals together in a restaurant or inside the MP before the playtime. Over there, the MP is generally a big building with about one hundred or more of private rooms with big jacuzzi style bathtub in each room, a restaurant with occasionally life band playing music in the weekends. There are also a "suite" style with 6-8 private rooms in a suite so if we go as a group of 6-8 men to enjoy ourselves among friends in the same suite.

 

[Nut_Cracker]

Exactly.

I prefer to keep this for myself and only myself. I enjoy these forums because it lets us express our thoughts and at the end of the day we live out our lives. I will take this hobby to my death or until I have had enough. Until then I will see you on the internet highway.

To each his own. It's not like we're serial killers.

Exactly.

I prefer to keep this for myself and only myself. I enjoy these forums because it lets us express our thoughts and at the end of the day we live out our lives. I will take this hobby to my death or until I have had enough. Until then I will see you on the internet highway.

Once you've experienced that type of friendship with someone you don't have to hide yourself from, and who doesn't judge you in any way, it can be quite intoxicating and freeing.

 

[Nut_Cracker]

I don't have a buddy here in Canada to share these "hobby" stories with in person. It seems to be a "no-no" thing in Canada to share these stories with someone in persons because of the taboo, social norm and risks to be punished / employment terminated by employers as unacceptable behavior outside works which they call "ethics".

However, in the country where I born and grew up, we as childhood friends AND coworkers at works go to to MP and brothel together. We can talk about this thing together with lots of fun, jokes and down-to-earth intimate details. It may be because of the differences in social norms, acceptance and behaviors between different countries and cultures. I don't say that which countries and cultures are better or worsen than the others. It just works differently in different countries and cultures. Over there, the LE will never bother us about this thing so there is no fear and liability to walk into the MP with my happy face in and out LOL.

Whenever I go back to my country about once every year, I always reconnect with my childhood friends. Many of us went to MP together whenever I visit my childhood friends and family in my country. We had lots of fun together and we usually eat meals together in a restaurant or inside the MP before the playtime. Over there, the MP is generally a big building with about one hundred or more of private rooms with big jacuzzi style bathtub in each room, a restaurant with occasionally life band playing music in the weekends. There are also a "suite" style with 6-8 private rooms in a suite so if we go as a group of 6-8 men to enjoy ourselves among friends in the same suite.

You have to be choosy who you mention it to here. I wouldn't recommend mentioning it at work but It's never been weird for me to talk about it with my buddies, they even took me to one on my birthday and I'm pretty sure one or two got laid at my bachelor party. Canada and especially the USA is built on a lot of religious hypocrisy. LIke in the US if a politician is having an affair, all of a sudden he's not fit for office. Many countries don't take it nearly as serious as North America. In my opinion when you make something Taboo you just drive people underground but it doesn't go away. Do you ever pay attention to the large number of Massage parlours, brothels, escort agencies, independent escorts there are? COVID was the only thing that has been able to put a dent in that business. This means that the number of us on these forums are only a fraction of the men who are clients of these establishments.

I'm sure most of us have had these kinds of experiences as teenagers when you just had to tell your buddies about every single sexual experience. If I couldn't even breathe a word to my buddies about these activities I'm pretty sure I'd have less of a desire to participate in it.

 

[jalimon]

I made a network of friends via pm messages in forums. We do a few little 'party' with one or more girls usually every 2-3 months. It's all guys over 40 and with a good paying job. 3 are from the USA. The rest here around Montreal. We now have almost as much fun seeing each other then seeing the girls (I wrote almost ). We use Whatsapp to communicate. Beside breaking the lonelyness it really helps to get perfect reviews of which girl to see or not.

 

[New World]

One of the happiest times in my life was when I had a buddy to hit the MPs with. We'd drive all over town to find the right spots and after the session we'd drive home smoking a joint and comparing notes. It's one thing to read reviews on here and it's another when you get it straight from the horses mouth. The closest thing I had to bromance, the only dude I could share my secrets with while hearing about his adventures as well. Our friendship ended over some nonsense and i've never had another friend like him since. My other buddies aren't into the hobby and would much rather chase women, secretly date them and risk getting caught. Meanwhile they all want to hear the latest stories. Not sure why I'm saying all this but being at home during COVID has me on these forums more than usual and I started to reminisce.

For you guys out there who still have that buddy in your life, cherrish it!

I was introduced to the strip club scene by a person I befriended while while working in Sales for one of the worlds largest and most influential technology companies in 2010. We both worked at the same company. Before that I was not aware of the "extras" clubs. 10 years later we are still friends. We do reminisce about what I call the "rock star" lifestyle with the dancers.

I have learned you have to be very careful and choose wisely who you talk to about thus hobby both personally and professionally..

 

[Nut_Cracker]

I made a network of friends via pm messages in forums. We do a few little 'party' with one or more girls usually every 2-3 months. It's all guys over 40 and with a good paying job. 3 are from the USA. The rest here around Montreal. We now have almost as much fun seeing each other then seeing the girls (I wrote almost ). We use Whatsapp to communicate. Beside breaking the lonelyness it really helps to get perfect reviews of which girl to see or not.

See, that's what I'm talking about! I definitely need a higher paying job. LOL

 

[Sonic Temple]

See, that's what I'm talking about! I definitely need a higher paying job. LOL

Me too mate, me too!

 

[Nut_Cracker]

Me too mate, me too!

Maybe we can offer to hangout / go with these guys to the MP? They just gotta pay for our fun too!

 

[John Wick]

One of the happiest times in my life was when I had a buddy to hit the MPs with. We'd drive all over town to find the right spots and after the session we'd drive home smoking a joint and comparing notes. It's one thing to read reviews on here and it's another when you get it straight from the horses mouth. The closest thing I had to bromance, the only dude I could share my secrets with while hearing about his adventures as well. Our friendship ended over some nonsense and i've never had another friend like him since. My other buddies aren't into the hobby and would much rather chase women, secretly date them and risk getting caught. Meanwhile they all want to hear the latest stories. For you guys out there who still have that buddy in your life, cherrish it!

I really kind of get it. By complete accident, I met a guy who was huge into the SP scene for a long time. We connected well and eventually he introduced me to TERB. I lurked a bit and eventually signed up, amazed at the content here. Not knowing him very well, I was skeptical of some of his stories about the hobby, but then found the reviews he had written here. If even a fraction are true, he's been living a pretty charmed life until now. We shared a lot of information and stories over drinks, and I was grateful to have someone with a lot of experience to bounce things off to help keep me out of trouble. Now he's dying of brain cancer and is on his last legs, so looks like I'm going to lose the one guy I could talk to about this stuff. Really sucks.

 

[billie69]

Exactly.

I prefer to keep this for myself and only myself. I enjoy these forums because it lets us express our thoughts and at the end of the day we live out our lives. I will take this hobby to my death or until I have had enough. Until then I will see you on the internet highway.

It’s as if you lived your life as an American citizen but were secretly working for the KGB/FSB the whole time.
That’s what makes it fun, the game, minus all the bullets and stuff.

 

[y2kmark]

"Loose lips sink ships..."

They also provide an inferior blow job...

 

[Samranchoi]

Never befriend someone here again. Backstabbing douchebag. That is why when I had regulars I stopped telling anyone when someone asks who they are.

Overall, my life was a huge pit of loneliness but the last two months have been unbelievable.

 

[Nut_Cracker]

I really kind of get it. By complete accident, I met a guy who was huge into the SP scene for a long time. We connected well and eventually he introduced me to TERB. I lurked a bit and eventually signed up, amazed at the content here. Not knowing him very well, I was skeptical of some of his stories about the hobby, but then found the reviews he had written here. If even a fraction are true, he's been living a pretty charmed life until now. We shared a lot of information and stories over drinks, and I was grateful to have someone with a lot of experience to bounce things off to help keep me out of trouble. Now he's dying of brain cancer and is on his last legs, so looks like I'm going to lose the one guy I could talk to about this stuff. Really sucks.

That's too bad, sorry for your friend.

Nothing is ever that good to me unless I have some kind of outlet to express that to. Could you imagine going to a game with people who don't even understand the sport? What would men do if they couldn't talk about sports? There are more shows talking about sports than there are televised sports. That says something about us.