That flew right over his head. He pulled a Dartism.I heard a rumor that there are review boards where you can share your experiences.
That flew right over his head. He pulled a Dartism.I heard a rumor that there are review boards where you can share your experiences.
Seriously, there is no better place to have open and honest discussion of this activity than on a board like TERB.Not to brag about, but just to have it as a conversational option.
My two best friends are like brothers to me. I have taken each of them to Vegas for a significant birthday. I have lived with each as roommates at different points in my life. While they know I hobby it's high level like I said, a few photos shared sometimes, met a SB or two of mine by chance over the years, but no details or acronyms like you find here, lol.A dozen? At work? I can’t imagine being able to talk to people about it, especially at work. It sounds awesome to be able to talk to your friends about it. How prevalent do you think hobbying is anyway? My assumption is that most would just keep it to themselves.
Exactly!Keep your experiences within the forums. No need to tell anyone outside these pages. Thats how trouble starts.
It’s all hair & make up buddy. Any woman can do it and we are suckers for itGood experience or bad experience I’ve had several memorable sexual experiences that I wouldn’t take back.
These were with beautiful women. 10’s. Girls I admit I probably wouldn’t be able to date otherwise, but regardless I fucked a bunch of them. Seems like a shame that I have to keep it all to myself and take it to my grave.
I partly agree, but I think you and I both know that there are some who just clean up better than others.It’s all hair & make up buddy. Any woman can do it and we are suckers for it
Don't forget the tits!It’s all hair & make up buddy. Any woman can do it and we are suckers for it
Ex pua? How old are you? I think I agree with what you’re saying. Sex is a need. When it’s time I don’t want to have to act disingenuously/depend on someone.
You go long enough without it and you start thinking weird thoughts. So I look at it as an almost mental health maintenance. Which in turn helps with career development and social interactions.
Although I only have my own anecdotes to go on,I think I’m onto something with that. Though to be perfectly honest, maybe I’m just rationalizing and I’m full of shit.
Self proclaimed PUA are just that self proclaimed, I remember your posts about being a self proclaimed PUA and that thread explains fully the PUA mentality of thinking they know what they are doing meanwhile having absolutely no clue. You couldn't understand why the girl was upset.I think the post I wrote on back in 2015 (below) pretty much sums up my thoughts as I was transitioning from a PUA more towards MGTOW. And I started doing an ROI analysis and thinking if it was really worth it. As it wasn't a question of "manning" up as I done plenty of that, but whether it just made any sense anymore.
I think it was back in 2017 I had a moment of thinking "I've won this game, but what a stupid fucking game". As I remember it was the morning after with this Vietnamese girl and I stepped out on the balcony for some air. (Actually had to let out a steam whistle and didn't want to do a duch oven in the apartment).
At that same time I was seeing 2 other smoke show girls, a Korean and Taiwanese girl and lot else on the sideline roster. And then the girl from the night before came onto the balcony to snuggle up to me as she had just woken up. At first was like oh shit, did she just smell the gas I just passed? Then thought, ah well I already slept with her and now she is invested anyways. And the wind probably blew it away good. Then I let her nuzzle up my arms. And I thought to myself, so this is it. I have more girls than I can count in my dating life for years on and on. Add to that SPs gives through the roof abundance.
Yet as good as it felt to bring the best out of myself and get on top of a goal, there was a total emptiness. Realizing things only matter in our mind. Life is in our mind most of the time. And the only reason winning at the dating game mattered was because I hated ever being thought of as a loser. Yet I won and all I could think was "What a stupid fucking game". No more meaningful in the end then winning a Video game. Where the end credits say "haha, fuck you idiot. Just become a Buddhist. Nothing really matters"
OLD POST 2015 : https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/should-have-spent-my-money-on-an-sp-instead-of-a-date.537213/
Good thread with some tremendous insight.
I got back in the game three years ago and understand the OP's desire to want to share the secret with someone, especially after a mind-blowing experience. Two things I like about these types of boards are for the information on destinations, agencies, clubs, ladies, etc. (I'm from the U.S. and had no idea Toronto was such a great mongering destination before I learned it on terb, and I had a similar moment of enlightenment about the wonders of Tijuana, specifically the magnificent Club Hong Kong, from another board). The other thing I like is providing detailed accounts of my sessions, not only as info to others, but as a record of my experiences. I haven't hobbied in six months due to COVID but have occasionally re-read my reviews on another board about past experiences as a way to lift my spirits until I can hobby again.
But I highly doubt I will ever reveal this side of my life to anyone, even my closest friends, none of whom, to my knowledge, hobby (then again, they surely think the same of me, so who really knows?).
If you're married (I'm unattached), don't even think about telling anyone. Also, it's a huge mistake to tell anyone at your workplace, no matter how much you trust them. People love to gossip and sometimes after a few drinks at the Christmas party, lips loosen up, not just the vaginal variety. If you're known throughout the workplace as someone who pays for sex, that can't possibly help your career.
After my longtime marriage fell apart, I decided I'm just going to hobby for the rest of my life and live life to the fullest. No noise, no drama, no commitment, no hassle, no jumping through hopes to get what you really want. It's all business. The emotional connection isn't there (except for maybe 30-60 minutes at a time with certain ladies), but I'll take this life over the risk of being bent over a table again.