What's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?

[Coolsin000]

Hello Gentlemen,

I've been a member since April 2019 - I was curious to see what's your story for seeing an SP or being in this hobby?

For my story:
My ex-gf broke my heart on April 2018, we have been together for three years and three months. I've struggle to find another girlfriend for months, after several months without sexual intercourse - I've finally took the plunge to find a stripper to get a full service. After that experience, I learn to use Leolist, Discrete Connection and TERB.CC to find SPs.

 

[xmontrealer]

After 10 years my marriage became sexless. Thank G-d for mpa's and sp's.

 

[Fifi_ulla]

Ah the sexless marriage...I think it's the one thing no one ever talks about at the wedding but it happens almost every marriage - or sex once a month or once a year so the judge can be told she DID have sex with him and it was consumated. Then people cry foul when a partner cheats on them because they get sexual attention somewhere else. Been there.

I found there are too many golddiggers in the dating scene. Women I met seemed entitled and make their pussy a prize (and it really isn't). Too many games and I got tired of the chase. I know what I want and SP gives the girlfriend experience without the bullshit.

 

[jarhead]

I don't really need too, for me it is largely a combination of desire for variety and the anticipation of secretly being with another woman who is not your SO. Plus, a lot less risk than trying to have an Affair, especially when all UR interested in is a Booty Call (adult fun).

It does give U a warp sense of independence of secretly not being so dependent on SO.

 

[Jenesis]

I don't really need too, for me it is largely a combination of desire for variety and the anticipation of secretly being with another woman who is not your SO. Plus, a lot less risk than trying to have an Affair, especially when all UR interested in is a Booty Call (adult fun).

It does give U a warp sense of independence of secretly not being so dependent on SO.

Question;

Why not get married to an open minded person or just not get married at all?

Is the need for secretly betray someone that needy for you?

I mean this with no judgement intended. I am just really curious to how this type of thinking works with some people since I am the complete opposite. Secrecy gives me such anxiety that it is something I would never seek out.

 

[jarhead]

Kinda crave the secret side once in awhile.

Occasional Physical horniness are not worth the risk.

 

[ExoticCharmer]

1. I only hobby when I'm not in a relationship. I don't see a point in hobbying if I readily have access to sex.

2. I hobby primarily to have sex with certain types of bodies that I wouldn't normally find while dating. e.g., it's rare to find a girl with enhanced boobs/ass while dating.

 

[craig_hoxton]

Fillmore's ==> Oasis Aqualounge ==> Hobbying.

 

[Butler1000]

I occasionally line to fuck young hot girls.

 

[Hucknall]

I have Asperger’s Syndrome and for me, relationships aren’t easy. I just want to spend a few hours or even a whole day with an attractive lady. A little romance once in a while is good enough for me. Sadly, Ottawa’s scene has been a joke even before the COVID-19 pandemic. Thankfully, there’s plenty of SBs.

 

[yomero5]

I'm a man.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I have Assburger's syndrome. Relationships have never been easy for me either. So once in a while I like to go out for an assburger.

 

[anon1]

Because it's there.

 

[radius]

Question;

Why not get married to an open minded person or just not get married at all?

Is the need for secretly betray someone that needy for you?

I mean this with no judgement intended. I am just really curious to how this type of thinking works with some people since I am the complete opposite. Secrecy gives me such anxiety that it is something I would never seek out.

Well, a marriage isn't only about sex.

Your spouse is probably going to be one of your best friends, someone you can rely on and who is there for you and vice versa.

They might be co-parents with you of children.

For most people, their spouse is their most important business partner.

When you get married, you are also gaining family members.

It would be a shame to give all that up over some sex.

 

[Jenesis]

Well, a marriage isn't only about sex.

Your spouse is probably going to be one of your best friends, someone you can rely on and who is there for you and vice versa.

They might be co-parents with you of children.

For most people, their spouse is their most important business partner.

When you get married, you are also gaining family members.

It would be a shame to give all that up over some sex.

Yet people cheat on their partners all the time so to them sex must mean more to them then people they committed their life too.

Considering the consequence.

 

[radius]

Yet people cheat on their partners all the time so to them sex must mean more to them then people they committed their life too.

Considering the consequence.

I think we are having a disconnect because you are equating extramarital sex with cheating and potentially ending the marriage, while I am equating lack of sex in a marriage with potentially ending it.

I'm saying why would you walk away from a good marriage just because of lack of sex. It's better to just outsource that part of the relationship.

 

[Jenesis]

I think we are having a disconnect because you are equating extramarital sex with cheating and potentially ending the marriage, while I am equating lack of sex in a marriage with potentially ending it.

I'm saying why would you walk away from a good marriage just because of lack of sex. It's better to just outsource that part of the relationship.

Ok. I get outsourcing. That is fine. Nothing wrong with having your partner agreed to that.

It becomes cheating when it is done in secret. Something the partner left in the dark will say.

Again, no judgement. I understand the need for sex and think that partners who don’t want it anymore should let their spouse outsource it but facts are facts and for now, when you step outside of the relationship without your partner knowing, it is cheating.

 

[xmontrealer]

I think we are having a disconnect because you are equating extramarital sex with cheating and potentially ending the marriage, while I am equating lack of sex in a marriage with potentially ending it.

I'm saying why would you walk away from a good marriage just because of lack of sex. It's better to just outsource that part of the relationship.

Umm....cuz after 10 years it wasn't a good marriage in any respect.

 

[xmontrealer]

Ok. I get outsourcing. That is fine. Nothing wrong with having your partner agreed to that.

It becomes cheating when it is done in secret. Something the partner left in the dark will say.

Again, no judgement. I understand the need for sex and think that partners who don’t want it anymore should let their spouse outsource it but facts are facts and for now, when you step outside of the relationship without your partner knowing, it is cheating.

With all due respect, "eatin' ain't cheatin'"!

 

[Jenesis]

With all due respect, "eatin' ain't cheatin'"!

If that is what your partner would say when they found out, coolio.