Dating a SW, opinions.

[Lexi Laila]

Hey guys. I'm a new aspiring Toronto Adult film star and SW.

I wanted to come on here and ask what are your opinions on dating someone in the porn/adult content industry/ SW. Would you consider it? Would you date or marry a SW? Would it bother you? Would you ask them to stop?
I just want to start a conversation and hear opinions. All opinions Welcome!
Xox

 

[jcpro]

Ex-sex worker, maybe. A current sex worker, never. A relationship with an active sex worker makes a man one of two things- a pimp or not a man.

 

[jalimon]

In my 20's it would have been a no go. I wanted the dream girl. The one you are proud to show to your parent. So this is what I did that resulted in 2 beautiful kids but no sex for such a long time... I was dying inside... a divorce followed and never been happier since.

20 year's later no problem I would date you in a heartbeat. I changed. You see I realized over the years that for me love and sex are entirely 2 different things. Jealousy is not in my gene... I am not the type who "own" a girl I am the type who wants to "share" haha I was invited last winter by an escort to make a 3 some with her boyfriend. It was awesome. I would probably do the same with you

 

[Knuckle Ball]

I would date a sex worker. I would not judge her work as anything other than a “real” job.

Sex work is real work.

 

[Effie_White]

Hi Lexi,

you might want to check out http://titsandsass.com/ if you want some perspective on dating while working in this industry.

 

[shack]

This has been discussed/debated as many times as the rates that some SPs charge.

The consensus would be "Don't do it, especially if any money is still involved." No money is involved, it changes the dynamic.

 

[kherg007]

Did it. For a short time but distance got in the way. I realised lots more normal ladies in the industry than i thought when i got involved. Funny thing was first date was professional. Thus we knew each others deep dark secret immediately lol.

 

[malata]

don't do it for the sex cause it ain't gonna work. do it for the art

 

[Leimonis]

I would date a sex worker. I would not judge her work as anything other than a “real” job.

it's all good as long as you can listen to them talk about their day at dinner. Day after day.

 

[luvyeah]

Yes, one hour at a time; the GFE!

Personally, I don't think it would be a good idea, there are just too many fears.
And if the fears don't phase you, do you really care and is it genuine?

I would imagine it would be similar to a discussion with a loving caring parent, except much more complex.

Perhaps, I'm too naive, but I don't understand how I could possibly accept the idea that all the intimacy involved with sex work is simply a job and it all can be turned off and on with the flip of a switch.
Does this mean you don't enjoy sex, or a good portion of it and if so and only do it for the money, how is that healthy? Just because other professions are doing it for their paycheck doesn't excuse you, that is also unhealthy.

Is anything off limits to a client?
What is the difference between the relationship with your SO and a paying client like a regular?
Is it just the money, or do you treat the client better than your SO because they are paying?

It would be interesting to hear from someone who is open and willing to share their experience of dating a current sex worker navigating all the things that come with it, good or bad.

 

[lessjamie7]

Ex-sex worker, maybe. A current sex worker, never. A relationship with an active sex worker makes a man one of two things- a pump or not a man.

What kind of pump? like hydraulic? pneumatic? electric? diesel? gas? As well if you attain the status of being " NOT A MAN " in your world then, how does one define you?

LJ

 

[jcpro]

What kind of pump? like hydraulic? pneumatic? electric? diesel? gas? As well if you attain the status of being " NOT A MAN " in your world then, how does one define you?

LJ

What, you couldn't arrive at a "pimp"? Autocorrect plays tricks, sometimes.

 

[lessjamie7]

Hey guys. I'm a new aspiring Toronto Adult film star and SW.

I wanted to come on here and ask what are your opinions on dating someone in the porn/adult content industry/ SW. Would you consider it? Would you date or marry a SW? Would it bother you? Would you ask them to stop?
I just want to start a conversation and hear opinions. All opinions Welcome!
Xox

I sincerely think the best answer I can give you is for you to come up to my cottage for the weekend and find out for yourself. After all whose opinion would you trust more than your own? Certainly no-one here? Right? Yes I know I turned this around however the way my mind works I actually think the question of entering into a relationship is more about how you would feel about it rather than us. Admittedly I am presumptuous.

PS. I am a phenomenal cook and, would only date a woman who likes the smell of food on a BBQ, likes the bouquet of a freshly uncorked red wine, and who likes the feeling of hitting the water naked under the moonlight.

LJ

 

[lessjamie7]

What, you couldn't arrive at a "pimp"? Autocorrect plays tricks, sometimes.

Well of course I did but I am a sarcastic prick, and you didn't answer my other question resultant no doubt of your ADD.

LJ

 

[JackBurton]

Hey guys. I'm a new aspiring Toronto Adult film star and SW.

I wanted to come on here and ask what are your opinions on dating someone in the porn/adult content industry/ SW. Would you consider it? Would you date or marry a SW? Would it bother you? Would you ask them to stop?
I just want to start a conversation and hear opinions. All opinions Welcome!
Xox

Been there and done that.

Absolutely not worth the drama.

 

[jcpro]

Well of course I did but I am a sarcastic prick, and you didn't answer my other question resultant no doubt of your ADD.

LJ

My original post is not unambiguous, hence your question is of no value.

 

[Butler1000]

I think in most cases it can only work with two types of men.

A cuckold, or some one who is also getting to have sex with other women.

In the former case the you having sex with other men doesn't end. That's his thing.

In the latter case his having sex with other women doesn't end. That's his thing.

So it's as much about if you can handle his thing as well.

Personally I think the amount of energy, unless you are a true nympho, to properly service clients and still bring it at home would be incredibly difficult.

 

[Knuckle Ball]

What kind of pump? like hydraulic? pneumatic? electric? diesel? gas? As well if you attain the status of being " NOT A MAN " in your world then, how does one define you?

LJ

JC Pro has learned that gender is fluid and not a binary concept. His pronouns are we/they/them.

 

[curr3n_c1000]

Hard "NO" at this stage in my life. There's just no place in my social circle for someone in that line of work.

How would I openly introduce her to my family and friends? When my co-workers ask about my other half, what do I say?

Not the companion I'm looking for. Maybe if I'm divorced with kids I wouldn't care.

 

[curr3n_c1000]

In my 20's it would have been a no go. I wanted the dream girl. The one you are proud to show to your parent. So this is what I did that resulted in 2 beautiful kids but no sex for such a long time... I was dying inside... a divorce followed and never been happier since.

20 year's later no problem I would date you in a heartbeat. I changed. You see I realized over the years that for me love and sex are entirely 2 different things. Jealousy is not in my gene... I am not the type who "own" a girl I am the type who wants to "share" haha I was invited last winter by an escort to make a 3 some with her boyfriend. It was awesome. I would probably do the same with you

Exactly how I feel, but I don't agree with your second paragraph.